We must learn to meditate we cannot examine the workings of our mind from afar

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjeZkR1lpxjq4GkPtsqChlhGxQW6FLBP7kakfZ4HpI4oe8jt6zgqBgD3IWeTBFWATpBjtcVQ0jmKGkkwgQFJfAyUfKzZLzPXYRclOjWyurSl3h9QKUozoBknRnBKZBb9H2E_ibVp3L7bJOI/s1600/scream+dissociated.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1600" data-original-width="1000" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjeZkR1lpxjq4GkPtsqChlhGxQW6FLBP7kakfZ4HpI4oe8jt6zgqBgD3IWeTBFWATpBjtcVQ0jmKGkkwgQFJfAyUfKzZLzPXYRclOjWyurSl3h9QKUozoBknRnBKZBb9H2E_ibVp3L7bJOI/s320/scream+dissociated.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We must learn to meditate we cannot examine the workings of our mind from afar, if we are unaware of how our mind's continual thought-stream of low-presence thought has us trapped in our non-reality. Then we are unaware that we suffer from an illness that affects the many individuals that make up the whole of this system/society, it is a sickness whose symptoms reveal themselves as minds racing to nowhere, rambling over and over and upon themselves to the point of madness, and that usually end up creating or inviting negativity onto ourselves and/or those around us.</span><br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We must learn to meditate we cannot examine the workings of our mind from afar

We must learn to meditate we cannot examine the workings of our mind from afar, if we are unaware of how our mind's continual thought-...

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We are a pin cushion to a sensory stimulation bombardment that exists all around us

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhxgD6F8ops5AXSk2esd8fQOlbx_DTQu2eimSmblHTIFmsS32z0P7KC6akoQuwJMVuuMXKS-KMeYfn3z-UB-U4RUTribNUKrStOd1QlzI0AskF_EE5NaiwTT8PK1lhjVH77azAKqv0LoJAF/s1600/zolo+dreams.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="800" data-original-width="1200" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhxgD6F8ops5AXSk2esd8fQOlbx_DTQu2eimSmblHTIFmsS32z0P7KC6akoQuwJMVuuMXKS-KMeYfn3z-UB-U4RUTribNUKrStOd1QlzI0AskF_EE5NaiwTT8PK1lhjVH77azAKqv0LoJAF/s320/zolo+dreams.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We are a pin cushion to a sensory stimulation bombardment that exists all around us. The images, the colours, the words, the sounds, all attempting to grasp at and hold us locked into our lower selves where one's worth and needs drive all the actions of the consumerist society machine existence of constant unremitting advertising. All the while, we believes everything to be of our own suggestion and doing, that we imagine we are autonomous and free."WERE NOT" Only the conscious can see the wild dance of the modern world for what it is, and go beyond the stimuli to reach into the higher plains of our recovery.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We are a pin cushion to a sensory stimulation bombardment that exists all around us

We are a pin cushion to a sensory stimulation bombardment that exists all around us. The images, the colours, the words, the sounds, all a...

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Our Dissociational behaviour flees intense emotions that spark and trigger old traumatic wounds

<br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgpPNAotexFp-XjzEFgI4gvbMFi2Rz4oXIz-Wzh4JJo7F2DUcRemwqNmtvotgNyjDXYRYYyPa42cpSswc4B4SuRrKt_YkPL8hd0ehWeijuIM77kayXFDPUbEatAS6XorAQAmi_PReMiHfnQ/s1600/dissociation657seeds.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgpPNAotexFp-XjzEFgI4gvbMFi2Rz4oXIz-Wzh4JJo7F2DUcRemwqNmtvotgNyjDXYRYYyPa42cpSswc4B4SuRrKt_YkPL8hd0ehWeijuIM77kayXFDPUbEatAS6XorAQAmi_PReMiHfnQ/s320/dissociation657seeds.jpg" width="320" /></a></span></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Our Dissociation behaviours flees intense emotions that spark and trigger old traumatic wounds this in turn involves long periods of dissociation in our lives. Many of us emotionally “fly away” in their minds to escape the horror they are constantly re-experiencing. We remain connected with our parents. Our parents in childhood are our primary traumatisers, because when we were children they had more power over us than will anyone later in our life. It’s no surprise that parents, either overtly or covertly, symbolise so much in our subconscious, especially when our primary traumas start to bubble up.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><br />Both are connected with paralysis of thought. Extreme traumatic experiences can cause psychosis. And the most traumatised people do relive their trauma while awake – by actively recreating the surroundings of their primary trauma and delusions of blame and rescue.Recreating primary abusers and traumatisers as friends constantly replaying the scenario within their own mind to gain a better outcome that never materialises.<br /><br /><br />Denial is involved to facilitate more abuse. Society denies all but the most intense traumas and minimises the rest; most people do the same with their recovery. In this vein, most people believe they had a happy, non-traumatic childhood and are having a wonderful recovery that is constantly reinforced by others behaviour.<br /><br /><br />We then always have to involve our primary repetition compulsion. We compulsively replicate our unresolved traumas in an attempt to heal them.<br /><br /><br />These further rupture the borders of our personality. Traumatic experiences force their way through the self like a nail through a board, whereas in meditation a breathing time of peace allows the selfs attempt to pull the nail out of the board or at least not further traumatise the wound.<br /><br /><br />As such, both involve the essence of our life’s process. Traumatic experiences destroy life; meditation opens the door for hope to reclaim them and the stages offers the tools to deal with them.<br /><br />The Selfs recovery is likened to the rescue of the Count of Monte Cristo reinstatement back into the world and takes time,  patience, gentleness and understanding.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our Dissociational behaviour flees intense emotions that spark and trigger old traumatic wounds

