The Ten Stages are intended to help us make sense of our recovery process, to understand the dynamics of communicating with the child hidden within, and to absorb this into our present reality.

The Ten Stages are based on the principle that we each have the capacity to be our own guide on life’s path. Experience has taught us that all the answers to life are within and that the best access is our past sometimes traumatic history and this contact alone can point us in the direction of personal recovery. Ultimately it is up to us to communicate with ourselves.

You take away my pain

You make me feel whole again

When I don't know where to turn

I turn around and there you are

You are the moon up in my sky

You are my shining star

You are everything to me

And I believe........
The struggle and the responsibility are ours, and ours alone.This responsibility is constantly evaded by means of dissociation and disordered addictions.

Our program of recovery, is a program of self-healing, rests on our experience that unresolved traumas from childhood block our connection with our true self. Where we remain traumatised we act out unconsciously and destructively in any number of ways—according to the templates of our traumatic past. We heal by resolving our traumas. This healing connects us to the river of truth that runs through our personal contact with a child hidden within us, which frees our deeper gifts of cognition, and opens us up to our life’s purpose.

Without my beautiful child within here with me

I'd be lost forever more

I'd stay locked behind my heart

And throw away the key to that door

You bring peace back to my nights

Because of you my eyes shine bright
And I believe........These ten stages are a universal pathway to healing our ancient emotional wounds. They lead us out of the darkness of our unconscious lives and into the enlightenment of our full conscious connection with truth and personal honesty. They are the backbone of our healing process, but like a backbone they are flexible. They are suggestions, not the law, and they strive only to guide us within to making a personal contact with our intuitive voice. Ultimately we need not trust anyone else’s words, platform, or methods; our own connection to our child within provides the best map of all. 

Communication at depth is complex. Our childhood traumas tangled us up, and at times our growth process reacts to these tangles. Some facets of our personality can be enlightened while other parts remain buried and traumatised. Grieving, a process necessary for restoring the child withins communication, often has a life of its own. For these reasons, we can work one stage at a time. We can repeat several early stages before moving on to an advanced one, or we can repeat several advanced stages before returning to an earlier one. If recovery were simple and linear everyone would be long since healed.

The Ten Stages are intended to help us make sense of our recovery process, to understand the dynamics of communicating with the child hidden within, and to absorb this into our present reality. Our goal is gentle understanding, and we hope this program of recovery, and the wisdom it contains, helps you move the stages closer to you.


The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com