Our whole lives we are constantly looking outside of ourselves for approval to fit in.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiB4dsH2i_5UHBqybhUdGErD-4JsGIbgqQz0yIyvE15MBVtk4s8EGjWT_hpTG8TSrA1BYVSjv9aMtDWeHKzAhoVHY4xZpYWdhl43s_-UhExS99yc0SGCgiHWZaa5FgY0vufTsXFP8tpKxVG/s1600/2019+tenstage.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="805" data-original-width="960" height="268" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiB4dsH2i_5UHBqybhUdGErD-4JsGIbgqQz0yIyvE15MBVtk4s8EGjWT_hpTG8TSrA1BYVSjv9aMtDWeHKzAhoVHY4xZpYWdhl43s_-UhExS99yc0SGCgiHWZaa5FgY0vufTsXFP8tpKxVG/s320/2019+tenstage.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">Our whole lives we are constantly looking outside of ourselves for approval to fit in. This happens first a child - when we adapt to meet our parents needs so that we can get approval.<br /><br />Then, as we get older, it could be a group of friends, or adapt to how we think our romantic partner thinks we should be - or the opposite - we rebel against how anyone thinks we should be and we stand out by not fitting in.<br /><br />No matter how we slice it, adapting ourselves to fitting in or being a rebel and standing out – all of these behaviours stem from our thoughts about what other people think. And living our lives from the perspective of what other people think creates massive pain in our lives. Because when we act based on what other people think, we are acting from the place of a deficit, that is - "I'm not enough, so I am going to change myself to be enough."<br /><br />And this core thought has caused A LOT of pain in our lives.<br /><br />And this core thought has caused a lot of our pain in general.<br /><br />The journey is that through feeling all of this pain, we come back to ourselves. And we stop identifying with what other people think we should be, or we stop rebelling against other people - and instead tune within and listen to whom we really are - at a heart and recovery level.</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">Each and every one of us - and that includes - YOU - is a unique child. We have a unique gift. We are great at something. And life comes into balance and our fullest expression begins to be realised when we align with our true nature that of the child within rather than being a part of the herd or rebelling against the herd.</span><br /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><br />The journey is within. When we listen to and act from that place - we are trendsetters - we are unique - we are special - and ain't no one else like us is made.</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">And what's cool is when we start to belong to ourselves and express our child within - we put out a different frequency and, as a result, we start attracting and meeting others who are on that new wave length. And what's so cool is in doing so, we no longer need to chase people. When we belong to ourselves, we find who else we belong to.</span><br /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><br />The joy of living a Self-Approved life is revealed when we begin to allow ourselves to be ourselves - we accept ourselves as we are - we accept ourselves as perfectly imperfect and the inner conflict begins to die down. And our true nature emerges and The Ten Stages supports us in miraculous ways.</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><br /> <br /> <div> </div> <br /> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;">How can you start to live a Self- Approved life today?</span></div> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our whole lives we are constantly looking outside of ourselves for approval to fit in.

Our whole lives we are constantly looking outside of ourselves for approval to fit in. This happens first a child - when we adapt to meet ...

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Loving-Kindfulness a sense of Compassion and goodness

