In The Ten Stages by listening to, acting on and having unwavering faith in our Child Withins intuition.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjex2i4SdLZOFb2RUxgy_ESCX02v0T3xpETPTBKPODALaX6wLM5LS9Pr7J5sZCuYoSXMfBDaun2UFXf0MnnjQEXd7lslTinmSeEq55B3EeegEY2ANy0wIxP9etbaIZG9TpccMaOj4KPMpG7/s1600/Untitled+design+%25281%2529.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjex2i4SdLZOFb2RUxgy_ESCX02v0T3xpETPTBKPODALaX6wLM5LS9Pr7J5sZCuYoSXMfBDaun2UFXf0MnnjQEXd7lslTinmSeEq55B3EeegEY2ANy0wIxP9etbaIZG9TpccMaOj4KPMpG7/s320/Untitled+design+%25281%2529.png" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">In The Ten Stages by listening to, acting on and having unwavering faith in our Child Withins intuition.<br /><br />When we trust ourself with total abandon. When we throw caution to the wind and step into a life of faith in our hidden reserve the child within.<br /><br /><br />When we surrender the outcome and the problems to our Child within and KNOW in our bones that EVERY SET BACK is a lesson that is ushering us CLOSER to our purpose - that is when we get our power and authority back into our lives.<br /><br /><br />This doesn't happen in just a moment. It happens slowly. Over time. One stage in trust consent and truth at a time.<br /><br />Want Our Power & Authority back in our lives? Then step out in faith in our child within, EVERY DAY.<br /><br />What is that small stage in our recovery we could take today? What's the child within whisper thats guiding us to do?<br /><br />We know you know. It's time to admit it.<br /></span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

In The Ten Stages by listening to, acting on and having unwavering faith in our Child Withins intuition.

In The Ten Stages by listening to, acting on and having unwavering faith in our Child Withins intuition. When we trust ourself with total ...

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The voice of our child withins intuition whisper and is not logical. It makes no sense. It will ask us to do things that are outside of our comfort zone

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgZgj6E1sPBldbVfQ2t_l7u4ZntnB2Om8U_XwKGNapJIbhgSmu0m3GwfIyR88m-7hxBZqQfIcL1DQuITO-GcLGDPcNZux5s25_OjvjOXHQV7X6UWSZTm9ZBAmbJvwi3lqLlOFz5GDYTtWuV/s1600/Untitled+design+%25281%2529.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgZgj6E1sPBldbVfQ2t_l7u4ZntnB2Om8U_XwKGNapJIbhgSmu0m3GwfIyR88m-7hxBZqQfIcL1DQuITO-GcLGDPcNZux5s25_OjvjOXHQV7X6UWSZTm9ZBAmbJvwi3lqLlOFz5GDYTtWuV/s320/Untitled+design+%25281%2529.png" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The voice of our child withins intuition whisper and is not logical. It makes no sense. It will ask us to do things that are outside of our comfort zone, that go against the status quo things that might freak out our friends, family. <br /><br /> <br /><br />our intuition will cause us to go against the grain. To feel left out and to go on an epic recovery quest to find our true purpose. <br /><br /> <br /><br />And when we arrive at the destiny of our purpose. our intuition will get the credit for showing us the way, one sometimes foggy, sometimes scary stage at a time. <br /><br /> <br /><br />You see, our intuitions voice is literally our Child Within talking to us.<br /><br /> <br /><br />It's part of our consciousness trying to get our attention, to guide us. <br /><br /> <br /><br />And, this Intelligence our Child within is wiser that we ,the adult you are and is connected to all time and space. It has the culmative knowledge of our ancestral past, present and future. <br /><br /> <br /><br />So, when we are guided, we are being guided by a Child Within force that knows where we are heading. It can see 100 steps ahead. It sees how all the seeming "random" moments of our life are actually conspiring for our greatest good, even the moments where we feel like we're getting kicked in the teeth by life. <br /><br /> <br /><br />It's all a conspiracy of reality for our benefit. <br /><br /> <br /><br />But, if we let irrational fear, which we call Survival Patterns,Coping Strategies stop us from following our intuitive voice - We get once more stuck, and our life once more shrivels up into dissociations<br /><br /> <br /><br />And then we get resigned that this is how it will always be. <br /><br /> <br /><br />But that intuitive voice never stops speaking. No amount of dissociation food, drugs or sex can numb it. <br /><br /> <br /><br />It remains, calling us into the foggy uncertainty of faith in something far greater than ourselves. <br /><br /> <br /><br />And the day will come where taking the leap out into the unknown will be our only next stage. <br /><br /> <br /><br />We do not need to be stubborn. We can relax and tap into our intuition. We can find our child within. We can follow our hidden child. <br /><br /> </span>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The voice of our child withins intuition whisper and is not logical. It makes no sense. It will ask us to do things that are outside of our comfort zone

The voice of our child withins intuition whisper and is not logical. It makes no sense. It will ask us to do things that are outside of ou...

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We practice Loving-Kindfulness at The Ten Stages. We have experimented for ourselves with this beautiful concept..

