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After a period of time we gain a faith..

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After a period of time we gain a faith.... and a belief system which are not synonymous, many different beliefs are held by people with faith. Belief is an opinion derived by experience. Whereas faith is a conviction that requires no experience. Beliefs are derived from critical thinking through evaluating information and evidences to which one is exposed. Faith is above and separate from our minds and from critical thinking. Faith sees beliefs for what they are, limiting and limited. As conscious Beings with awareness we can recognize the varied beliefs derived and subscribed to through human intellect. Beliefs surrounding god, nature, politics, religion, theology, money, government, race, etc. etc. All these belief systems require one to engage intellectually with personal experience or shared knowledge. Faith requires no such conditioning. Genuine faith cannot be shaken by any belief system. Faith allows for and encourages a willingness to explore ALL beliefs. Faith allows one to quickly see beyond the limitations of any belief. Faith allows one to recognize that beliefs are prejudiced from one’s own point of view. Faith is fair-minded treating all viewpoints equally without regard for one’s own feelings or vested interests. Faith delivers a person from the prison of beliefs and delivers an awareness that all beliefs are limiting and actually work against faith. Faith is open to all beliefs understanding that beliefs are the framework that builds societies and are adopted for harmonious living. Faith moves us through the contradictions and complexity of human beliefs allowing the willingness to explore and confirm all beliefs in an open-minded manner knowing they are limited to those who hold to them. By being open to all beliefs and conditioned thought patterns we encourage unity and oneness. By holding to one belief as true over another denies faith which is open oneness and completeness. Resist limiting beliefs embrace the abundance of faith.<div class="sharedaddy sd-rating-enabled sd-like-enabled sd-sharing-enabled" id="jp-post-flair" style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; clear: both; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, "Bitstream Charter", serif; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; padding: 0.5em 0px 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

After a period of time we gain a faith..

After a period of time we gain a faith.... and a belief system which are not synonymous, many different beliefs are held by people with fa...

When we make our first tentative attempts at contact with our child within we need to re-visit an old method of communication Intulexia