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjp45KfGWGIJd4N8rlrOvvX7iJS04U55reTbJ2oTj78y9vQYvYc3Imro9j0EQiieFIEF77ZNEjCNvecI9w7ncct0gMabpN-GmL5QGPiiJFcNuP6lrn5hWNmEowwVNumHDRECfsyhMgJkbwi/s1600/visionary+child+within+22.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="540" data-original-width="960" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjp45KfGWGIJd4N8rlrOvvX7iJS04U55reTbJ2oTj78y9vQYvYc3Imro9j0EQiieFIEF77ZNEjCNvecI9w7ncct0gMabpN-GmL5QGPiiJFcNuP6lrn5hWNmEowwVNumHDRECfsyhMgJkbwi/s320/visionary+child+within+22.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Can compassion, that sense of goodness, that feeling of the sacredness of life about can that feeling be brought into being through compulsion? Surely, when there is compulsion in any form, when there is propaganda or moralising, there is no compassion, nor is there compassion when change is brought about merely through seeing the necessity of meeting the technological challenge in such a way that human beings will remain human beings and not become machines. So there must be a change without any causation. A change that is brought about through causation is not compassion; it is merely a thing of the market place. So that is one problem.<br /><br />Another problem is: if I change, how will it affect society? Or am I not concerned with that at all? Because the vast majority of people are not interested in what we are talking about—nor are you if you listen out of curiosity or some kind of impulse, and pass by. The machines are progressing so rapidly that most human beings are merely pushed along and are not capable of meeting life with the enrichment of love, with compassion, with deep thought. And if I change, how will it affect society, which is my relationship with you? Society is not some extraordinary mythical entity; it is our relationship with each other, and if two or three of us change, how will it affect the rest of the world? Or is there a way of affecting the total mind of man?<br /><br />That is, there is a process by which the individual who is changed can touch the unconscious of man? Loving-Kindfulness.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Loving-Kindfulness a sense of Compassion and goodness

Can compassion, that sense of goodness, that feeling of the sacredness of life about can that feeling be brought into being through compul...

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2019 OUR LIGHTENING UP AND Throwing Back dissociation meditation weekly session.

<br /> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> </div> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhDWmDCsUry7_H9ztdt2ijQI0ZjfciCC1LoU0F8ArNWnW_hJ5e_bEpn2WJiBP385aYBkbiQsklUC-EKkBtgvnFbgTWIVu83-Ufhjsbr44opg892Ml4jqdsJ_FzoK5NpcoNbCVIy-AGKKWG-/s1600/2019+tenstage.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="805" data-original-width="960" height="268" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhDWmDCsUry7_H9ztdt2ijQI0ZjfciCC1LoU0F8ArNWnW_hJ5e_bEpn2WJiBP385aYBkbiQsklUC-EKkBtgvnFbgTWIVu83-Ufhjsbr44opg892Ml4jqdsJ_FzoK5NpcoNbCVIy-AGKKWG-/s320/2019+tenstage.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">2019 OUR LIGHTENING UP AND Throwing Back dissociation meditation weekly session.<br /><br />  We will find freedom for our mind today…<br /><br />Freedom to respect who we are …<br /><br />Freedom to respect ourselves just as we are…<br /><br />Freedom to pursue all of our newly found realities...<br /><br />Freedom to let go of any situations that may hold us back from stepping into our realised Purpose...<br /><br />May we build even more confidence in our unique gifts (even if we aren’t 100% sure what they are at present)...<br /><br />May we have the courage to trust the whispers from our intuition and take the next step with the Faith and Knowing that everything is working out for our best interest…<br /><br />May we forgive anyone who has hurt us in the past, because as we forgive, we are set free to create a bright, beautiful and wonderful future…<br /><br />May we speak up today and let our needs be known…<br /><br />We have a strong and powerful voice, may we use it today in the service of truth trust and consent.<br /><br />And finally, may we know that it is not selfish for us to live our compassionate realised reality…<br /><br />And that as we live our reality each and every day, We will be able to provide even more and create true abundance in all of our lives…<br /><br />May we follow through on all of our highest meditation intentions and make daily progress in pursuing our highest goals…<br /><br />For as we do, we will be met with success and victory in the unexpected hours of our recovery…Lightening up our lives and throwing back our dissociations.</span></div> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

2019 OUR LIGHTENING UP AND Throwing Back dissociation meditation weekly session.

2019 OUR LIGHTENING UP AND Throwing Back dissociation meditation weekly session.   We will find freedom for our mind today… Freedom t...