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhO1xrOIn7kvgrOzxPv8pLOB3aa-U0vosK0kfroLVEdYMdD2uAlKoO4NUXNIrtPIgedU9AhTVfG93fGLSktCOtUBGmcVUVDjKEfPfWD8druDIV9q5FytXwZTCB5AJ1oj9YtendL_wqDocTh/s1600/complete+dissociations+solutions.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="200" data-original-width="600" height="106" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhO1xrOIn7kvgrOzxPv8pLOB3aa-U0vosK0kfroLVEdYMdD2uAlKoO4NUXNIrtPIgedU9AhTVfG93fGLSktCOtUBGmcVUVDjKEfPfWD8druDIV9q5FytXwZTCB5AJ1oj9YtendL_wqDocTh/s320/complete+dissociations+solutions.jpg" width="320" /></a></div>  <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We practice Loving-Kindfulness at The Ten Stages. We have experimented for ourselves with this beautiful concept...</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">How about stopping your headache by putting some spare change in someone’s parking meter when it is about to expire? Or, reversing inflammatory joint pain by letting someone cut in front of you in traffic without getting miffed? These are not just Pollyanna wishes for healing mental and physical ailments. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages abounds with proof that loving-kindfulness heals, can even makes us smarter.What if the cure for our cold was opening a door for a complete stranger? Or watering our neighbour’s roses while they are away on vacation when you notice them wilting? How about stopping our headache by putting some spare change in someone’s parking meter when it is about to expire? Or, reversing inflammatory joint pain by letting someone cut in front of us in traffic without getting miffed? </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">These are not just Pollyanna wishes for curing mental, physical and deep rooted spiritual ailments. Ten Stages abound with proof that kindfulness heals, an even makes us smarter.</span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">What experiment will you try now try it again with LOVING-kindfulness<br /><br />The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</span></div>

We practice Loving-Kindfulness at The Ten Stages. We have experimented for ourselves with this beautiful concept..

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This is a wonderful time of change. The world is open. The world needs to hear our message.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgpPNAotexFp-XjzEFgI4gvbMFi2Rz4oXIz-Wzh4JJo7F2DUcRemwqNmtvotgNyjDXYRYYyPa42cpSswc4B4SuRrKt_YkPL8hd0ehWeijuIM77kayXFDPUbEatAS6XorAQAmi_PReMiHfnQ/s1600/dissociation657seeds.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgpPNAotexFp-XjzEFgI4gvbMFi2Rz4oXIz-Wzh4JJo7F2DUcRemwqNmtvotgNyjDXYRYYyPa42cpSswc4B4SuRrKt_YkPL8hd0ehWeijuIM77kayXFDPUbEatAS6XorAQAmi_PReMiHfnQ/s320/dissociation657seeds.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">As we come to extract the arrows of our childhood we realise change coming to live in a radically different world. Our mental make-up has become different from others. This is painful for us. We may be attracted to some members, but on a child within level we may be incompatible.</span><div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br />We who undertake the stages courses to, taking the path of resolving our deepest childhood traumas, are deeply changed by it.</span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"> We are no longer like other people who have suffered from disrespect. We can relate to them, but they can no longer relate to us, because they have no frame of reference by which to understand us. We will judge them accurately, and they will only misjudge us in return – and label us as the judgmental one. We will breathe and function outside the box in which they operate.<br /><br />This will become painful for us. We will often lack for company. We will know loneliness. We will know isolation. We will not always enjoy it. We will crave the approval from others who will not be able to give it. They will not be able to rescue us.<br /><br />It is hard to be a stager. Most new species in our planet’s history have died out quickly. Many such as us do not find mates. We have to learn to be alone. It is easier to join the flock and find our partner within its folds.<br /><br />But there is hope for ten stagers. As individuals we live a long time and we are compelled to fight for our way. Perhaps we will catch hold and someday become dominant. Even if we do not breed on a physical level, our ideas can…and already are. This is a wonderful time of change. The world is open. The world needs to hear our message.</span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

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Our only problem is to think that we shouldn't have problems.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiA9tcY1sCWSPYF2gjBePV1PuzI4Y9R-23MGs6L6jQ98SkrczI717HT0xxPK8WUjF6QCFDlaVjQeGdoUWf2vogGVxcLE_w7dhLV8BgadBqmoE1eWAj6M5YMmTt8tlECBNjHqkYoD1E_ku5-/s1600/%255BUNSET%255D" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="494" data-original-width="640" height="247" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiA9tcY1sCWSPYF2gjBePV1PuzI4Y9R-23MGs6L6jQ98SkrczI717HT0xxPK8WUjF6QCFDlaVjQeGdoUWf2vogGVxcLE_w7dhLV8BgadBqmoE1eWAj6M5YMmTt8tlECBNjHqkYoD1E_ku5-/s320/%255BUNSET%255D" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Our only problem is to think that we shouldn't have problems.<br /><br />We think we have many different problems, but we really only have one and that's separation from ourselves. No matter what the problem area is in our lives, at the causal level that problem has to do with our own consciousness. Whatever our brokenness is, it's reflected in a particular problem. That's the area of our lives where we need to take a closer walk with hand in hand with our child within.<br /><br />Now - if you don't like the word CHILD, you can use any word that works for YOU. Don't get caught up in the semantics. The word could be life or The Uni-verse, or The Divine, or Source or Jesus, Buddha, etc.<br /></span><br /><br />But the basic idea is that problems are a sign of life, a sign of being on an adventure, and you only really see problems when you are disconnected from your Source - otherwise they are always gifts bearing fruit.<br /><br /><br /><br />The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our only problem is to think that we shouldn't have problems.