Our Dissociation behaviours flees intense emotions that spark and trigger old traumatic wounds this in turn involves long periods of diss...

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Applied Recovery in the ten stages is painful, and at times confusingly so

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdnrNn_W7OzqHUsgVavyDmOUGeByn-bkKWSlsGLa24qEGI29oPcR0o6Hv897DOMLeXkbk23qzkipqHgy_N532ZPplcHSY-U2eHfivhjErgBNx_hWPaTOP7eguecGnYdZv85MReFfaB86RJ/s1600/intulexia10.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="500" data-original-width="500" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdnrNn_W7OzqHUsgVavyDmOUGeByn-bkKWSlsGLa24qEGI29oPcR0o6Hv897DOMLeXkbk23qzkipqHgy_N532ZPplcHSY-U2eHfivhjErgBNx_hWPaTOP7eguecGnYdZv85MReFfaB86RJ/s320/intulexia10.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Applied Recovery in the ten stages is painful, and at times confusingly so. It might seem counterintuitive that the path to the greatest peace and truth takes us through the darkest stretches of pain and self-doubt, but it is impossible to recover from traumas without feeling the pain. Those who think you can leap painlessly from dissociation into awakening do not understand that recovery requires that you pass through suffering, depression, and grieving. The unrecovered misjudge our suffering as an inferior, but the recovering person, connected with his core of truth and compass of honesty, knows better.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Applied Recovery in the ten stages is painful, and at times confusingly so

Applied Recovery in the ten stages is painful, and at times confusingly so. It might seem counterintuitive that the path to the greatest p...

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Zolo Moments don’t need to be happy or not suffering. Nor do we need to be perfect or enlightened.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi63ITjyf8ib6Wt5fN0hUwNjUPyU7fTcWZnIpDfFaATaYeC9_Dk-VCVcEjp_6TXVNp7j2cnyAwmY_jry7kqmv6n-jzUb5jnsG0sLFNmMhL_u1erf6DviH_cWLOw137hnYT4k9v1ei8vovFn/s1600/zolo+assembly.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="600" data-original-width="425" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi63ITjyf8ib6Wt5fN0hUwNjUPyU7fTcWZnIpDfFaATaYeC9_Dk-VCVcEjp_6TXVNp7j2cnyAwmY_jry7kqmv6n-jzUb5jnsG0sLFNmMhL_u1erf6DviH_cWLOw137hnYT4k9v1ei8vovFn/s320/zolo+assembly.jpg" width="226" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We don’t need to be happy or not suffering. Nor do we need to be perfect or enlightened. we could be heavily tied up within others identities and we would still be aware that everyone is complete, just as we are. There is no other way anyone could be right at this moment. Why fight it? Join our Zolo Moments Sunday 7 am till 8 am in Virtual Assembly and feel your power and authority.</span><br /> <div> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

Zolo Moments don’t need to be happy or not suffering. Nor do we need to be perfect or enlightened.

We don’t need to be happy or not suffering. Nor do we need to be perfect or enlightened. we could be heavily tied up within others identit...