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Ten Stages of our Traumatic history is not what happened to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an compassionate witness.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgovPaYrPGXE40sBh3txuqzUhhgV1oltOiuMR_55Kmpw78tk5mRI2BmysDMJcIifYPtQK-5CaSyF_tSTxy_mjFpBakXXLqw_i-vm3U_bUwi66K_5lLn-9UgjVyvSjJBm-_LDG3Kddpi1B7y/s1600/10stagecoda.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="805" data-original-width="960" height="268" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgovPaYrPGXE40sBh3txuqzUhhgV1oltOiuMR_55Kmpw78tk5mRI2BmysDMJcIifYPtQK-5CaSyF_tSTxy_mjFpBakXXLqw_i-vm3U_bUwi66K_5lLn-9UgjVyvSjJBm-_LDG3Kddpi1B7y/s320/10stagecoda.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Ten Stages of our Traumatic history is not what happened to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an compassionate witness.<br /><br />we know that the automatic defences to trauma is an isolation and dissociation response from our Child Within.<br /><br />This is why so many survivors don’t come forward, or come forward decades later.<br /><br />We go into a freeze and dissociation response automatically defending ourself through remaining withdrawn and dissociated.<br /><br />This is where trauma really takes it’s hold on survivors, when it is not shared and held alone for years or decades.<br /><br />Trauma impacts our life, health, family, relationships. <br /><br />Truth Trust and consent in gentle relationship with others is how we heal. Being an empathetic witness to our trauma is key. Meditation with others who are empathetic witnesses is key.</span><div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

Ten Stages of our Traumatic history is not what happened to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an compassionate witness.

Ten Stages of our Traumatic history is not what happened to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an compassionate witness. we kno...

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The hardest part of our Loving-Kindfulness we have to re-learn is accepting wherever we are at in the moment no matter how uncomfortable.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiDqkk7AL0h-49rFn577Z9reFgTHhOOryzceMNd8CTfCPtcSoZOuvP3tngstBpWeKMWNLnfYBY21ICyjVUOCCYbCI2LN0xxiFqImPBplaBuCNTaE1FiArVLpGjxD-D1kwnAtbdAzSBEgb74/s1600/tenstages+wordpress.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="960" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiDqkk7AL0h-49rFn577Z9reFgTHhOOryzceMNd8CTfCPtcSoZOuvP3tngstBpWeKMWNLnfYBY21ICyjVUOCCYbCI2LN0xxiFqImPBplaBuCNTaE1FiArVLpGjxD-D1kwnAtbdAzSBEgb74/s320/tenstages+wordpress.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"> The hardest part of acceptance is not the difficulty of allowing others their process ; it is allowing ourselves our own process without shame and judgment.<br /><br />We can do that now most of the time. We know now that when it feels like shame it is not punishment, it is not because we are bad or wrong or defective that critical parent voice that wants me to buy into that is totally wrong.Drop into our new wordpress site <a href="http://www.tenstage.wordpress.com/">www.tenstage.wordpress.com</a><br /></span>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The hardest part of our Loving-Kindfulness we have to re-learn is accepting wherever we are at in the moment no matter how uncomfortable.

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We have to start building a practice of meditation using the magnificent tool that is our mind to start reprogramming the part of our us that has become our own worst enemy.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhp4IjJ8eHu4LizL3oy4Xim-2Dl6LwcpOHaz0PK1LNj4L-NnDPfjF0h9uBBtiKFQb4dopGWNKUz4TM4Kc6TEB3tCAP7M96SczzThxCmlzbq_AwtEfhS0sDSsSE6sCJKsaETPQPjFZq09oqE/s1600/tenstages+help.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="540" data-original-width="960" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhp4IjJ8eHu4LizL3oy4Xim-2Dl6LwcpOHaz0PK1LNj4L-NnDPfjF0h9uBBtiKFQb4dopGWNKUz4TM4Kc6TEB3tCAP7M96SczzThxCmlzbq_AwtEfhS0sDSsSE6sCJKsaETPQPjFZq09oqE/s320/tenstages+help.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhFtCgPjAuY6340sOoQajKJlCpGyMHykeQX-IUjxlImGUfWyz92Zm2B5ly0pesSumrVeniaLf07QfpmR0GhML3qNhH_Fx9QvU0Td4_nLj3fgMesQW2cmMm809fso3P_M9EvwY-WouDYlRSJ/s1600/IMG_5042.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="789" data-original-width="940" height="268" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhFtCgPjAuY6340sOoQajKJlCpGyMHykeQX-IUjxlImGUfWyz92Zm2B5ly0pesSumrVeniaLf07QfpmR0GhML3qNhH_Fx9QvU0Td4_nLj3fgMesQW2cmMm809fso3P_M9EvwY-WouDYlRSJ/s320/IMG_5042.png" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We have to start building a practice of meditation using the magnificent tool that is our mind to start reprogramming the part of our us that has become our own worst enemy. Then we can start counteracting all shaming messages with positive child within messages. Positive affirmations are a very important tool in this process. The reality of our codependency is that we are programmed to negatively affirm ourselves hundreds of times a day - and that is on a good day, on a "bad" one we can get into the thousands. We need to stop empowering the negative programming and start choosing to introduce positive programming into our own internal process. This is one of the ways that we start relating to our self in a more Loving way." - shutting up the critical voice that destroys our child within.</span><div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