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Disrespect and Abuse during childhood creates within us a lost, fearful and frozen child.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGshywXVcLHCISVeY9iPk3A3MyV4PnJXPg_XlfBfQuAx6lXkDZtvL6LOTyZViR7lgeF8qxNkSK3hRSUucsKPm8qhfZ1ejYhQ7Xx16-9raahljdvJpF58t4AFzjGzJTZxPJD8xrSKwARzVj/s1600/dissociation657seeds.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGshywXVcLHCISVeY9iPk3A3MyV4PnJXPg_XlfBfQuAx6lXkDZtvL6LOTyZViR7lgeF8qxNkSK3hRSUucsKPm8qhfZ1ejYhQ7Xx16-9raahljdvJpF58t4AFzjGzJTZxPJD8xrSKwARzVj/s320/dissociation657seeds.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Disrespect and Abuse during childhood creates within us a lost, fearful and frozen child. If we are unable to reach this </span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">child within in our adult life then we may never recover our true selves. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We may prefer to dissociate from the sufferings of childhood, so we bury our memories and hide from them. We dissociate</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> from seeing deeply into the causes of our early suffering. Whenever the memories arise, however fleetingly, we think we cannot handle them and we deflect them into the deepest realms of our unconscious mind.We DISSOCIATE We are frightened of further suffering. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">As a result, the child hidden within may not be seen for a long time. Yet we have to find a way to reach our child within and make it into a safe reality. We have to regress the fear and address the dissociation, because that is the way to awakening into our true reality.</span><br /> <div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />No matter what kind of happy pretend face we present as an adult, there is also a dissociated little boy or girl inside us. This child within colours everything we do, generating our fears, insecurities and self-loathing, damaging our relationships and our life. That child within is you, is me, and we must extend a hand to that child so we can understand, defuse and transform the energy of our suffering. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Kindfulness and the ten stages are the way through to the child within. We have to make contact exactly where we are caught by the past events, fearful, and angry at being neglected for so long.<br /><br />We must touch the seeds of childhood suffering from an adult state of Kindfulness and awareness, making it safe for that child to come out from behind closed basement doors. As adults, we can no longer run away, dissociation has ceased to be an adequate coping strategy. We must have the courage to bring healing to our soporific </span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">child within and thereby transform ourselves. And the stages we take are not only to heal ourselves we somehow connect to all children within, those of our ancestors and descendants and everyone else in the world. Because once we cultivate the seeds of Kindful healing in ourselves, the energy of these seeds extends into all that we connect with, in a quantum leap through time and space from our cellular memories to everyone else’s. With awareness, we take our child within into our daily life: we go on picnics, take walks, sit at the dining-room table, do the dishes together. We’re patient, realising that we’re on a splendid adventure to end a cycle of suffering that may have persisted over generations. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Thus we are healing and transforming ingrained patterns transmitted to us from our ancestors and through us to our descendants, patterns that built up over time like corrosive rust and amplified the fears and suffering of our</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> child hidden from view within.</span></div> <div> <div> </div> </div> </div> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Disrespect and Abuse during childhood creates within us a lost, fearful and frozen child.

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No one is created addicted. We begin life perfectly unscathed. Immature, yes. Underdeveloped, yes. Innocent and naïve, yes. At risk, yes. Uncoordinated and at times confused, yes.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJMDv94OExfoDo65Tb7p1-ZRNgw625sh-ZPKUDBdBKJKeqaHTUnOGRnZ81ymKvttXV4KWRTEDvv8qpTF7Bc22kNVor-n_h2balq6Mme47APqFFq7QjiPdaaTyp2sD2p65_sZDpjADmoVuj/s1600/dayhab+yellow.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJMDv94OExfoDo65Tb7p1-ZRNgw625sh-ZPKUDBdBKJKeqaHTUnOGRnZ81ymKvttXV4KWRTEDvv8qpTF7Bc22kNVor-n_h2balq6Mme47APqFFq7QjiPdaaTyp2sD2p65_sZDpjADmoVuj/s320/dayhab+yellow.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">No one is created addicted. We begin life perfectly unscathed. Immature, yes. Underdeveloped, yes. Innocent and naïve, yes. At risk, yes. Uncoordinated and at times confused, yes. We say this because all of these things can also lead us, especially a child, to take imperfect care of himself or herself. But this has nothing to do with addiction, because:</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">Un-addicted people have a natural instinct to make healthy decisions in the best interest of their true selves. They are only limited by their immaturity and the brokenness of their external world. Ten Stage DayHab recreates the environment of Trust and Consent that leads us back to the truth.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

No one is created addicted. We begin life perfectly unscathed. Immature, yes. Underdeveloped, yes. Innocent and naïve, yes. At risk, yes. Uncoordinated and at times confused, yes.

No one is created addicted. We begin life perfectly unscathed. Immature, yes. Underdeveloped, yes. Innocent and naïve, yes. At risk, yes. ...