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Our child within is always waiting to be acknowledged

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhDZGRPFjrr6FmzywqSOdsR9UiJRz03rC1MooGysJpMafpeDoQ2FcoJ72JipjZs3w9qG0REwO9AFXpubpnyrAfWxeM1Tf8yS6bmXQSRNfox7FL8evwUGDqCmEVTiZT6Gkbb-KxzMQXLCdwu/s1600/preview+child+within.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="636" data-original-width="475" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhDZGRPFjrr6FmzywqSOdsR9UiJRz03rC1MooGysJpMafpeDoQ2FcoJ72JipjZs3w9qG0REwO9AFXpubpnyrAfWxeM1Tf8yS6bmXQSRNfox7FL8evwUGDqCmEVTiZT6Gkbb-KxzMQXLCdwu/s320/preview+child+within.png" width="238" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><br />Our child within is always waiting to be acknowledged, just like any child. We need attention and love. We need to hear them and give them an intuitive voice to communicate with us.<br /></span>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our child within is always waiting to be acknowledged

Our child within is always waiting to be acknowledged, just like any child. We need attention and love. We need to hear them and give them...

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Our Child Within creates an imaginative, safe and connected recovery mindset which is creating a safe space to journey beyond our here and now.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiFSfkni-ZTe5oSYfdOwWhY8Mn6B1ncOfIrY7b_VfhiEDXX5rru-Uoff__iMAWSCNIT1tUHmoRzUpmoPxrP69rs8r67HV_lOA7bZHIPdLLBYPUZhYdkN98526NUZfa4CnR2wG1sjbxW_l0q/s1600/1-11050822_597090743761003_8908973908707265896_n-001.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="316" data-original-width="355" height="284" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiFSfkni-ZTe5oSYfdOwWhY8Mn6B1ncOfIrY7b_VfhiEDXX5rru-Uoff__iMAWSCNIT1tUHmoRzUpmoPxrP69rs8r67HV_lOA7bZHIPdLLBYPUZhYdkN98526NUZfa4CnR2wG1sjbxW_l0q/s320/1-11050822_597090743761003_8908973908707265896_n-001.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Our Child Within creates an imaginative, safe and connected recovery mindset creating in its turn a safe recovery space to journey beyond our here and now.</span><br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our Child Within creates an imaginative, safe and connected recovery mindset which is creating a safe space to journey beyond our here and now.

Our Child Within creates an imaginative, safe and connected recovery mindset creating in its turn a safe recovery space to journey beyond ...

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In our child’s withins world, life is play, so joy is cultivated, and in every moment, there is an opportunity for endless possibilities.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiPzUwDtZ_xgmPgEe-ELjQvpp1xWQfN204JHhW17llZLWKejssJ0_P44zmQvA7ZvWtwCRhznAEitjvUzB9yTw0dUgNojmv8zqFgFq759gz9-mAnNLZ-l9PUctWuNaH5eLYAKSEEjWpUx8cr/s1600/inner+child+1.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="229" data-original-width="220" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiPzUwDtZ_xgmPgEe-ELjQvpp1xWQfN204JHhW17llZLWKejssJ0_P44zmQvA7ZvWtwCRhznAEitjvUzB9yTw0dUgNojmv8zqFgFq759gz9-mAnNLZ-l9PUctWuNaH5eLYAKSEEjWpUx8cr/s1600/inner+child+1.jpeg" /></a></div> <br /> <div class="_3x-2" data-ft="{"tn":"H"}" style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: white; color: #1d2129; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, system-ui, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif; font-size: 12px; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> <div data-ft="{"tn":"H"}" style="font-family: inherit;"> <div class="mtm" style="font-family: inherit; margin-top: 10px;"> <div style="font-family: inherit; position: relative;"> <div class="_1ktf" data-ft="{"tn":"E"}" style="font-family: inherit; margin-left: -12px;"> <a ajaxify="/dissociativeidentitydisorders/photos/a.1699186406984034.1073741828.1695298110706197/2138921113010559/?type=3&size=600%2C600&fbid=2138921113010559&source=13&player_origin=unknown" class="_4-eo _2t9n _50z9" data-ft="{"tn":"E"}" data-ploi="https://scontent-lht6-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-9/37098491_2138921119677225_4348661967817277440_n.jpg?_nc_cat=0&oh=9447789c6e3b13a97271fe1faf3a1da5&oe=5BD7F940" data-render-location="homepage_stream" href="https://www.facebook.com/dissociativeidentitydisorders/photos/a.1699186406984034.1073741828.1695298110706197/2138921113010559/?type=3" rel="theater" style="box-shadow: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.05) 0px 1px 1px; color: #365899; cursor: pointer; display: block; font-family: inherit; position: relative; text-decoration: none; width: 500px;"></a></div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <br /> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">In our child’s withins world, life is play, so joy is cultivated, and in every moment, there is an opportunity for endless possibilities. Our Children Within live in the subconscious where things haven’t quite formed yet. Their highly creative space is a magical journey waiting to be explored.<br /><br /><br /><br /></span>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

In our child’s withins world, life is play, so joy is cultivated, and in every moment, there is an opportunity for endless possibilities.