We have to start building a practice of meditation using the magnificent tool that is our mind to start reprogramming the part of our us that has become our own worst enemy.

We have to start building a practice of meditation using the magnificent tool that is our mind to start reprogramming the part of our u...

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In order repair the victimisation of our self and our dissociation it is vital to start setting boundaries with our critical parent voice

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg0KR4iphqCv1P805nJMjzZWzWz8jNzzdT3CGx2Vb_Vop5CyK6CNahaswjXRoJSSAyqLXYgDJL-y7VtCWuotx1SB3AzApXnv9QURB5XxsyYzy2-g_DdGTlye17Byf7WJRXxxXcZCjuycNzH/s1600/IMG_5042.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="789" data-original-width="940" height="268" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg0KR4iphqCv1P805nJMjzZWzWz8jNzzdT3CGx2Vb_Vop5CyK6CNahaswjXRoJSSAyqLXYgDJL-y7VtCWuotx1SB3AzApXnv9QURB5XxsyYzy2-g_DdGTlye17Byf7WJRXxxXcZCjuycNzH/s320/IMG_5042.png" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">In order repair the victimisation of our self and our dissociation it is vital to start setting boundaries with our critical parent voice - to start learning how to stop the child within constant abuse of disrespect that is part of the dissociation dynamic. Recognising that it is not telling us the whole truth, that it is the result of faulty programming and polarised family perspectives, is the first stage to starting to see that the critical parent voice is not an inherent part of our being. It is not an integral component of who we are - it is a part of us that was created by programming and shaming, it is a part of us that we can have recognise, that we will change by acknowledging our Child Within.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

In order repair the victimisation of our self and our dissociation it is vital to start setting boundaries with our critical parent voice

In order repair the victimisation of our self and our dissociation it is vital to start setting boundaries with our critical parent voice ...

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We have attracted into our lives those who will perfectly push our dissociation buttons for us.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiMNa3HY1PcB12WwWCxAjOodbEp6pk4McNTugPI4hpvVRaYgwJF16Xczi5cPE9iIyFllHM3QghXx_Dpy7FNXKxgVarbRb6gvO_KzQSLSvx9un2za9xAASCC1XcQSXbJG_sIncLrP1xk45IG/s1600/tenstages+help.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="540" data-original-width="960" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiMNa3HY1PcB12WwWCxAjOodbEp6pk4McNTugPI4hpvVRaYgwJF16Xczi5cPE9iIyFllHM3QghXx_Dpy7FNXKxgVarbRb6gvO_KzQSLSvx9un2za9xAASCC1XcQSXbJG_sIncLrP1xk45IG/s320/tenstages+help.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi0pl4Gq_uZw97njZ34pXexoLLMp2gltX-oOqjLcdpklxU3mH5Wjagbk2zVQOTp5RA4SbKmuQ0TE9sZo7UpuZ6qEPhU5FaJgSSX_rQuRDmqSNyL5zk9VD_3dmQqIPyYHdHOje4ODqXeQidJ/s1600/recovery+in+ten+stages.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="480" data-original-width="480" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi0pl4Gq_uZw97njZ34pXexoLLMp2gltX-oOqjLcdpklxU3mH5Wjagbk2zVQOTp5RA4SbKmuQ0TE9sZo7UpuZ6qEPhU5FaJgSSX_rQuRDmqSNyL5zk9VD_3dmQqIPyYHdHOje4ODqXeQidJ/s320/recovery+in+ten+stages.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><br />We have attracted into our lives those who will perfectly push our dissociation buttons for us. Who fit our particular co-dependency exactly. When we start to look at our lives as a growth process then we can learn from these experiences. If people in a relationship are willing to look at what is underneath the dynamics and acknowledge the child hidden within - then a magical, wonderful intimacy can result. As long as we are reacting unconsciously to the past, then we will blame and argue about who is right and who is wrong.<br /><br /><br /><br /></span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We have attracted into our lives those who will perfectly push our dissociation buttons for us.