Fraser Trevor

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Title: When we make our first tentative attempts at contact with our child within we need to re-visit an old method of communication Intulexia
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When we make our first tentative attempts at contact with our child within we need to re-visit an old method of communication Intulexia it is our birthright and our natural form of truthful communication. As children we freely connect to our intulexic intuition so naturally that you don’t even know it is Intulexia. It is an everyday awareness permeating our existence that we are intimately connected with and a part of. Life feels magical and our environment is filled with endless possibilities. It doesn’t take long before you lose this sense of presence and wonder. Soon you are more engaged in limited thinking and the responsibilities of life than your joyful, endless playground of Intulexia. We can support our child within to stay connected to our intulexia and all its possibilities by practicing stages below. In the process, we will return to that place ourselves where intulexic awareness is at the forefront of our reality. 
 1. <span class="sumo_twilighter_highlighted twilighter-5af2d33a" style="background-color: rgba(51 , 51 , 51 , 0.15); border: 0px; color: inherit; cursor: inherit; float: inherit; font-family: inherit "important"; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: inherit;">Living Intulexic <span class="sumo_twilighter_highlighted twilighter-5af2d33a" style="background-color: rgba(51 , 51 , 51 , 0.15); border: 0px; color: inherit; cursor: inherit; float: inherit; font-family: inherit "important"; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: inherit;">“We are great imitators. So give us something great to imitate.”<span class="sumo_twilighter_shares" style="background-color: transparent; background-position: 4px 0px; background-repeat: no-repeat; box-shadow: none; color: rgb(94 , 171 , 223); font-size: xx-small; padding: 0px 4px 0px 18px; vertical-align: middle; visibility: visible;">1 The best way to invite our child within into its intulexia is by modelling intulexia living ourselves. It is important to be aware of how much room we create for our own insight and how freely we act on it in our day to day life. When we don’t listen to our intuitive intulexia it impacts our well-being which then impacts our child withins communications. By modelling intulexia, we automatically invite our child within to do the same.We demonstrate empathy and compassion for ourselves. 
 2. Permission and Safety Creating safety and security for our child within to explore and express its own intulexia thoughts and views. Our Child Within sublimates its intulexia because it is feels its not safe to trust it anymore. Between being continuously told what to think and do, and the need to be responsible and “realistic”, it is no wonder intulexic thought has little room to breathe. We automatically create permission and safety by living with the language of the child within, listening and acting from our heart, and by inviting and honouring the expression of our child hidden within to share with us the healthy respect it craves. 
 3. Naturally Creative, Resourceful and Whole 
 “Love is seeing our child within as we really are, and being with them in that place without judgment sometimes in the basement of our life.” How we relate to child within begins with how we see them. If we see our child within as being an empty vessel that we must fill, then there is little room for their intulexic voice. However, if we see our child within as naturally, creative, resourceful and whole, then a world of possibilities opens up for our child. We acknowledge we have a voice, wisdom and gifts to share, and a purpose for being here. By seeing us as who we really are, we hold our child within with much higher esteem which supports us to grow up with clarity and confidence. 
 4. Presence 
 “Deep listening is miraculous for both listener and speaker. When someone receives us with open-hearted, non-judging, intensely interested listening, our child within expands.” ~ How much of our Self are we bringing to our child within? The more present we are within our child, the more present we will be with others. Taking a deep breath, slowing down, and noticing if the mind is wandering away while child within is allowed to speak are all helpful when engaging our child within. It’s important to pay attention to our attention, and where it lies in any given moment. Our Child Within can feel when we are not present , so our capacity to listen and be in its world without the need to impose an agenda serves trust in our adult self and our intulexic voice. 
 5. Educate and Affirm The Child Within who engage with our intulexic voice and make self-affirming choices do not need us to teach them anything. They are already doing it. However, we who demonstrate a lack of self-worth or trust in ourselves may benefit from us affirming our child withins inner wisdom. We can gently remind ourselves that we are wise children within with our own deep seated inner guidance system. We can point to look within for our inner guidance instead of giving our power to others. And we can teach ourselves that intulexia is a new resource that supports the love and care of child within, and that when choices are made from intulexia it serves the greater whole of ourselves. Remind ourselves, when necessary, that intulexia is there for us always, in all ways! Trusting our intulexic voice to know when to do so. 
 6. Curiosity 
 “Children learn how to make good decisions by making decisions, not by following directions.” When we get curious with our child within we re-open a door into our heart. We look within and connect to our feelings and knowing. We uncover values, desires, gifts and dreams, and insight into our life path. We vocalise fears or blocks that may be impeding progress in a certain directions. And we learn to trust our own resourcefulness and capacity to make decisions for ourselves, instead of relying on others. In order to be curious we must suspend our expertise. We must self-manage our need to fix, rescue or advise, and instead see our child within as capable of knowing what is best. Open ended questions starting with What, more than How, engage intulexia the most. Examples include, What does our heart want? If we could wave a magic wand, what would we create today? What’s our favourite thing about that? What would that be like? 
 7. Values and Desires Our unique values and desires are inextricably linked to our intulexia. They point to our passions, life balance and towards a purposeful life. By noticing when our child within are most engaged and enthusiastic, and being curious about what they enjoy most, we can deduce what their values and desires were. We can then create learning agendas and frameworks that fit our unique child withins personality, and help ourselves make choices that are aligned with our newly found authentic Self. 