In our child’s withins world, life is play, so joy is cultivated, and in every moment, there is an opportunity for endless pos...

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when we establish a solid relationship with our child within, we are both adult and child, fully present

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when we establish a solid relationship with our child within, we are both adult and child, fully present

We’ve all come to realise that our children within are wise beyond their years, and that applies to perfect child within as we...

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Our Child Within doesn’t live in our ego

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgi9Ktz3FIIHhdyAXWYLntyGCgtMFLe3hA0kH539vmdxRy5RblnU_mHeybD1QnsHZWQBXmETwOMbYydSed5t2iPmQFPbu095R8F1hjR83ZnDfxujpHq80Bs3Cy8_MfR3zANZLLuk_d6vxcb/s1600/inner-child+2.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="446" data-original-width="959" height="148" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgi9Ktz3FIIHhdyAXWYLntyGCgtMFLe3hA0kH539vmdxRy5RblnU_mHeybD1QnsHZWQBXmETwOMbYydSed5t2iPmQFPbu095R8F1hjR83ZnDfxujpHq80Bs3Cy8_MfR3zANZLLuk_d6vxcb/s320/inner-child+2.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <br /> <div class="_3x-2" data-ft="{"tn":"H"}" style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: white; color: #1d2129; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, system-ui, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif; font-size: 12px; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> <div data-ft="{"tn":"H"}" style="font-family: inherit;"> <div class="mtm" style="font-family: inherit; margin-top: 10px;"> <div style="font-family: inherit; position: relative;"> <div class="_1ktf" data-ft="{"tn":"E"}" style="font-family: inherit; margin-left: -12px;"> <a ajaxify="/dissociativeidentitydisorders/photos/a.1699186406984034.1073741828.1695298110706197/2138910509678286/?type=3&size=425%2C600&fbid=2138910509678286&source=13&player_origin=unknown" class="_4-eo _2t9n _50z9" data-ft="{"tn":"E"}" data-ploi="https://scontent-lht6-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-9/37005273_2138910516344952_2415905454593933312_n.jpg?_nc_cat=0&oh=98f7c6984612bbbca4f96056d1d7c38c&oe=5BD45AEE" data-render-location="homepage_stream" href="https://www.facebook.com/dissociativeidentitydisorders/photos/a.1699186406984034.1073741828.1695298110706197/2138910509678286/?type=3" rel="theater" style="box-shadow: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.05) 0px 1px 1px; color: #365899; cursor: pointer; display: block; font-family: inherit; position: relative; text-decoration: none; width: 500px;"></a></div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Our perfect Child Within has an amazing capacity to accept things and heal faster than our adult because our mind is not made up about anything. Our Child Within doesn’t live in our ego, and our identity is not yet formed within so change can happen rapidly. This type of acknowledgment moves our hidden child within who feels forgotten and abandoned out of its shadow-self and into our light. It is in the light that can experience play and joy, bridging those same emotions into the present self. Healing and reclaiming abandoned parts of our current self will shift what manifests in life into positive outcomes. It changes the stories we tell ourselves.</span><br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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When we are finally ready to start dealing with our addiction, we gradually realise that we then have to deal with what caused our addiction in the first place