We have attracted into our lives those who will perfectly push our dissociation buttons for us. Who fit our particular co-dependency ex...

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It is important for us to start recognising that any dissociated fear or shame based messages

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi0pl4Gq_uZw97njZ34pXexoLLMp2gltX-oOqjLcdpklxU3mH5Wjagbk2zVQOTp5RA4SbKmuQ0TE9sZo7UpuZ6qEPhU5FaJgSSX_rQuRDmqSNyL5zk9VD_3dmQqIPyYHdHOje4ODqXeQidJ/s1600/recovery+in+ten+stages.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="480" data-original-width="480" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi0pl4Gq_uZw97njZ34pXexoLLMp2gltX-oOqjLcdpklxU3mH5Wjagbk2zVQOTp5RA4SbKmuQ0TE9sZo7UpuZ6qEPhU5FaJgSSX_rQuRDmqSNyL5zk9VD_3dmQqIPyYHdHOje4ODqXeQidJ/s320/recovery+in+ten+stages.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">It is important for us to start recognising that any dissociated fear or shame based messages, any black and white messages, any "should"s, "have to"s, "must"s are coming from our internalised critical parent voice. We can learn to start countering the shame based messages with Loving-Kindfulness affirmations, the fear based messages with Kindness based messages, the "should"s and "have to"s by affirming that we do have choices, that we do have access to our Child Within.<br /></span><br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

It is important for us to start recognising that any dissociated fear or shame based messages

It is important for us to start recognising that any dissociated fear or shame based messages, any black and white messages, any "sho...

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In learning to access the wisdom of the ten stages

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEionVNqUtCMR8ZfF8tThvthzvglhGQe-gRPye1yCIAlILwIUlNAZSPO0heAQzHikx7hX2wRjmATLgzJ50bAiT-vNtdVk7vBIWkhWb9EwJlfRl0CjLwfL5euJN-uFteuLaJm_zvc8u5LGlQV/s1600/recovery+in+ten+stages.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="480" data-original-width="480" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEionVNqUtCMR8ZfF8tThvthzvglhGQe-gRPye1yCIAlILwIUlNAZSPO0heAQzHikx7hX2wRjmATLgzJ50bAiT-vNtdVk7vBIWkhWb9EwJlfRl0CjLwfL5euJN-uFteuLaJm_zvc8u5LGlQV/s320/recovery+in+ten+stages.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">In learning to access the wisdom of the ten stages - the "small quiet voice", the voice of our Child Within that never speaks with shame and judgment - we can start our own internal meditational clean up program. We can learn to stop the toxic waste that is spewing out the critical parent voices that has been polluting our own internal landscape.<br /><br />We have choices. We have access to the power and wisdom of the Child Within. We can learn to cultivate Loving Kindfulness to our self by developing an internal defence mechanism, an internal "Child Within armour," to defend and rescue our shadow self our ancestral dissociation voices that program our childhood." - Dissociation Discernment - shutting up the pasts critical voices<br /><br /><i>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</i></span>

In learning to access the wisdom of the ten stages

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When we face difficult times in The Ten Stages