 8. Co-Create 
 “Ourselves and our child within should not stand on opposite banks and just watch the river flow by; instead, we should embark together on a journey down the river of life. Through an active, reciprocal exchange, of thoughts ,ideas and dreams. We have a mutual agenda and so does the child within. We arrive on this earth with a child within pure agenda, and with the tools necessary to participate in our own unique way. It is therefore vital that we are given every chance to express our needs and desires such that they begin to formulate and express our child withins inner purpose. Whether it is a learning or play agenda, allowing our child within to be an active participant in the decision making process validates their intulexic voice and sense of reemerging Self, which helps them pave a road to authentic and fulfilled adult living. Co-creating requires a dose of humility because some level of control needs to be released on our part, as well as recognising that you may not have any answers. 
 9. Creativity 
 “The wider the range of possibilities we offer our child within, the more intense will be our motivations and the richer our experiences. We must widen the range of topics and goals, the types of healthy situations we offer and our degree of re-structure, the kinds and combinations of resources and materials, and the possible interactions with things, peers, and adults.” Intulexia is the creative language department of our mind. It is where we imagine, dream outside the box, consider new possibilities, and feel inspired. When children within are bound by too much structure and weighed down by expectations of what to think and do, our capacity to exercise our creative mind is limited. However, when children within explore and get messy, and reflect on what we have learned and what is true for us, we amazingly strengthen our critical thinking  and our capacity to be innovative and imaginative. 
 10. Self-Expression 
  Our child within has Intulexia and we cannot be limited simply to reading, writing and arithmetic to express him or herself. Helping our child within find a form of expression that feels safe and natural to them, such as art, storytelling, music, drama or movement. Ask them questions about what they shared, what it means to them, what’s important to them about what they’ve discovered, to help them express more and deepen their connection with their learning and their Self expression. 
 11. Intulexic Language Certain language supports accessing and expressing intulexia more fully. I feel…, My heart/intuition/gut is telling me…, My sense is…, It feels right to… are all language of the child within. Also using the word Play instead of Work helps to keep things light and inspired – Play with this instead of Work on this; Homeplay instead of Homework; Playsheets instead of Worksheets. We can guide child within to live intuitively by modeling this language ourself, asking questions using this language (What does your heart tell us? What do we feel?), and encouraging them to use the language of intulexia themselves. 
 12. Celebrate 
 “Children within first realise they can make a difference when we listen, then respond with sensitivity to them.” Take time to welcome all creative contributions, all expressions of the child within. Celebrate them as statements of personal truth, learning and growth. Being sensitive to appreciate and include, without shutting children withins ideas down or making them wrong, keeps creative energy flowing and their feeling of renewed self-worth alive. They are more likely to continue valuing and sharing their opinions in the future. Celebrating is one of best ways to live in the Spirit of the child within! 
 13. Take Time Slow Down and Breathe 
 “Pausing to listen to an airplane in the sky, stooping to watch a ladybug on a plant, sitting on a rock to watch the waves crash over the quayside – child Within has its own agendas and timescales. As they find out more about their world and their place in it, they work hard not to let adults hurry them. You need to hear their voices.” The typical lifestyles are amassed with frenetic energy. Busy lives, busy schedules, getting to that next task, and hopefully finding some time to rest and re-gather amongst it all. In the space between our busi-ness lies our intulexia. It speaks quietly from the background and requires us to create room for it so it can be heard. Slowing down and taking deep breaths are simple steps we can take to create inner and outer space for our intulexia. we can support our child within to do the same by modeling this, and gently encouraging them to slow down and take a deep breath as well. 
 14. Free Unstructured Intulexia Time Our child within do not experience enough free, unstructured time to play anymore. Computers, video games, television and organised sports limit, if not stifle, the capacity for child within to be creative, spontaneous and adventurous. We needs  greater importance placed on unstructured time where our child within can explore the simple things in life like the great outdoors, or our imagination, without being whisked away to the next organised activity or agenda. We will mature with less frenetic energy and with a greater appreciation for life’s little things. And it will be easier for us to stay connected to the spaciousness of our hearts, where the voice of intulexia is heard. 
 15. Play 
 “Our Child Within will not remember us for the material things we provided but for the feeling that we cherished them.” Child Within is meant to play, and to learn and grow through play. When you take this away from us, when you impose too much  responsibility on them, they become stunted. Encourage us to unplug from technology and play outside. Take our child within out into nature where the stillness invites presence and the vastness invites adventure. And play with them. Take time every day to play with them, even if it’s only for five minutes.  When we remember to play, we remember our child within and the intulexic voice that lies within. “While we try to teach our child within all about life, our child within teachs us what life is all about.” When we see our child within as vast, unlimited beings of creativity and insight that has come here with innate gifts and an inner guidance system we realise that as adults our responsibility is to support our child within to actualise all that is true for them. We must create room for our heart’s intelligence to educate us and our world. And we must make inner reflection and self-care a priority so that we live from our heart and inspire ourselves to do the same. 
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

