Our Dissociational behaviour flees intense emotions that spark and trigger old traumatic wounds

Our Dissociation behaviours flees intense emotions that spark and trigger old traumatic wounds this in turn involves long periods of dissociation in our lives. Many of us emotionally “fly away” in their minds to escape the horror they are constantly re-experiencing. We remain connected with our parents. Our parents in childhood are our primary traumatisers, because when we were children they had more power over us than will anyone later in our life. It’s no surprise that parents, either overtly or covertly, symbolise so much in our subconscious, especially when our primary traumas start to bubble up.


Both are connected with paralysis of thought. Extreme traumatic experiences can cause psychosis. And the most traumatised people do relive their trauma while awake – by actively recreating the surroundings of their primary trauma and delusions of blame and rescue.Recreating primary abusers and traumatisers as friends constantly replaying the scenario within their own mind to gain a better outcome that never materialises.


Denial is involved to facilitate more abuse. Society denies all but the most intense traumas and minimises the rest; most people do the same with their recovery. In this vein, most people believe they had a happy, non-traumatic childhood and are having a wonderful recovery that is constantly reinforced by others behaviour.


We then always have to involve our primary repetition compulsion. We compulsively replicate our unresolved traumas in an attempt to heal them.


These further rupture the borders of our personality. Traumatic experiences force their way through the self like a nail through a board, whereas in meditation a breathing time of peace allows the selfs attempt to pull the nail out of the board or at least not further traumatise the wound.


As such, both involve the essence of our life’s process. Traumatic experiences destroy life; meditation opens the door for hope to reclaim them and the stages offers the tools to deal with them.

The Selfs recovery is likened to the rescue of the Count of Monte Cristo reinstatement back into the world and takes time,  patience, gentleness and understanding.




The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com