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Self Compassion a root to Freedom and Recovery

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_ZEcIwkHO9NOs0BvqSpVG8wht6ICKsfKWw9IdUzWJXegq0swPTcWRzoNlfVf6LhqBUkwZxGXTbDp1RvEbPGYWZM8XfO4JXGdbyNqGSCjWVi7gB4UzqBPw0R04WhsatoV5nX5JmjaIvzhK/s1600/1-potty23.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="159" data-original-width="316" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_ZEcIwkHO9NOs0BvqSpVG8wht6ICKsfKWw9IdUzWJXegq0swPTcWRzoNlfVf6LhqBUkwZxGXTbDp1RvEbPGYWZM8XfO4JXGdbyNqGSCjWVi7gB4UzqBPw0R04WhsatoV5nX5JmjaIvzhK/s1600/1-potty23.jpg" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Think of ourselves as our own best friend, our own child within extend to ourself the care and concern, the love and attention, that we would give to our child. Embrace ourself as your own Child Within.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">"Think of the person sitting nearest you. Be that person's best friend, extending our love and compassion, our care, and concern, to him or her.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">"Think of ourself as the best friend of everyone who is present, and extend our love and compassion, friendship, care and concern to everyone with you. Fill everyone and embrace everyone with our friendship.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">"Now think of ourself as your Child Within's best friend. Fill the Child with our love and concern, and embrace our Child Within with our friendship, letting our child know how much we care.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">"Think of our nearest and dearest, and be their best friend. Fill them with our care, our concern, and our love, embracing them with our friendship.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">"Now think of all our good friends. Let them feel that we are their best friend. Fill them with love, embrace them in friendship.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">"Think of anyone whom we find difficult to get along with or hard to love. Become that person's best friend, thereby removing all obstacles in our own heart. Embrace him or her with love and compassion.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">"Open our heart as wide as we can to as many people as possible, near and far. Let the feeling of care and concern, of love and compassion, reach out into the distance to as many beings as we can imagine, embracing them all in friendship.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">"Bring our attention back to ourself. Feel the happiness that comes from communicating with our own Child Within. The ease and harmony that we can feel comes from accepting ourself, caring for ourself, enjoying our own company, just like a perfect Child Within would.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">"May all beings practice Loving-Kindfulness with each other."</span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Self Compassion a root to Freedom and Recovery

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We all want a perfect explanation. Now We’ve had to learn, that some poems don’t rhyme

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgd289I9QdpGMtRJPGb52lkHIUyE8jGL2oSGYeKcDlfZ6jLWlUId1JFBxQ7_Eb8Mfp8FjahVpvinqhS3ndMDbGAo_T_4gi_ViWANjxzUCTwZ37O_45xcTe449FTmErgD6yKIyN_Bqx3Lgvs/s1600/Ten+Stage+con.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="315" data-original-width="851" height="118" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgd289I9QdpGMtRJPGb52lkHIUyE8jGL2oSGYeKcDlfZ6jLWlUId1JFBxQ7_Eb8Mfp8FjahVpvinqhS3ndMDbGAo_T_4gi_ViWANjxzUCTwZ37O_45xcTe449FTmErgD6yKIyN_Bqx3Lgvs/s320/Ten+Stage+con.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We all want a perfect explanation. Now We’ve had to learn, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some of our stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity of living in the moment.</span><br /><br />The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We all want a perfect explanation. Now We’ve had to learn, that some poems don’t rhyme

We all want a perfect explanation. Now We’ve had to learn, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some of our stories don’t have a clear beginni...

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We find as we progress the ten stages that we generate the capacity to grieve the abuse

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhFZQFpZ8e7E3kJmUw8s2GrrOi8gUysu0gAk3zCS2di2kge7JU0t1MP65JQnVeGC0RH79b2yfH04mLNB6rtd7YMgdtXH3JddFqSr47EMqGhyphenhyphenH7eAWh1m6r83z-VmJhcieBs9hOCLvxY069e/s1600/tenstage+experience45.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1200" data-original-width="1600" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhFZQFpZ8e7E3kJmUw8s2GrrOi8gUysu0gAk3zCS2di2kge7JU0t1MP65JQnVeGC0RH79b2yfH04mLNB6rtd7YMgdtXH3JddFqSr47EMqGhyphenhyphenH7eAWh1m6r83z-VmJhcieBs9hOCLvxY069e/s320/tenstage+experience45.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We find as we progress the ten stages that we generate the capacity to grieve the abuse and disrespect of our childhood in a safe place. Grieving opens our psychological doors to inner peace.<br /><br /><br /><i>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</i></span>

We find as we progress the ten stages that we generate the capacity to grieve the abuse

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This is the way great healthy recovery giants are produced.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_rVdr4-pBIb-BFmxPOW_VTNChnR05mb44o1pGFKxL5yK-q5-ukn_nuI-Nh-mGvoc6NJb_pSJzX-iIDqPnfUdMkjkxiEnqhygzjhf0bxO7IUqrHB7y4jUDsYsDDapGeZWFTsDSmxKmPpgi/s1600/ten+stage23+%25281%2529.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="315" data-original-width="851" height="118" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_rVdr4-pBIb-BFmxPOW_VTNChnR05mb44o1pGFKxL5yK-q5-ukn_nuI-Nh-mGvoc6NJb_pSJzX-iIDqPnfUdMkjkxiEnqhygzjhf0bxO7IUqrHB7y4jUDsYsDDapGeZWFTsDSmxKmPpgi/s320/ten+stage23+%25281%2529.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Take up The Ten Stages as our idea. Make that one idea our recovery - think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of our body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to recovery success, this is the way great healthy recovery giants are produced.</span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

This is the way great healthy recovery giants are produced.

