As we continue with the ten stages we become aware our attitudes and behaviour

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_FP0suH55IEZXZSNxKYN26ojG4fVoZMNxEYDMxcaiSVAojRLm4ySGHL2zSUna1Xu0tEBWYCjD-UA5x28zG4QhnvbI2MD0siiVmdMvTP4mgkLZJmx0MurXCLFPEld90oBX-X8oIPsKooxD/s1600/loving+kindfulness+practice.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="960" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_FP0suH55IEZXZSNxKYN26ojG4fVoZMNxEYDMxcaiSVAojRLm4ySGHL2zSUna1Xu0tEBWYCjD-UA5x28zG4QhnvbI2MD0siiVmdMvTP4mgkLZJmx0MurXCLFPEld90oBX-X8oIPsKooxD/s320/loving+kindfulness+practice.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <br /> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">As we continue with the ten stages we become aware our attitudes and behaviour, when we make mistakes we promptly admit it, trace its origin back, and take further action not to repeat it. <br /><br />It is easy to revert to old attitudes and behaviour. Often we do this in subtle and insidious ways. For this reason we continue to monitor the events of our day, moment by moment if necessary, to assess where we have become complete adults and where we still behave as a hurt, reactive child. When we discover that we make relapses in our life and fail to live connected with our true self, we treat ourselves gently and remember that this is but an eruption from our troubled past. It is not easy to change an entire way of life, but it must be done. Having learned a new way to live we trace the source of our misdeed or negative feeling to its origin. Our process has taught us that understanding our past is the key to forward progress. We discipline ourselves to avoid the people, places, and things that trigger old, unhealthy responses. We do what is necessary to continue on our new, constructive way of living. Healing meditation has become our lifestyle and through it we daily renew our commitment to a contemplative lifestyle. </span><span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

As we continue with the ten stages we become aware our attitudes and behaviour

As we continue with the ten stages we become aware our attitudes and behaviour, when we make mistakes we promptly admit it, trace its ori...

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We have to attract a recovered life that supports and encourages us to live with our child withins power.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgyLYHO2LndfJX1DkNLss80439mGkskj3mLj8bWJlFlfafkBvdZ-fH6Z5TtgfhePKmMfXZB-3mTCpUsJCNe-4ooJn9n620ywmVlHR7L7-WO4yZkkr3m4W7PcdEga5_xSHa1bbc50X_Y2cUI/s1600/Tenstages.com.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="960" height="150" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgyLYHO2LndfJX1DkNLss80439mGkskj3mLj8bWJlFlfafkBvdZ-fH6Z5TtgfhePKmMfXZB-3mTCpUsJCNe-4ooJn9n620ywmVlHR7L7-WO4yZkkr3m4W7PcdEga5_xSHa1bbc50X_Y2cUI/s200/Tenstages.com.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Why Sharing and bonding over our wounds only in any group therapy, eventually feels like we are walking on eggshells in our recovery. If we feel this way, then we can safely say we have not bonded over our power and thus have not attracted a recovered life that supports and encourages us to live with our child withins power. If we live in the shadows of an-others power, we have less certainty around what would possibly happen in our recovery.</span><br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We have to attract a recovered life that supports and encourages us to live with our child withins power.

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When we contemplate the idea that we matter, a wave of tearful recognition washes over us as we recognise and re-connect to our child within.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg-jssNnasZNFWUkPTx7c28cPlQMIBWxmCEZVeKBRFpHjgbxXyeo_qr83Xp10viSf1ZnFYZ4zJhD3D9msDukFxWjLnYaL1Qsv1CYrSvLqGInKKo-7a24sgsHrbBfcdY8D9hGyz8RTFYrerb/s1600/Tenstages.com.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="960" height="150" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg-jssNnasZNFWUkPTx7c28cPlQMIBWxmCEZVeKBRFpHjgbxXyeo_qr83Xp10viSf1ZnFYZ4zJhD3D9msDukFxWjLnYaL1Qsv1CYrSvLqGInKKo-7a24sgsHrbBfcdY8D9hGyz8RTFYrerb/s200/Tenstages.com.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">When we contemplate the idea that we matter, a wave of tearful recognition washes over us as we recognise and re-connect to our child within.<br /><br />We ask ourself, if our child within mattered – what would we do?<br /><br />If it mattered that we connect with our child within, what would we do?<br /><br /><br />If it were vital to make other stagers feel like they matter, what would we do?<br /><br />These questions change everything.<br /><br />Everything from how communicate with ourselves, to how are taught to the food we eat.<br /><br />It’s a game changer. And it’s crazy to think that after doing what we’ve been doing for so long that something so simple can rock our recovery world.<br /><br />We are grateful to our child within for helping us see this. And for all the stagers who helped facilitate the breakthrough.<br /><br />We excited for what’s next. To make you, our Stagers, feel like you matter.<br /><br />That is why we do what we do. We want you to know that you matter. Not so your ego can blow up, but so that you can show up fully in life. You can show up fully connected to your child within. And you can show up into full recovery for others.<br /><br />So, where have you not mattered in your life? How has this caused you pain?<br /><br />If you did matter – what would you do? If it mattered that you connected to your child within, what would you do? If you were to then set about making other people feel like they matter, too – what would you do?</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