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhYO2ZgpeQniVjWfDkZzfUjIHiumEgeOchwc_RsaUBGlS_YiFLdAsoghnZcuzyMgSWkSf-qbsDS7vAiitR5iDGz6g5CCph1q4x6VyPNpuScsZl5vvNzwZp0egIKt6WDohAIfYqW6iFuAC0X/s1600/tenstages+help.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="540" data-original-width="960" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhYO2ZgpeQniVjWfDkZzfUjIHiumEgeOchwc_RsaUBGlS_YiFLdAsoghnZcuzyMgSWkSf-qbsDS7vAiitR5iDGz6g5CCph1q4x6VyPNpuScsZl5vvNzwZp0egIKt6WDohAIfYqW6iFuAC0X/s320/tenstages+help.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace;">When we face difficult times in The Ten Stages, know that challenges are not sent to destroy us. They’re sent to promote, increase and strengthen us</span><br /></span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

When we face difficult times in The Ten Stages

When we face difficult times in The Ten Stages, know that challenges are not sent to destroy us. They’re sent to promote, increase and str...

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There is a child within us that we are holding back? Is there a child within inside of you that wasn’t allowed to come out and be seen when you were younger, or even still today?

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinPEGZT2hrypIV52LAUxBeVEp24RPSsj-9a-NJbFZXklVQJ4Ryh6o82ZPfBEKl_q4Sl9SqBcLM4syd2CNNUpNuvAh83ZVA3-ajkyo5tf-nIVeRcslDzPQJD-o9yzVBY9L4rzBrh_TZDRCy/s1600/child+within+everyone.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="640" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinPEGZT2hrypIV52LAUxBeVEp24RPSsj-9a-NJbFZXklVQJ4Ryh6o82ZPfBEKl_q4Sl9SqBcLM4syd2CNNUpNuvAh83ZVA3-ajkyo5tf-nIVeRcslDzPQJD-o9yzVBY9L4rzBrh_TZDRCy/s320/child+within+everyone.jpg" width="213" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">There is a child within us that we are holding back? Is there a child within inside of you that wasn’t allowed to come out and be seen when you were younger, or even still today? Is there a way of being that if you were to actually embrace and step into would totally upset the balance of your life at this moment? Is there a passionate, eager, yearning child within you that is dying to come out? Let’s give that part of you a name.</span><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">What’s the name of this part of you? Giving it a name helps you get in touch with it.</span><span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">OUR CHILD WITHIN</span><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">This part of us was probably not allowed to come out as a child. It’s a part of us that doesn’t follow the rules, doesn’t draw within the lines, that likes to have fun, be passionate, take risks and step out into the unknown. This is our powerful Self, a higher version of you that is dying to be born. What’s its name? THE CHILD WITHIN</span><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Can we make a commitment to each other to let this part of our selves the child within run the show? Can we step into more of our authentic selves our personal child? Can we die to our fears, self-judgment and doubts and just let our highest self the child shine? It might be weird, uncomfortable, not what the tribe wants, not what society wants, but what of it?</span><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">This part of you is the energetic, alive, thriving being that, when fully expressed and realised is your child within, your unique expression to yourself, and this part of us comes bearing recovery for the rest of us to receive.</span><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">This part of us, when allowed out, is what will help to change our world. When we give ourselves permission to be who we really are, magic happens. Not someday, not tomorrow, not next year - NOW!</span><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Send your fear on vacation and let your highest self your child within out! What new actions, decisions and changes can you make? Does this authentic version of yourself have a new standard, new promises and new commitments that it wants you to make? Is there a leap of faith that it’s calling you to take? Do you have the courage and passion to step into this version of yourself your CHILD WITHIN NOW?!?!</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

There is a child within us that we are holding back? Is there a child within inside of you that wasn’t allowed to come out and be seen when you were younger, or even still today?