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-ejhanmrZ7nzOQSX1rzDZowM9lkg8aZbbb4wVLEKvIF0-LTO9ZcayJmCUjYHi9_jXGtr0tQ6M1NEPBeCfQiT76EsLJwhrdfN1vVbSwkX6a841iqT_bMtIcX-rkbwJfwkHNSLcUTPQTnVr/s1600/zolo+sc.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="396" data-original-width="1584" height="80" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-ejhanmrZ7nzOQSX1rzDZowM9lkg8aZbbb4wVLEKvIF0-LTO9ZcayJmCUjYHi9_jXGtr0tQ6M1NEPBeCfQiT76EsLJwhrdfN1vVbSwkX6a841iqT_bMtIcX-rkbwJfwkHNSLcUTPQTnVr/s320/zolo+sc.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Long ago, decades ago, We have made the decision that life was not worth living – it was something to ‘get through’ as smoothly and mindlessly as possible until we could die. The rule had been to imperceptibly stay as non-present as possible, while going about the business of doing what we had to do to ‘survive’, to pass as human. That was a rule we learned deep, deep down.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Einstein said: “I must be willing to give up what I am in order to become what I will be.” That can be exceedingly difficult. When we embark on this journey of recovery we have not realised that healing required CHANGE on our part. We wanted the constant pain and anguish to stop, but we didn’t want my actual self to be different. We did not want to have to uproot the very foundations of our beliefs and actions and metaphorically relearn how to walk again. We wanted to be</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">free of the continual anguish we experienced, the continual need to cover up our lapses due to dissociation; the continual sporadic loss of time, the hop scotching nature of our abilities – sometimes being able to do certain things; other times have no concept of, or even any desire to have certain abilities.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We wanted relief of all our symptoms, but I did not really want to “heal”.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">When we are finally ready to start dealing with our addiction, we gradually realise that we then have to deal with what caused our addiction in the first place; what we had been unwilling/unable to face originally, what drove us to drink. Only now our problems were compounded by all the problems that alcoholism brings.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><i style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;">“The worst would pass in a few days. I’d feel good and I’d think, “I’ve got it down pat.” But then I’d look at my life and feel bad. That’s the real pain when you’re an addict. USING HURTS, BUT REALITY HURTS WORSE.”</i><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">when we are not dissociating, we look at our life and realise this is so very different than what we have envisioned. We do not have a birth family, We do not have in-laws, We do not have blood relatives, We do not have a life partner. We give up an immense amount of ourself to insure that we would have all these things, and when we stopped dissociating, We realise that not only did we have none of those people in our life, We are also missing major portions</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">of ourself. It has taken us along time to realise two things:</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">1. How can you lose what you never had? I never did have those things, only a pretence.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">And 2. We now have things that are far more important and valuable than those ever were in reality.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">But. We are still addicted. We know we would not have survived if we had not had the skill of dissociation. It served us quite well. It saved our lives. Now we don’t want to rely on it; we don’t want to do it automatically we have identified three types of dissociation we struggle with:</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">1. The first way is the simple practice of spacing out or shutting off. we use this for two different purposes:</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">1. Avoidance when we are unwilling or unable to face things</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">2. A learned way to be able to switch. There are many times when we cannot access the parts that have the information and skills we need in a situation. Throughout the decades we have learned that a way to handle this was just to shut off completely inside, and sooner or later the information we</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">needed would gradually seep to the surface or some other place in my mind where it would become accessible to me.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">3. A third way we dissociate is to switch to other parts inside.It has taken us time to be able to tell when we am not ourself. we blend through most alter personalities, and it used to be easy to believe we are just being ‘us’. We’ve learned to be alert to various factors. One is what age we</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">feel. Other ways we have found to know when I am not Child Within present are to feel what size the body seems, relative to other people or objects; Sometimes we look at a dog, and it feels as if the dog is shoulder height to me. Ooops. Not Child within present! Other ways are to recognise what the emotional tone is and what the values are, what sort of things are important to us. How do I want to spend my time? A numbing activity such as computer games? Oops. That is not a Child within choice for us. So who is out and why?</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">4. The fourth way we dissociate is one that may be difficult to grasp if we don’t use it. If we do, We will definitely know what we are talking about. We will tell us that some people whom we have discussed this with have found this concept highly triggering.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We found ourself talking to our guides about a ‘construct’. They asked us what we mean by that term; at the time we had.......not a clue.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We have since learned that we create a construct when we are functioning through something that is not an alter. We are always looking for a perfect ‘formula’ that we could leave in place, and personally go away. Life was something to be endured, and gotten through as gracefully and safely as possible, while the real ‘us’ was tucked away somewhere inaccessible. When we are preparing to be in a situation which we may perceive as threatening, we automatically figure out what qualities would be appropriate and useful for that event; find parts inside that have those qualities; put them together and create an ‘artificial’..persona to deal with the situation.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><i style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;">An example: One time a friend and I planned to go away for a weekend, share a motel room, and do numerous activities together. I was terrified. I was unused to being social; I was unused to spending long stretches of time with another person without being able to escape and dissociate. I was afraid she would find me (fill in the blank here) unacceptable, stupid, weird, any number of things. My anxiety levels rose and rose. I found myself figuring out how ‘normal’ people would act in a situation like this, what kind of things would interest them, what kind of things they would talk about, what kind of values they would have. I figured out what the situation demanded so that I could pass as human. I found myself focusing entirely on my friend and what she might want to do. It was far too terrifying to have any ‘me’ present at all. I was still around, somewhere, but definitely not in my body. That would have been far too terrifying. From some remote area, I worked the body, instructing it what to say and do. A construct is not ‘me’ or an alter; it is lacking much depth of character, although there were always certain parameters set for what actions the character could do.<br /><br />Fortunately, by then I was far enough along in healing that I realised what I was doing and started laughing at myself. This was a friend who knew about my background, who was safe, who was very accepting of who I was. I ended up just ‘winging’ it; yes, there were some anxious moments, but I spent a lot of time just being ‘me’ and reacting spontaneously to whatever arose, and had a great time.</i><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We do want to say that we do not believe all dissociation is from addiction. If a person is still around perpetrators, dissociation may still be necessary. But once dissociation is learned as the major means to handle difficult emotions, a person will continue to use it automatically from then on, and it greatly lessens the quality of life.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Having decided we wanted to do away with this addiction and the pain it causes us, We find specific strategies helpful, when we are not dissociating our decision to stop dissociating: We would like to share these with you.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We would like to start with a quote we found: “No one healing intervention will enable a person to manifest the full scope of his or her wholeness. To maximally heal it is important not to limit ourselves to a single modality but to incorporate several healing practices that encompass body, mind, and spirit.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We at the Stages strongly believe it takes more than talk therapy to break through when there is severe trauma in the background. It takes physical actions, whatever form they may take. When we are faced with severe trauma, the fight or flight response gets activated. This shuts down the cortex; the part of our brain that can reason, plan and make sense of things. Pieces of the event, snapshot pictures, get recorded, but the meaning does not. They are memories that do not make sense. After the trauma, these unresolved emotions are frozen in the body. Think of what the physiological responses are to any emotion and what it means for these responses to be stopped before completion and remain in the body. There is an ‘act hunger’...remaining – the body wants to move through and resolve these physiological processes. The body remembers even when the mind forgets. The body acts as our unconscious mind. At the Stages we implement a full range of both play and safe drama therapies to unleash mind coupled with our body.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