When we contemplate the idea that we matter, a wave of tearful recognition washes over us as we recognise and re-connect to our child within.

When we contemplate the idea that we matter, a wave of tearful recognition washes over us as we recognise and re-connect to our child with...

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So that we don't live a life of regret, what fears buried inside our child within are we going to face together?

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjVqcR9V1RaxgoAT56lY4GzVl8WOZiiwRRbrcSVhZPGVZhqLnk0NzApjbUcipkCEAdWNr4eFKThOywtm9AUXz7fAmBEuavWiJWzNQmkbnPFdEbHFsFqtpmN3kLF5Os4_SAlLWx7SZ6WTOiP/s1600/recovery+in+ten+stages.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="480" data-original-width="480" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjVqcR9V1RaxgoAT56lY4GzVl8WOZiiwRRbrcSVhZPGVZhqLnk0NzApjbUcipkCEAdWNr4eFKThOywtm9AUXz7fAmBEuavWiJWzNQmkbnPFdEbHFsFqtpmN3kLF5Os4_SAlLWx7SZ6WTOiP/s200/recovery+in+ten+stages.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><i>Regret - one of the worst of human afflictions.</i></span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We dream of our recovery. we feel. We see others making it happen.<br />And yet - it doesn't work out for us. At some point, we give up.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We start to tell ourself stories like:<br />"It's too late for me."<br />"It's never going to happen."<br />"Be realistic."<br />"It's easy for them, but not for me."<br />"I'm not good enough."<br />"My best days are behind me."<br /><br />We've heard many well-intended stagers tell themselves these stories and give up. We've also seen people allow others to stop them. We've also seen many people hide behind helping others as a way to avoid dealing with their own recovery.<br /><br />Let me be clear - serving others is awesome. It's one of the highest callings. However, there is a fine line between serving others and hiding behind serving others. We can easily avoid ourself and our recovery by focusing on others.<br /><br />It's easy to help others. It's easy to see what they need to change. And it feels good to encourage them to change, too.<br /><br />Not so easy when it comes to changing the person we see in the mirror.<br /><br />We'd rather do almost anything than feel the feelings of inadequacy. We'd rather stay comfortable, than stay fulfilled.<br /><br />And - when the fear or the stakes get too high - we choose comfort over our calling and the regret pile starts to stack up.<br /><br />Regret stings, because deep down we know that we are limitless. our potential to recover is limitless. our potential to be happy and live a recovered life is limitless.<br /><br />But our biological childhood programming for survival gets in the way. When we don't guard our mind - we believe that taking risks on behalf of our recovery dreams will harm us.<br /><br />But the sad truth is that what harms us, slowly each day, is the impulse to stay comfortable.<br /><br />We have a choice:<br /><br />- High amounts of regret but low amounts of fear.<br />- Low amounts of regret, but high amounts of fear.<br /><br />These two things are directly the related. The more we face our fears each day, the less regret we will have.<br /><br />WE don't think it's too late to start - we're just scared.<br /><br />So, how do we lower the amount of regret in our life? Get busy facing our fears each day? Follow the nudge of our child within that knows there's more out there for us to do, explore, give and become.<br /><br />Start to look for evidence about why we can do something, rather than why we can't. And ultimately, believe that no matter what may come - we still can have an incredible free peaceful life.<br /><br />It's not too late. We're just scared. And the fear can be conquered by our conscious choice to act in the face of our childhood fears.<br /><br />Remember, fear is not the opposite of recovery.<br /><br />Fear is a compass showing us where to go.<br />our Child Within, our intuitive voice, our recovery is calling us to recognise our fear.<br />Use regret as fuel, rather than a reason to stop.<br /><br />Don't be someone who gets to the end of their life and has tons of regrets.<br /><br />All we need is a little courage to face our fears, just one a day, one at a time.<br /><br />We can do this.<br /><br />So that we don't live a life of regret, what fears buried inside our child within are we going to face together?</span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

So that we don't live a life of regret, what fears buried inside our child within are we going to face together?