When we make our first tentative attempts at contact with our child within we need to re-visit an old method of communication Intulexia

When we make our first tentative attempts at contact with our child within we need to re-visit an old method of communication Intulexia it...

As young children we begin very early to internalise information that either encourages or discourages our self-disclosure.

Fraser Trevor

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Title: As young children we begin very early to internalise information that either encourages or discourages our self-disclosure.
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As young children we begin very early to internalise information that either encourages or discourages our self-disclosure. Cues are intui...

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As young children we begin very early to internalise information that either encourages or discourages our self-disclosure. Cues are intuitively understood. Most of what we feel is unexamined and articulated. Cultural norms are unwittingly absorbed. We learn when to speak and when to stay silent. 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

As young children we begin very early to internalise information that either encourages or discourages our self-disclosure.

As young children we begin very early to internalise information that either encourages or discourages our self-disclosure. Cues are intui...

We who were brought up in a controlling manner often develop people pleasing tendencies

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Title: We who were brought up in a controlling manner often develop people pleasing tendencies
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We who were brought up in a controlling manner often develop people pleasing tendencies because we were groomed to see ourselves as being ...

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We who were brought up in a controlling manner often develop people pleasing tendencies because we were groomed to see ourselves as being below others and to put others first. We literally learned that our main function was to serve others. 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We who were brought up in a controlling manner often develop people pleasing tendencies

We who were brought up in a controlling manner often develop people pleasing tendencies because we were groomed to see ourselves as being ...

Child within Growth means an increase in consciousness and self-awareness, an increase in manifesting and refining our individual gifts of power and authority over ourselves.

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Title: Child within Growth means an increase in consciousness and self-awareness, an increase in manifesting and refining our individual gifts of power and authority over ourselves.
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Living only out of our shadow dissociated self, we think that growth is equated to an increase in grandiosity, to winning the contes...

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Living only out of our shadow dissociated self, we think that growth is equated to an increase in grandiosity, to winning the contest of life and accruing more money, power and prestige in the world. 
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 If we live out of our child within, growth takes on a different meaning.Child within  Growth means an increase in consciousness and self-awareness, an increase in manifesting and refining our individual gifts of power and authority over ourselves. So how do we grow ? We can’t get up in the morning and force growth to happen, but we can invite growth into our lives by providing the conditions for growth to occur. This invitation is analogous to cultivating a seed in a garden. As part of nature, we must be a viable seed, we must have enough life-force to grow, and we must plant ourselves in a growth inducing environment. First, the seed of the perfect child within is always viable within all of us—that’s the good news. The bad news for some of us is that this seed is buried deeply due to constant dissociation experienced during childhood and later years that growth seems impossible, if even considered a choice.This is a trick of the dissociated mind.A self-perpetuating illusion. Second, we have to want, need to grow. The gift of motivation is part of our freed child within enhanced by the strength of our current life-force. With a bold temperament and our hardy recovering child within, we will be motivated to do whatever it takes us to grow.</div>
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 Third, we must plant ourselves in an environment that offers us opportunities to grow. We must be willing to move away from family and friends that would stunt our growth and thwart the manifestation of our gifts. We must dare to enter a wilderness, far from the comforts of convention and find a place that values authenticity and our unique gifts. Remember, as part of our child within, we can’t help but grow. Our child withins intent is to evolve and we as adults, are the child withins crowning jewel, we can be re-programmed to do just that and despite everything we grow and how we grow! 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

Child within Growth means an increase in consciousness and self-awareness, an increase in manifesting and refining our individual gifts of power and authority over ourselves.