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Going on a violence fast

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiYZ0ISWvmybwbJjqOnFLapXrB8dh-r58urfbduP0R71Wq6uPA1O13KAxI9ggPOFJHh3HAugaLdEhgY7hyphenhyphenRzh5m-oWXHWf3Wv2hRQagWdh3iuiAxEtmD9iEdoULfg4q84Z2iXVhWzfHyH0J/s1600/stage+barbed+wire.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1102" data-original-width="735" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiYZ0ISWvmybwbJjqOnFLapXrB8dh-r58urfbduP0R71Wq6uPA1O13KAxI9ggPOFJHh3HAugaLdEhgY7hyphenhyphenRzh5m-oWXHWf3Wv2hRQagWdh3iuiAxEtmD9iEdoULfg4q84Z2iXVhWzfHyH0J/s320/stage+barbed+wire.jpg" width="213" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">As we follow the Ten Stages and start to practice loving-Kindfulness. We must be careful to avoid ingesting triggering toxins in the form of violent TV programs, video games, movies, magazines, and books. When we watch that kind of gratuitous violence, we water our own negative seeds, or tendencies, and eventually we will think and act out of those violent seeds.<br /><br />To Practice loving-kindfulness to the self use This Thought:<br />Go on a violence fast. Give up entertainments which contain any kind of violence and learn to communicate with kindfulness.</span><div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Going on a violence fast

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When we courageously confront our past in the ten stages we discover how much we have gained from our apparent losses.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgtvX1C_1Z36tZ54bsG9BB67Zj6b9AkrUnjfjnm7ckNFFeqVfOmNmVCNZ4v5ZleQlaDQ52RDjYOlzqGMZda_SrQmVD44Nun5W_2-yc1dZPmDmuyqtdNm85otL1M_Fg9IQlWIRAOQlNhl-zn/s1600/self+study.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="280" data-original-width="336" height="266" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgtvX1C_1Z36tZ54bsG9BB67Zj6b9AkrUnjfjnm7ckNFFeqVfOmNmVCNZ4v5ZleQlaDQ52RDjYOlzqGMZda_SrQmVD44Nun5W_2-yc1dZPmDmuyqtdNm85otL1M_Fg9IQlWIRAOQlNhl-zn/s320/self+study.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <div style="font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; font-size: 17px; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden; width: 580px;"> When we courageously confront our past in the ten stages we discover how much we have gained from our apparent losses. Once we get past our anxiety, we awaken to the hidden benefits that accrue from what we took to be painful failures.</div> <div style="font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; font-size: 17px; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden; width: 580px;"> Many of us have courageously and continuously confronted past events and relationships that have left us dispirited. Unaddressed and unsupported, they can prevent us from reaching our fully recovered potential. It is within our capacity to reframe hurts that have affected us for many years, so that they no longer have such a hold on us.</div> <div style="font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; font-size: 17px; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden; width: 580px;"> This course is a collaborative venture with Dissociation Anonymous to guide us on a restorative, enlivening journey. It consists of 10 meditations that we can schedule at a pace that suits our needs. Each meditation provides reflective tools and support for focusing on such topics as:</div> <div style="font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; font-size: 17px; margin-bottom: 20px; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden; width: 580px;"> - The role of life review<br />- Reframing the past with current wisdom<br />- What to do about regrets<br />- Forgiving self and others<br />- Healing painful memories and relationships</div> <div> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

When we courageously confront our past in the ten stages we discover how much we have gained from our apparent losses.

When we courageously confront our past in the ten stages we discover how much we have gained from our apparent losses. Once we get past o...