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The Ten Stages is a taught course of study. We need to learn to get out of the way of our recovery. We have to abandon everything we've been taught and everything we've been led to believe

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7ljVv4grcELWvysp0T-B-COC_YU5nxr4ff5JAqk9LbcBObA75z6vkHPyWE6LdDV-i-sekaFnV2nCb1UnoJE-lKMSMb61_acH0VLs-wOIKsN3QlOFE6T8gl5g18FWFHw_jkaofjd-SCvim/s1600/child+with+plus+loving.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="602" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7ljVv4grcELWvysp0T-B-COC_YU5nxr4ff5JAqk9LbcBObA75z6vkHPyWE6LdDV-i-sekaFnV2nCb1UnoJE-lKMSMb61_acH0VLs-wOIKsN3QlOFE6T8gl5g18FWFHw_jkaofjd-SCvim/s320/child+with+plus+loving.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages is a taught course of study. We need to learn to get out of the way of our recovery. We have to abandon everything we've been taught and everything we've been led to believe all our limiting, confining, imprisoning, denying ideas, concepts and thoughts that we have picked up along our way. We have to make room for that which is unbelievable. We have to get out of the way. "Oh my God!" we'll start to say, "We didn't know it could be like this."</span><br /> <br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">If we want to be Free we have to open ourself to the unthinkable possibility of full recovery. We have to allow ourself to consider that which is immeasurable. We have to rise up. You have to open our mind, open our heart, and renounce our past completely and come to experience the gentle healing in a meeting of others.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The Ten Stages is a taught course of study. We need to learn to get out of the way of our recovery. We have to abandon everything we've been taught and everything we've been led to believe

The Ten Stages is a taught course of study. We need to learn to get out of the way of our recovery. We have to abandon everything we'v...

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The definition of child abuse is simple: whenever the spirit of the child is disrespected the child is abused.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhk5_lgrpzmw_zoRr_VitXSYI4UgB-92yDo5HZekl32pWvXOox6GelQbIF97TXFp7lekqRIe6LUVE9k4oYkHtz_VRvAOUfo11xboyHIw0vkgDkzxCudeUDAWcBQVSbRn45mUgHV7Kl2Qbyr/s1600/child+with+plus+loving.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="602" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhk5_lgrpzmw_zoRr_VitXSYI4UgB-92yDo5HZekl32pWvXOox6GelQbIF97TXFp7lekqRIe6LUVE9k4oYkHtz_VRvAOUfo11xboyHIw0vkgDkzxCudeUDAWcBQVSbRn45mUgHV7Kl2Qbyr/s320/child+with+plus+loving.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">The definition of child abuse is simple: whenever the spirit of the child is disrespected the child is abused. Abuse of the spirit of the child can take many forms, from the overt forms of child abuse that conventional society is able to accept – such as overt sexual abuse, physical violence and the extremes of neglect – to whole realms of abuse that fall below society’s radar and are considered normal and healthy forms of parenting.</span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The definition of child abuse is simple: whenever the spirit of the child is disrespected the child is abused.

The definition of child abuse is simple: whenever the spirit of the child is disrespected the child is abused. Abuse of the spirit of the ...

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Weaponising Mindfulness: We have addiction limitations.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjVqcR9V1RaxgoAT56lY4GzVl8WOZiiwRRbrcSVhZPGVZhqLnk0NzApjbUcipkCEAdWNr4eFKThOywtm9AUXz7fAmBEuavWiJWzNQmkbnPFdEbHFsFqtpmN3kLF5Os4_SAlLWx7SZ6WTOiP/s1600/recovery+in+ten+stages.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="480" data-original-width="480" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjVqcR9V1RaxgoAT56lY4GzVl8WOZiiwRRbrcSVhZPGVZhqLnk0NzApjbUcipkCEAdWNr4eFKThOywtm9AUXz7fAmBEuavWiJWzNQmkbnPFdEbHFsFqtpmN3kLF5Os4_SAlLWx7SZ6WTOiP/s200/recovery+in+ten+stages.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <a href="https://mindfulnesshitsandexitwounds.blogspot.com/2018/12/we-have-addiction-limitations.html?spref=bl">Weaponising Mindfulness: We have addiction limitations.</a>: We have addiction limitations. They are worth befriending. They teach us a lot. They can show us what we most need to pay attention to and...