Living only out of our shadow dissociated self, we think that growth is equated to an increase in grandiosity, to winning the contes...

UPDATED:Ten Stage Tuesday Meeting on the challenges set out in the Ten Stages

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Title: UPDATED:Ten Stage Tuesday Meeting on the challenges set out in the Ten Stages
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Tuesdays three hour Stages Academy meeting became of special interest when we talked about Viktor Frankl who reminded us that the art of p...

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Tuesdays three hour Stages Academy meeting became of special interest when we talked about Viktor Frankl who reminded us that the art of presence — an art so central to our everyday well-being— isn’t merely about savouring the pleasant moments of everyday blessedness. Rather, its canvas stretches all the more exquisitely in precisely the opposite circumstances — those most trying and turbulent moments, when the ability to inhabit the present makes all the difference between life and death, both figuratively in matters of the soul and, in Frankl’s Auschwitz experience, literally and bodily: A man who let himself decline because he could not see any future goal found himself occupied with retrospective{dissociated} thoughts. In a different connection, we have already spoken of the tendency there was to look into the past, to help make the present, with all its horrors, less real. But in robbing the present of its reality there lay a certain danger. It became easy to overlook the opportunities to make something positive of camp life, opportunities which really did exist. Regarding our “provisional existence” as unreal was in itself an important factor in causing the prisoners to lose their hold on life; everything in a way became pointless. Such people forgot that often it is just such an exceptionally difficult external situation which gives man the opportunity to grow spiritually beyond himself. Instead of taking the camp’s difficulties as a test of their inner strength, they did not take their life seriously and despised it as something of no consequence. They preferred to close their eyes and to live in the past. Life for such people became meaningless. 
 
 To be sure, Frankl is far from advocating for filtering the present through rose-colored glasses in order to soften its intolerable pain. Quite the opposite, Frankl argues that presence comes from leaning into suffering, not from tensing against it: When a man finds that it is his destiny to suffer, he will have to accept his suffering as his task; his single and unique task. He will have to acknowledge the fact that even in suffering he is unique and alone in the universe. No one can relieve him of his suffering or suffer in his place. His unique opportunity lies in the way in which he bears his burden. 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

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During our study and practice of The Ten Stages we start to understand and get a feeling for our Dissociative symptoms.

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During our study and practice of The Ten Stages we start to understand and get a feeling for our Dissociative symptoms. This has involved a loss of certain functions, therefore meaning we can experience too little, a form of social isolation. This can include amnesia, loss of skills or piece of knowledge. It’s common with dissociative disorder to be unable to feel an emotion or sensation in the body. This means we become emotionally or physically numb and a separate part of our identity the child within holds the experience or sensation that can’t be felt. We with a dissociative disorder often experience amnesia that goes beyond the normal range of forgetfulness. We’re also susceptible to time distortions and feel time go by too quickly or slowly. Often we experience depersonalisation and feel as if we only exist in our heads. We become alienated from our body and are insensitive to physical pain or lack sensation in some parts of our body. Depersonalisation is usually an attempt to avoid or regulate overwhelming feelings or experiences. De-realisation, where events or surroundings seem unreal may also be experienced. The world may feel unreal as if you are in a dream or a play. We with a dissociative disorder, events can be related to parts of the personality that are living in trauma time. These parts may confuse the present with the past and therefore do not experience the present as real.We are experiencing too much:We with a dissociative disorder experience too much and intrusions may occur. Intrusions happen when one dissociative part intrudes into the experience of another and this may take place in any area of experience, such as memories, thoughts, feelings. Dissociative intrusions include flashbacks, sudden feelings thoughts and behaviours, sensations or pain that have no medical cause. These intrusions happen when a dissociative part of the self enters conscious awareness the hidden child within materialises inappropriately. 
 
