We compensated for lack of nurturing as a child by immersing ourselves in fantasy.

We compensated for lack of nurturing as a child by immersing ourselves in fantasy. Fantasies of being rescued or being the rescuer abound. Knights, dragons, romance novels- getting high from fantasy becomes habit.

When we play with fantasy, we can get high in about 10 minutes, and stay there for 2-3 hours. Endorphins are released into their system, relieving emotional pain and alienating our child within further.

We begin relationships by trying too hard to please and connect. We are driven to find someone to tell us that we are loveable and loved; to find someone who will rescue us from our inability to care for ourselves; rescue us from their loneliness, emptiness of our childhood, lack of self-love, inability to feel safe in the world without someone to protect us. We look for a relationship to make us feel whole and abandon our child within once more.


The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com