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2019 Meditational Tools:Giving up personal control of all these things on this list below.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiu65HIdQc60Ul7c6bC9chceuIKOBl7bSJI8FcOcx8uBPq66K9iMG_4VaC2XPzBoLnxWEUBbXyAb-zVc2xajYN0Ca8n19dT-ykHW0qhDM17zmuBWLnkxOM2ZKHZBdb10_XmyN-UyB1qW-fT/s1600/Lightening+up+construction.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="540" data-original-width="960" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiu65HIdQc60Ul7c6bC9chceuIKOBl7bSJI8FcOcx8uBPq66K9iMG_4VaC2XPzBoLnxWEUBbXyAb-zVc2xajYN0Ca8n19dT-ykHW0qhDM17zmuBWLnkxOM2ZKHZBdb10_XmyN-UyB1qW-fT/s320/Lightening+up+construction.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Letting go is about releasing control or the perception of control. Giving up personal control of all these things on this list below. Keep in mind... We are not shaming ourselves for thinking in old maladaptive ways. We're not reprimanding our self at all.<br />We're using our meditational toolbox of skills to remedy holding on and trying to control. We're using positive affirmations to combat our shadow self. We're using <i>Intulexia </i>thought techniques to put the adult parental voice in its place. We're also using meditative skills to just let the feeling or thought pass by; to notice it and allow it to be there.<br /><br />Respecting our self without having to act or shame ourself for feeling or thinking in parental voice ways. We are stopping ourselves from obsessing, from ruminating, from being a victim of all these thoughts that are the antithesis of our child within relationship.<br /><br /><br />We’re not shaming our self for holding on; We're noticing and letting go the best that we can, giving our self lots of grace. This is an important distinction. Non-judgement. Letting things be as they are. Accepting reality for what reality is. That is Letting Go. We invite you to let go of these things if you need to.<br /><br /><i>I let go of trying to make people understand me who don't have the capacity to understand me.</i><br />I let go of the need to be perfect.<br />I let go of my inner parental voice telling me I'm not good enough.<br />I let go of trying to impress other people.<br />I let go of trying to cover up my pain with substances, people, behaviours or activities.<br />I let go of ignoring my child within.<br />I let go of having to be right.<br />I let go of proving myself.<br />I let go of people pleasing.<br />I let go of the compulsion to put myself beneath others.<br />I let go of the compulsion to look down on others.<br />I let go of the need to stay busy all the time.<br />I let go of my false adult self.<br />I let go of the pain I've felt for so long.<br />I let go of the need to prove that I'm unlovable.<br />I let go of my fear of abandonment.<br />I let go of my fear of rejection.<br />I let go of my need to have someone love me no matter how cruel they are to me.<br />I let go of my need to have a perfect body.<br />I let go of my need to be accepted by those who are unaccepting of me.<br />I let go of my aversion to kindness and love.<br />I let go of living in the future or the past.<br />I let go of defining myself by my material possessions.<br />I let go of trying to prove that I'm right.<br />I let go of trying too hard.<br />I let go of toxic relationships.<br />I let go of relationships that are for show but offer nothing.<br />I let go of trying to get the love that I never got in childhood.<br />I let go of my need to please the unpleasable.<br />I let go of my need to be strong so that I can grieve.<br />I let go of hiding from myself.<br />I let go of hiding from my vulnerability.<br />I let go of hiding from my pain.<br />I let go of trying to get affirmation from outside sources.<br />I let go of ignoring my deepest intuition.<br />I let go of being afraid of what others think of me.<br />I let go of allowing myself to be shamed by others. <br />I let go of allowing myself to be shamed by myself.<br />I let go of the shame I feel for the abuse I've endured.<br />I let go of the shame I feel for the progress I've made.<br />I let go of the shame for my success.<br />I let go of the shame for my failures.<br />I let go of feeling like I am bad, worthless, unlovable.<br />I let go of feeling guilty for things outside of my control.<br />I let go of feeling toxic shame for my mistakes.<br />I let go of needing to control others opinions of me.<br />I let go of needing to give advice to other people without being asked.<br />I let go of feeling pity for those who are abusive towards me. <br />I let go of taking the blame for all the problems in my relationships.