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During our study and practice of The Ten Stages we start to understand and get a feeling for our Dissociative symptoms.

During our study and practice of The Ten Stages we start to understand and get a feeling for our Dissociative symptoms. This has involved ...

Ten Stages Mind of Calm is the modern meditation technique that proves the secret to recovery is ten stage meditational stillness.

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Ten Stages Mind of Calm is the modern meditation technique that proves the secret to recovery is ten stage meditational stillness. Instead of having to stop our thoughts, change our emotions or perfect our life before we can enjoy serenity and recovery. Ten Stage Mind of Calm can help us to access the inner perfect child within of calm, clarity, confidence and contentment - Quickly. While also helping us to perform at our best, sleep better, access our intuition and creativity and connect with others. Ten Stages Mind of Calm works by helping us to change our relationship with our perfect child within by being 'consciously aware' during daily life. Different from mindfulness because it is awareness-based instead of mind-based, you can enjoy the life changing benefits of Ten Stages Mind of Calm anytime and anywhere. If we want to stop our minds from working overtime, worry less, feel better and get more done with less stress, then our Ten Stages Mind of Calm is the modern-day meditation technique for calm and tranquility . The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Ten Stages Mind of Calm is the modern meditation technique that proves the secret to recovery is ten stage meditational stillness.

Ten Stages Mind of Calm is the modern meditation technique that proves the secret to recovery is ten stage meditational stillness. Instead...

The magic alchemy of the ten stages is the practice of loving- kindfulness under all circumstances

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The magic alchemy of the ten stages is the practice of loving- kindfulness under all circumstances we have no formal practice except kindf...

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The magic alchemy of the ten stages is the practice of loving- kindfulness under all circumstances we have no formal practice except kindfulness. "Every time we're able to apply wisdom to reduce or overcome our problems, that's kindfulness at work." Both the past and the future refuse to sit<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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still for portraits and so we tend to see them as burdens. We have learnt to become Happy when we choose "silent present moment"; we have discovered that we can incarnate "the golden radiance of kindfulness." This character quality is manifested through letting go, resting the mind in the middle of meditation, making peace with sloth and torpor, coping with restlessness, dealing with doubt, and managing anger. "Every obstacle is ultimately something that we can recognise, overcome, and move beyond." This is a practical dimension to our presentation of the recovery practice of kindfulness that makes it very appealing. 
 
 
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The magic alchemy of the ten stages is the practice of loving- kindfulness under all circumstances

The magic alchemy of the ten stages is the practice of loving- kindfulness under all circumstances we have no formal practice except kindf...

Today we have been working on a new roof to the meditation room as part of our action stages.

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 Today we have been working on a new roof to the meditation room as part of our action stages. We have learnt to take stock of what is influencing our mind in the moment discover the benefits of kindfulness in working meditation and daily activities such as cooking, eating, work, parenting, and more extend loving-kindfulness and compassion to ourself and all beings being able to maintain equanimity and non-attachment in various situations. We learn to expand our own joy by rejoicing in the good fortune of others discover the capacity of our mind to reduce stress, anger, and fatigue learning more about "skillful means," actions based on kindness, respect, honesty, and timeliness we tune in to the reports of our senses and increase awareness of our body understand the transformative nature of recovery starting to probe the idea that we're not just here to work out our own karma but also that of our family, community, and nation we experience the support of our worlwide community we become socially engaged in projects for the well being of all 
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Ten Stages of recovery is all about freedom.

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Ten Stages of recovery is all about freedom. It's about a freedom to choose open and generous living rather than a secure and sheltere...

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Ten Stages of recovery is all about freedom. It's about a freedom to choose open and generous living rather than a secure and sheltered way. . . . Ten Stage Recovery is about moving through life with a light touch, delighting in the plain and the subtle newness of each and every day.<div>
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Our lives have become filled with a million things to do and consume that distract us from simple recovery. When we start  to pay attention and become mindful, we marvel at the simple things in our recovery that we once passed over. Consuming less and living simply are the true conditions of our new happiness.<div>
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>
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Ten Stages of recovery is all about freedom.