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Writing about and attempting to define what life as a member of Ten Stages feels like is tough.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi5u_aLerPcv8S4S10DYClaSJlDVjR1c1nR_A7WFO2tbkm3ZTsKjD3xZHKWRXYG5rLXSO-vd6sHvoGq_T-LkgHUbl_UDAhh3tZV9bJY86EFbFG5-xi9rIeNh5-DTJqNyJJasyEShs3t90rs/s1600/our+meditations.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="789" data-original-width="940" height="167" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi5u_aLerPcv8S4S10DYClaSJlDVjR1c1nR_A7WFO2tbkm3ZTsKjD3xZHKWRXYG5rLXSO-vd6sHvoGq_T-LkgHUbl_UDAhh3tZV9bJY86EFbFG5-xi9rIeNh5-DTJqNyJJasyEShs3t90rs/s200/our+meditations.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">Writing about and attempting to define what life as a member of Ten Stages</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"> feels like is tough. </span><br /> <span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">We</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"> around the world are sharing what dissociation</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"> feels like in an effort to spread awareness and promote understanding of The Ten Stage Solution.</span><br /> <span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span> <span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"> I asked a group of people with </span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">dissociative addiction disorder (DAD)</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"> to describe, in their own words, what having DAD feels like. The answers were varied, with both positives and negatives. To one person, living with DAD feels like, “having a war inside my head,” yet to another, DAD “feels like a gift.” The answers show just how diverse DAD really is.</span><br /> <span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">Life with Dissociative Addiction Disorder Feels at first Like Being Lost and Disconnected</span><br style="background-color: white; font-family: Lora, serif; font-size: 16px;" /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Lora, serif; font-size: 16px;"></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">Depersonalisation and derealisation are symptoms that are experienced by many with DAD and other dissociative disorders. One person described DAD as, “being disconnected to my body and the surroundings.”</span><br style="background-color: white; font-family: Lora, serif; font-size: 16px;" /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Lora, serif; font-size: 16px;"></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">Several people described having DAD as feeling lost in time, never really being sure of what day it is. Sometimes, you lose hours; other times, you lose weeks of your life. These feelings lead to confusion; it becomes difficult to know what happened and what didn’t happen. “Is it real or is this just in my head?”</span><br style="background-color: white; font-family: Lora, serif; font-size: 16px;" /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">Life with Dissociative Addiction</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"> Disorder Feels Like Living in Constant Fear and Pain</span><br style="background-color: white; font-family: Lora, serif; font-size: 16px;" /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Lora, serif; font-size: 16px;"></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">To some, life with DAD feels like living in constant fear. Fear of the outside world, fear of oneself, fear of one’s emotions, fear of the past, present, and future. For those that also experience post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), flashbacks can intensify the fear and lead to increased physical and emotional pain. Headaches and migraines can overtake you at any time. Physical pain manifests itself in different parts of the body, as different parts hold pain in different places. Sometimes, there is no medical reason for the pain, but you or your parts feel the pain regardless, and it’s real pain.</span><br style="background-color: white; font-family: Lora, serif; font-size: 16px;" /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Lora, serif; font-size: 16px;"></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">Dissociative Addiction Disorder Questioning Your Memories:</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">One of the major symptoms of DAD is memory loss, and, aside from alters, memory experiences have the greatest impact on those affected by DAD. One person referred to memories as, “currency traded among friends.”</span><br style="background-color: white; font-family: Lora, serif; font-size: 16px;" /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Lora, serif; font-size: 16px;"></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">This is because different memories are held by different children within</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">, and are shared (or not shared) with other parts of </span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">our system. </span><br /> <span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span> <span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">Some of us with DAD cannot remember where they are, even when they are in a place they have been before, or they cannot remember a person’s name who they have seen before. This is because those places and people were experienced by a different part, the child within, a part that holds different memories. </span><br /> <span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span> <span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">People with DAD are not always sure what they will remember, and there is sometimes an underlying worry that one will forget who their family members are or forget how to do one’s job. It’s upsetting when you can’t remember things that you know happened. Sometimes, DAD means having to ask for validation, because you are constantly trying to figure out if the memories are real.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: courier new, courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br style="background-color: white;" /></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">Life with a Dissociative Addiction Disorder Can Feel Normal; It’s Not Always Bad</span><br style="background-color: white; font-family: Lora, serif; font-size: 16px;" /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Lora, serif; font-size: 16px;"></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">Considering the struggles that people with DAD experience on a regular basis, DAD does not always feel so negative; there is good along with the bad. A common theme is that DAD feels like never being alone. Even when there is no one else in the room, it feels like you have a child there with you: your child within. You learn to adapt to the world with them. As one member put it, “being multiple is as normal to me as being a singleton is to a singleton.”</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Writing about and attempting to define what life as a member of Ten Stages feels like is tough.

Writing about and attempting to define what life as a member of Ten Stages  feels like is tough.  We  around the world are sharing what d...

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We at The Ten Stages refer to the Stages often as The Child Within. Why is this?

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMTRapBRfBzkP7MpFIDiCzbhMO11Mrt3lIND5VGzVB8veSF3JES0-iDPpP-qywkxaUKfmqywU8bWj1yioovGyx2zL1OVNpatICE2uthlgXKgPlivfuXnPtX5pVdP4MoaQEQ_XqqRbw40ym/s1600/Ten+Simple.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMTRapBRfBzkP7MpFIDiCzbhMO11Mrt3lIND5VGzVB8veSF3JES0-iDPpP-qywkxaUKfmqywU8bWj1yioovGyx2zL1OVNpatICE2uthlgXKgPlivfuXnPtX5pVdP4MoaQEQ_XqqRbw40ym/s320/Ten+Simple.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We at The Ten Stages</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> refer to the Stages often as The Child Within. Why is this? We like to point out the obvious close relationship to ourselves in these simple words. . Together, in all our own unique ways, we are all participating in One Song. We believe that underlying and orchestrating this One Song is a creative and benevolent Presence that has our best interest in mind. We use the word Child Within to highlight our similarities and as an attempt to reference this Presence without any dogma, stigma or other associations.</span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />We wish to point out what we lovely and amazing human beings have in common, rather than highlight any differences. We feel that the word Child Within is our little part to help create a new vocabulary that unites instead of divides our many diverse cultures, traditions and faiths.</span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

We at The Ten Stages refer to the Stages often as The Child Within. Why is this?

We at The Ten Stages  refer to the Stages often as The Child Within. Why is this? We like to point out the obvious close relationship to o...