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Weaponising Mindfulness: We have addiction limitations. : We have addiction limitations. They are worth befriending. They teach us a lot. ...

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Weaponising Mindfulness: Living with pain in a weaponised mind

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhKx7fZwHyeiKy3sqvqyZ0jf1qD2EClUfKzkKMB_9e7AA04vDaZcHQz7n-k_gf112_vW8wpLdAcTeSMuPPgg0sNMb9IdKaLx26w6K5QUjyms59L0HDwemVklF7BP7aZSfrJnb9jXKViHzPQ/s1600/child+within.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="602" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhKx7fZwHyeiKy3sqvqyZ0jf1qD2EClUfKzkKMB_9e7AA04vDaZcHQz7n-k_gf112_vW8wpLdAcTeSMuPPgg0sNMb9IdKaLx26w6K5QUjyms59L0HDwemVklF7BP7aZSfrJnb9jXKViHzPQ/s200/child+within.jpg" width="125" /></a></div> <a href="https://mindfulnesshitsandexitwounds.blogspot.com/2018/12/living-with-pain-in-weaponised-mind.html?spref=bl">Weaponising Mindfulness: Living with pain in a weaponised mind</a>: Understanding is an extremely important part of our process of coming to terms with our pain filled condition and really learning how to l...

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Weaponising Mindfulness: We might become aware of how addicted we can be to...

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgfwpWESUlxLQQTF7b5ZJiVqoj3hM0ZPb79TdGYM5KBfTgD4rAMCuB3jZuP6f0nmIDGUJOwe8wg7aZdoWPzAXzmIhy4OyqXJdZDrXeEVvBz6XDfspAygnd-hdVv281sESBKtDgVadEAtnvz/s1600/recovery+in+ten+stages.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="480" data-original-width="480" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgfwpWESUlxLQQTF7b5ZJiVqoj3hM0ZPb79TdGYM5KBfTgD4rAMCuB3jZuP6f0nmIDGUJOwe8wg7aZdoWPzAXzmIhy4OyqXJdZDrXeEVvBz6XDfspAygnd-hdVv281sESBKtDgVadEAtnvz/s200/recovery+in+ten+stages.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <a href="https://mindfulnesshitsandexitwounds.blogspot.com/2018/12/we-might-become-aware-of-how-addicted.html?spref=bl">Weaponising Mindfulness: We might become aware of how addicted we can be to...</a>: We might become aware of how addicted we can be to our devices, and to that 24/7 connectivity that has us always available and immediately...

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Weaponising Mindfulness: It is who we truly are.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjVqcR9V1RaxgoAT56lY4GzVl8WOZiiwRRbrcSVhZPGVZhqLnk0NzApjbUcipkCEAdWNr4eFKThOywtm9AUXz7fAmBEuavWiJWzNQmkbnPFdEbHFsFqtpmN3kLF5Os4_SAlLWx7SZ6WTOiP/s1600/recovery+in+ten+stages.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="480" data-original-width="480" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjVqcR9V1RaxgoAT56lY4GzVl8WOZiiwRRbrcSVhZPGVZhqLnk0NzApjbUcipkCEAdWNr4eFKThOywtm9AUXz7fAmBEuavWiJWzNQmkbnPFdEbHFsFqtpmN3kLF5Os4_SAlLWx7SZ6WTOiP/s200/recovery+in+ten+stages.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <a href="https://mindfulnesshitsandexitwounds.blogspot.com/2018/12/it-is-who-we-truly-are.html?spref=bl">Weaponising Mindfulness: It is who we truly are.</a>: No matter how many scars we carry from what we have gone through and suffered in the past, our intrinsic wholeness is still here: what els...