When we are finally ready to start dealing with our addiction, we gradually realise that we then have to deal with what caused our addiction in the first place

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The Ten Stages are a recovery practice working from a healthy core base of short empathetic intuitive meditations

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi1he5Ob_97dlx6p5asaI6E-Nck0EoqXFdAdNnpWeGSjir7733Lk62UZyftWN9F9fH9ssCPJCywlXrazZ3khOnKM7IpH1Ju57_sTzR-pQAKk7_7qKRdY-U5gO7TocvIifj1OSa2ol6R1tM7/s1600/1-HOB-random29.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="722" data-original-width="1024" height="225" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi1he5Ob_97dlx6p5asaI6E-Nck0EoqXFdAdNnpWeGSjir7733Lk62UZyftWN9F9fH9ssCPJCywlXrazZ3khOnKM7IpH1Ju57_sTzR-pQAKk7_7qKRdY-U5gO7TocvIifj1OSa2ol6R1tM7/s320/1-HOB-random29.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages are a recovery practice working from a healthy core base of short empathetic intuitive meditations. This ground breaking work allows us to move to closer work with our early life experiences , reaching to our ‘childhood experiences of fear and anger’ and enabling us to find a voice to talk about our often unthinkable past. To enable us to facilitate this we must create a safe place with trust and consent becoming paramount... which given time leads to our often changing view of our childhood truth.<br /><br />The Ten Stages create a child within safe emotion based support centres, known as Dayhabs where healthy recoverers help others recover. The Ten Stages hold the view that recovery is software based, not hardware based, and all are restorative, provided the sufferer completes the practice.</span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Loving-KindFULness as created and practiced in the ten stages recognises, welcomes and treasures the individuality, personhood, identity, spirit or soul of the others in all their shared and unique aspects. Ten Stage </span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Dayhab offers a caring, understanding and empowering attitude toward our emotional struggles, aspirations and personal growth. We promote our inherent human rights to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. We respect the autonomy, personal responsibility and freedom of the person. We are encouraged to grow in self-appreciation as well as in the ability to respect, love and empathise with others. </span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

The Ten Stages are a recovery practice working from a healthy core base of short empathetic intuitive meditations

The Ten Stages are a recovery practice working from a healthy core base of short empathetic intuitive meditations. This ground breaking wo...

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