<br />I let go of giving too much in relationships.<br />I let go of taking too little in my relationships.<br />I let go of hiding my needs to make other people comfortable.<br />I let go of saying yes when I mean no.<br />I let go of automatically agreeing that others are right and I am wrong.<br />I let go of blindly following people without checking with my heart first.<br />I let go of feeling sorry that I'm taking up air to breathe.<br />I let go of feeling responsible for other people's feelings.<br />I let go of feeling responsible for other people's life problems.<br />I let go of negative emotions that keep me from myself.<br />I let go of eating to soothe emotional pain.<br />I let go of exercising to be perfect and accepted.<br />I let go of degrading myself in order to motivate myself.<br />I let go of judging others.<br />I let go of judging myself.<br />I let go of seeing myself as all good or all bad (black and white).<br />I let go of people who shame me.<br />I let go of labels and stereotypes for myself and others.<br />I let go of trying to get love from those who have no love to give.<br />I let go of allowing myself to be abused.<br />I let go of my old story.<br />I let go of trying to prove myself to people who are rejecting.<br />I let go of rejecting people.<br />I let go of ignoring my needs.<br />I let go of keeping the peace at the cost of my self-esteem.<br />I let go of pleasing others while abandoning myself.<br />I let go of the fear of anger in others.<br />I let go of the need to suffocate my own anger which is there to protect me.<br />I let go of denying my feelings.<br />I let go of ignoring myself while taking care of others.<br />I let go of taking care of those who can take care of themselves.<br />I let go of being controlled by others.<br />I let go of ignoring my truth.<br />I let go of being easily persuaded against my truth.<br />I let go of idealizing others.<br />I let go of the need to be in a relationship to feel worthwhile.<br />I let go of feeling unworthy of love.<br />I let go of accepting abusive behaviour.<br />I let go of settling for crumbs.<br />I let go of giving myself away.<br />I let go of allowing my child within to be unprotected.<br />I let go of shaming myself for my needs.<br />I let go of being silent when I need to speak.<br />I let go of being compliant when I'm being disrespected.<br />I let go of the need to keep peace at all costs.<br />I let go of what other people need me to be for their own benefit.<br />I let go of being exploited.<br />I let go of self-criticism.<br />I let go of ignoring my child within.<br />I let go of addiction to people.<br />I let go of people who can't love me for who I am.<br />I let go of the need to perform for accusers.<br />I let go of the need to over give to abusive people.<br />I let go of the need to comply with bullies. <br />I let go of the need to be controlled by others.<br />I let go of the habit of putting myself down for my imperfections.<br />I let go of comparing myself to others.<br />I let go of using outer circumstances to determine my internal worth.<br />I let go of ignoring my needs.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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Our life has become a mechanical life. It's not human, it's programmed, conditioned.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6YlWMhUeTR1SsnL4ObiFdQOSvLZJJixBMLme03YuLpDej1be_L5RCwpN_DHjOSuvUkuvsHhxwI5WHHUWj4lqcd3GCUciCj8CwGZWbR94q90UaDKvvMEkvksLbj84L1-kWoCHaeEgkCUDA/s1600/intulexia+ten+stages.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="960" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6YlWMhUeTR1SsnL4ObiFdQOSvLZJJixBMLme03YuLpDej1be_L5RCwpN_DHjOSuvUkuvsHhxwI5WHHUWj4lqcd3GCUciCj8CwGZWbR94q90UaDKvvMEkvksLbj84L1-kWoCHaeEgkCUDA/s320/intulexia+ten+stages.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Our life has become a mechanical life. It's not human, it's programmed, conditioned. We might as well be a stone, a block of wood. We can go to the movies, drive around in a car, we can go for a cruise. Do we think we are much better off than we are? We have become are just as dead as we can be. Just as much a machine as we are --  a machine nevertheless. That's sad. It's sad to think that we go through life like this. </span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our life has become a mechanical life. It's not human, it's programmed, conditioned.

Our life has become a mechanical life. It's not human, it's programmed, conditioned. We might as well be a stone, a block of wood....

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