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Once we have established a fairly stable field of ten stage program and loving-kindness around ourself

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiroT0gtRo3tqzwAj2yfH1f-A6j_WMY7fWEJWgFuIIWT2c71sW_nfNIldCwAyWAMZJXcTDuXwUU-pMDaqirWOpH-LO7EHcJSR1Evfk4-76jVgXe70PlUrdXiTDMP7HiGtyEC-AWIVf7n2bh/s1600/logo+tenstage%252B.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="960" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiroT0gtRo3tqzwAj2yfH1f-A6j_WMY7fWEJWgFuIIWT2c71sW_nfNIldCwAyWAMZJXcTDuXwUU-pMDaqirWOpH-LO7EHcJSR1Evfk4-76jVgXe70PlUrdXiTDMP7HiGtyEC-AWIVf7n2bh/s320/logo+tenstage%252B.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Once we have established a fairly stable field of ten stage program and loving-kindness around ourself and have lingered here for a time in the feeling of being held and cradled and rocked in its embrace of the child within, we can intentionally expand the field of the heart just as we sometimes expand the field of awareness in the ten stage practice. We can expand the field of loving-kindness around our own heart and our own being, inviting other beings either singly or en masse into this growing embrace. This is not always so easy to do. And so it’s helpful to start with one person for whom you naturally harbour feelings of loving-kindness, and only if you care to explore it. Otherwise, you can simply keep embracing yourself as the recipient of your own love and kindness. </span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Once we have established a fairly stable field of ten stage program and loving-kindness around ourself

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Open Eyed Meditation affirms and protects the mutual loving-kindfulness we use to protect our hard fort for New Self Worth

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEim-JOpvNGyU1r4LYaP-b9nC2xx7_cLtpn82jK12TX12GSNTCTpr-C_khQI_JcFzypRGINOG8vxLDillFs-zHWRJdbOgS4yOpTIrQ7JaW2uNgi-23Ld3Ys30VqVI3KseZi1e-e2DkM7H6bo/s1600/oen+eye+meditation.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="742" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEim-JOpvNGyU1r4LYaP-b9nC2xx7_cLtpn82jK12TX12GSNTCTpr-C_khQI_JcFzypRGINOG8vxLDillFs-zHWRJdbOgS4yOpTIrQ7JaW2uNgi-23Ld3Ys30VqVI3KseZi1e-e2DkM7H6bo/s200/oen+eye+meditation.jpg" width="154" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Open Eyed Meditation affirms and protects the mutual loving-kindfulness we use to protect our hard fort for New Self Worth under cutting our anxiety of anger quotient of inherited self loathing we used to exhibit.</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, system-ui, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif; font-size: 14px;"><br /></span> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Open Eyed Meditation affirms and protects the mutual loving-kindfulness we use to protect our hard fort for New Self Worth

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Tenstage+by its nature it is designed to uncover a voice you do not wish to hear