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Characteristics of Dissociated Adult Children

<div style="background-color: white; color: #3b3b3b; font-family: proxima-nova; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 24px; margin-top: 24px; word-wrap: break-word;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEihzRfuroUn8C0Yr_m1EvWot7IJdPLVTlCIRc-zGKPR4eQs9Snqbv18kJWVP4XotNGm4XBv4_JS4Ocrwj0Z9L6j0os2MxakhqgZHta9PPtxSCWxVZnET6evsLtPu5KOhXtv-Ckhp4Blerp-/s1600/within+child.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="192" data-original-width="192" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEihzRfuroUn8C0Yr_m1EvWot7IJdPLVTlCIRc-zGKPR4eQs9Snqbv18kJWVP4XotNGm4XBv4_JS4Ocrwj0Z9L6j0os2MxakhqgZHta9PPtxSCWxVZnET6evsLtPu5KOhXtv-Ckhp4Blerp-/s1600/within+child.jpeg" /></a></div> <span style="color: black; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Characteristics of Dissociated Adult Children</span><br /> <span style="color: black; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <span style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">Characteristics of Dissociated Adult Children<br /><br />Dissociated Adult Children: -</span><br /> <div style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br />guess at what normal is.</span></div> <div style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br />have difficulty in following a project through from beginning to end.</span></div> <div style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br />lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.</span></div> <div style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br />judge themselves without mercy.</span></div> <div style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br />have difficulty having fun.</span></div> <div style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br />take themselves very seriously.</span></div> <div style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br />have difficulty with intimate relationships.</span></div> <div style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br />overreact to changes over which they have no control.</span></div> <div style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br />constantly seek approval and affirmation.</span></div> <div style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br />feel that they are different from other people.</span></div> <div style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br />are either super responsible or super irresponsible.</span></div> <div style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br />are extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that loyalty is undeserved.</span></div> <div style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br />tend to lock themselves into a course of action without giving serious consideration to alternative behaviours or possible consequences. </span></div> <div style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div> <div style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">This impulsivity leads to confusion, self-loathing, and loss of control of their environment. </span></div> <div style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div> <div style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">As a result, they spend tremendous amounts of time cleaning up the mess.</span></div> <div style="background-color: #e6e6e6; color: #131313; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">The most important part of life, and the only part of life that we can truly control, is our perception. We may have influence over other parts of our life, but the only thing we have 100% control over is how we CHOOSE to perceive the events of our lives.<br /><br /><br /><br />One of the basic messages of DA is that you are not a victim, but a co-creator of your life with The Child Within which frees you from the adult child syndrome of self hatred.<br /><br /><br /><br />It’s easy to play the victim, and a lot of people out there will try to convince you that it’s easier to blame other people for the circumstances of your life. One of the reasons it’s easy to be a victim is because you give away the response-ability of the outcome and circumstances of your life to some other person or entity.<br /><br /><br /><br />As a victim, we tell ourselves that it’s not our fault; it’s the government’s fault, or our significant other's fault, or our friend’s fault or our parents’ fault. If you really get creative you can imagine a whole range of people to blame for your life.<br /><br /><br /><br />But the truth is that you are the one making the choices in your life. YOU have the free will and ability to CHOOSE to connect to your child within, or not.<br /><br /><br /><br />If you’re like us, you’ve probably made a mistake or two in your life . For a long time it was easy to blame people for the outcome. When things didn’t go the way We WANTED them to We would just make it someone else’s fault.<br /><br /><br /><br />But, We started to learn differently.  We began to learn how to take our power and authority back. We began to see that the way we thrive is by making our WORLD WITHIN stronger than the outer world.<br /><br /> The story you tell yourself about your life will dictate the outcome of it. CHOICE is the most important power in your WORLD WITHIN.  it is the power of your INTENTION that forms the outcome of your life. life is hard and that when you realise and accept that, life is no longer hard.  Put loving KINDFULNESS first and to keep your recovery visions grounded and in real time. Learn to love ourselves big time and to keep our thoughts in alignment with what we want, rather than what we don’t want.  Unconditional Loving-KINDFULNESS  we can experience this Love when we have right thought, take right action and keep our focus off of ourselves and keep it instead on our pure intuitive voice.<br /><br /><br /><br />How could we possibly let ourselves be a victim knowing all these things?</span></div> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Characteristics of Dissociated Adult Children

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Most successful recoveries for us who suffers from dissociations attached to an addiction cycle exhibit some of the following components:

<div class="row sqs-row" style="margin-left: -17px; margin-right: -17px; width: auto !important;"> <div class="col sqs-col-6 span-6" style="float: left; padding-right: 0px; width: 517px;"> <div class="sqs-block html-block sqs-block-html" data-block-type="2" id="block-yui_3_17_2_2_1437773825911_6896" style="box-shadow: rgba(128, 128, 128, 0) 0px 0px 0px 1px inset; clear: none; height: auto; outline: none; padding: 12px 17px; position: relative; transition: box-shadow 0.2s ease-in-out;"> <div class="sqs-block-content" style="cursor: auto; outline: none;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNyb3ayBFki4zVnBtZ_6VLNkWGautuKTs2uFNRXZEz5hxzl_AUFCcFMUenluAaYG0AKoEQCaWMHNy0KuqH5z-VJwG9LrC1fz7jlzX7it7kOUk9vpzxhOC5hlPjs1HHtPSiHOlG5WMUtYar/s1600/2018addiction.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="315" data-original-width="851" height="118" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNyb3ayBFki4zVnBtZ_6VLNkWGautuKTs2uFNRXZEz5hxzl_AUFCcFMUenluAaYG0AKoEQCaWMHNy0KuqH5z-VJwG9LrC1fz7jlzX7it7kOUk9vpzxhOC5hlPjs1HHtPSiHOlG5WMUtYar/s320/2018addiction.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <div style="font-family: proxima-nova; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 24px; margin-top: 24px; word-wrap: break-word;"> Most successful recoveries for us who suffers from dissociations attached to an addict<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">ion cycle exhibit some of the following components:</span></div> <div style="font-family: proxima-nova; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 24px; margin-top: 24px; word-wrap: break-word;"> <strong style="word-wrap: break-word;">Acknowledging the Problem of Dissociation</strong> - As with many things in life, acknowledging that there is a problem is often the first stage in our recovery - and sometimes the most difficult.</div> <div style="font-family: proxima-nova; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 24px; margin-top: 24px; word-wrap: break-word;"> <strong style="word-wrap: break-word;">Longevity of the behaviour </strong>- Because of the rapid, mood swings that we sometimes experience, it can be difficult to tell whether a change in our behaviour is evidence of a substantial improvement or just part of the normal up and down of our feelings.</div> <div style="font-family: proxima-nova; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 24px; margin-top: 24px; word-wrap: break-word;"> <strong style="word-wrap: break-word;">Working with The Child Within -</strong> The second necessary ingredient of real recovery in dissociation is self-work studying our realised truth, mapping our behaviour.</div> <div style="font-family: proxima-nova; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 24px; margin-top: 24px; word-wrap: break-word;"> <strong style="word-wrap: break-word;">Yielding Control of Dissociation </strong>- One of the necessary ingredients for recovery perhaps one of the most difficult, is to relinquish control of the dissociated self-relationship and to gain back control over our own lives.</div> <div style="font-family: proxima-nova; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-top: 24px; word-wrap: break-word;"> <br /></div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="row sqs-row" style="margin-left: -17px; 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It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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TEN STAGES The most important part of life, and the only part of life that we can truly control, is our perception.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_rVdr4-pBIb-BFmxPOW_VTNChnR05mb44o1pGFKxL5yK-q5-ukn_nuI-Nh-mGvoc6NJb_pSJzX-iIDqPnfUdMkjkxiEnqhygzjhf0bxO7IUqrHB7y4jUDsYsDDapGeZWFTsDSmxKmPpgi/s1600/ten+stage23+%25281%2529.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="315" data-original-width="851" height="118" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_rVdr4-pBIb-BFmxPOW_VTNChnR05mb44o1pGFKxL5yK-q5-ukn_nuI-Nh-mGvoc6NJb_pSJzX-iIDqPnfUdMkjkxiEnqhygzjhf0bxO7IUqrHB7y4jUDsYsDDapGeZWFTsDSmxKmPpgi/s320/ten+stage23+%25281%2529.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">TEN STAGES Thought for 2018 First Meeting</span><br /> <br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The most important part of life, and the only part of life that we can truly control, is our perception. We may have influence over other parts of our life, but the only thing we have 100% control over is how we CHOOSE to perceive the events of our lives.</span><br /> <br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">One of the basic messages of THE TEN STAGES is that you are not a victim, but a co-creator of your life with The Child Within.</span><br /> <br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">It’s easy to play the victim, and a lot of people out there will try to convince you that it’s easier to blame other people for the circumstances of your life. One of the reasons it’s easy to be a victim is because you give away the response-ability of the outcome and circumstances of your life to some other person or entity.</span><br /> <br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">As a victim, we tell ourselves that it’s not our fault; it’s the government’s fault, or our significant other's fault, or our friend’s fault or our parents’ fault. If you really get creative you can imagine a whole range of people to blame for your life.</span><br /> <br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /> <br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">But the truth is that you are the one making the choices in your life. YOU have the free will and ability to CHOOSE to connect to your child within, or not.</span><br /> <br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /> <br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">If you’re like us, you’ve probably made a mistake or two in your life . For a long time it was easy to blame people for the outcome. When things didn’t go the way We WANTED them to We would just make it someone else’s fault.</span><br /> <br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">But, We started to learn differently.  We began to learn how to take our power and authority back. We began to see that the way we thrive is by making our WORLD WITHIN stronger than the outer world.</span><br /> <br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> The story you tell yourself about your life will dictate the outcome of it. CHOICE is the most important power in your WORLD WITHIN.  it is the power of your INTENTION that forms the outcome of your life. life is hard and that when you realise and accept that, life is no longer hard.  Put loving KINDFULNESS first and to keep your recovery visions grounded and in real time. Learn to love ourselves big time and to keep our thoughts in alignment with what we want, rather than what we don’t want.  Unconditional Loving-KINDFULNESS  we can experience this Love when we have right thought, take right action and keep our focus off of ourselves and keep it instead on our pure intuitive voice.</span><br /> <br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">How could we possibly let ourselves be a victim knowing all these things?</span><br /> <br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">If you really get that these lessons in the ten stages are REAL and TRUE and WORK, then, if you’re like us, you will feel called to turn our mess into a heart felt message for 2018.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

TEN STAGES The most important part of life, and the only part of life that we can truly control, is our perception.

TEN STAGES Thought for 2018 First Meeting The most important part of life, and the only part of life that we can truly control, is our p...

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