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjTNcb3Y6j435KTaiouIq5eqDvUVo1kVuGXJRrhgV3zeDrsLnuCAfmoRONoOKrULbgFJID-QEhXVVMe9ZeeQNPcLWM3XOvIqq0QnFaUXJHtwLniKwdBHqMnuDiBUhwvNmjA9t2tcRXHkndF/s1600/thetenstages.com22.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="540" data-original-width="960" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjTNcb3Y6j435KTaiouIq5eqDvUVo1kVuGXJRrhgV3zeDrsLnuCAfmoRONoOKrULbgFJID-QEhXVVMe9ZeeQNPcLWM3XOvIqq0QnFaUXJHtwLniKwdBHqMnuDiBUhwvNmjA9t2tcRXHkndF/s320/thetenstages.com22.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages is not constructed to promote likes or fans. By its nature it is designed to uncover a voice you do not wish to hear But when we start to look within. We are not a soft option.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Our inner voice yells out the reply: I cannot. I cannot betray the child. Not the child within me, nor the one within you, nor within anyone — not even the child within the mother or the father who abused me. And if our refusal to be yet another betrayer alienates parents, then so be it. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Let them go find their comforting messages elsewhere. We see no lack of websites and books that quite effectively do that already. We prefer to stick to truth. We’ve only got one life and We don’t want to waste it anymore.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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Within TenStage+ we do not use others’ lack of healing as an excuse for not healing ourselves.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjua-nPv1J1c6s-VRJEHd82uIVT6PQBO_SnvNcfLvHRmDRazlvMBWzGyTRp7LyT2hKFYNnhbUrQLUecdxrFswrfFfXbTXTKRyafqZ8A5P-lzPavW7BAaFMNXLJYrjWnDh70ApvqRPM7IJPS/s1600/thetenstages.com22.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="540" data-original-width="960" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjua-nPv1J1c6s-VRJEHd82uIVT6PQBO_SnvNcfLvHRmDRazlvMBWzGyTRp7LyT2hKFYNnhbUrQLUecdxrFswrfFfXbTXTKRyafqZ8A5P-lzPavW7BAaFMNXLJYrjWnDh70ApvqRPM7IJPS/s320/thetenstages.com22.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Within TheTenStages.com we do not use others’ lack of healing as an excuse for not healing ourselves. It is all too easy to focus on others’ flaws at the expense of our own inward journey. Many who purport to heal others have not the slightest awareness of their own insanity.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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Our intuitive voice is high jacked by the traumatic voice of childhood.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiy2JvxpMDbmenp-RUX-N1SouU11heq2U-Bza0RctXAUpEerZ9mbdPiqT4nDFRbXiJ0jDChgP77d5iV9slWMLHS5ZAaomYXw7IwKHBYIhqGnzLfKr6b1fjhTa3qLBmgRy2HAkBTNSsa4wPL/s1600/tenstage%252Baberration22.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="602" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiy2JvxpMDbmenp-RUX-N1SouU11heq2U-Bza0RctXAUpEerZ9mbdPiqT4nDFRbXiJ0jDChgP77d5iV9slWMLHS5ZAaomYXw7IwKHBYIhqGnzLfKr6b1fjhTa3qLBmgRy2HAkBTNSsa4wPL/s320/tenstage%252Baberration22.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">For our child within now buried deep inside us beyond the reach of consciousness the trauma is still going on, though not in our reality. Our intuitive voice is high jacked by the traumatic voice of childhood.We become stuck in a state of suspended animation, such that most us start to die inwardly before we ever become adults. Our emotional traumas overcome us and snuff out our spirit. Our family systems convert our minds into deadness. We lose our creativity and wildness, we block out the emotional reality of our childhoods, and we become automatons. We survive in order to live for comfort, happiness, and emotional camouflage. We become the norm.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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Our child within has no physical defence, so they devise a mental one – “this isn’t happening to me”

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhg5H4Lt6mlNmg3wRrzY_MEwqsRZh-AjcV1T7C2znuv9ngz7Vus9GzxrdmJZ8Z8EOmRF2pOaHdkGo-8YjGuMt4SN4yy_4eTe6p2hHRHN_uCPP5RRogXgGsD_1TQCd3bvjYhAjeldbweq-G2/s1600/child+within+abuse.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="678" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhg5H4Lt6mlNmg3wRrzY_MEwqsRZh-AjcV1T7C2znuv9ngz7Vus9GzxrdmJZ8Z8EOmRF2pOaHdkGo-8YjGuMt4SN4yy_4eTe6p2hHRHN_uCPP5RRogXgGsD_1TQCd3bvjYhAjeldbweq-G2/s320/child+within+abuse.jpg" width="226" /></a></div> <h4 class="zemanta-related-title"> <span style="font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Our child within has had to learn to cope with erratic parenting or no parenting at all. Dad shouts, mum dies, or vice versa – the actual event is not material, the context is all. Our child within has no physical defence, so they devise a mental one – “this isn’t happening to me”.<br /><br />Our Childs constructed survival strategies get prolonged into adulthood, and become locked inside our Child Within where this mental defence/coping strategy has ceases to work , with the Ten Stages trustworthy emotional support, the child withins intuitional thinking can be restored. The child's thought processes can be gently reached unclogged and we can start to re-program ourselves?<br /><br />Our gummed up thought processes disappear as we make contact with others, because the child within still is convinced that the trauma is still ‘alive’ in its head we are constantly looking for a solution that has ceased to work and is irrelevant to our adult reality. This constant looking colours our whole behaviour.<br /><br />We need The Stages Students who can provide us with adequate trustworthy emotional support from their own children within, to gradually gently persuade the child within that, the traumatic,“this isn’t happening to me” it’s over? When this happens and we can access the child within. We can start to unravel the crazy making behaviour by doing the stages and address the traumas that ceased long ago – a fact that most of us simply did not believe – we gradually catch up with our reality and gain a new freedom and health we had previously not known.</span></span></h4> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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