Ten Stages of recovery is all about freedom. It's about a freedom to choose open and generous living rather than a secure and sheltere...

Kindfulness has be practiced before it becomes real.

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Kindfulness has be practiced before it becomes real. Acting as if we are kind is the way to strengthen our willingness to make kindfulness...

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 Kindfulness has be practiced before it becomes real. Acting as if we are kind is the way to strengthen our willingness to make kindfulness a reality today. To be able Practice This Thought into an action stage:<div>
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Pick a situation today in which you feel like responding in a grouchy, ungrateful, or hostile manner. Try pretending that you are the kindest person you know, and respond from that point of view rather than from your discontent. Notice what difference this attitude makes to the situation and to you.</blockquote>
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Kindfulness has be practiced before it becomes real.

Kindfulness has be practiced before it becomes real. Acting as if we are kind is the way to strengthen our willingness to make kindfulness...

We have to complete our action stages to see them work

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We have to complete our action stages to see them work this profound practice of the ten stages invites us to use loving-kindfulnes with a...

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We have to complete our action stages to see them work this profound practice of the ten stages invites us to use loving-kindfulnes with all strangers quietly, secretly. Offer it to people you notice on the street, in the market, on the bus. "May you be happy. May you be at peace." Feel the kindfulness move through your body as you offer it. Notice how you both receive a great benefit from the loving-kindfulness vibe. Gently, almost without effort, each and every blessing becomes a powerful redemption and a positive life enhancing affirmation of your perfect child within. 
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We have to complete our action stages to see them work

We have to complete our action stages to see them work this profound practice of the ten stages invites us to use loving-kindfulnes with a...

The Ten Stages is firmly convinced that kindfulness can grow in compassion for self and others

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The Ten Stages is firmly convinced that kindfulness can grow in compassion for self and others; it can nurture openness and empathy in us...

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The Ten Stages is firmly convinced that kindfulness can grow in compassion for self and others; it can nurture openness and empathy in us as well. The Ten Stages is in the process of creating a series of Kindfulness meditations for the opening of its new meditation centre to cope with a variety of situations including recovering from strokes, heart surgery. self-criticism, old family wounds, feeling betrayed, money problems, and rage or sadness.</div>
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1. We notice our body. 2. We choose to pause. 3. We exhale gently to relax. 4. We recognise our feelings. 5. We sense our heart beating. 6. We offer compassion to ourself. 7. When We become ready, We reengage ourself."</div>
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Here are some phrases for practicing loving-kindfulness and cultivate self-compassion:</div>
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<li style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: url("../images/common/bullet-1x.png"); background-origin: initial; background-position: 0px 8px; background-repeat: no-repeat; background-size: initial; margin-left: 0px; padding-bottom: 12px; padding-left: 20px;">May I be free from inner and outer danger to my body, heart, and mind.</li>
<li style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: url("../images/common/bullet-1x.png"); background-origin: initial; background-position: 0px 8px; background-repeat: no-repeat; background-size: initial; margin-left: 0px; padding-bottom: 12px; padding-left: 20px;">May my mind and heart be free from sticky thoughts and feelings.</li>
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Loving-Friendliness How is this practice nourished, and what stifles it in our daily lives?

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Loving-Friendliness How is this practice nourished, and what stifles it in our daily lives? <div>
Mindfulness meditation and relaxation help nurture this seed within us. On the other hand, loving-friendliness is hindered in its expression by rigid thoughts, judgments, and negativity. Being kind to others follows naturally from cultivating love for ourselves. The eleven benefits derived from practicing loving-kindfulness including one's mind becomes calm immediately, neither fire nor poison nor weapon affect us, we become affectionate to human beings and non-human beings, one sleeps well, and one dies without confusion. Our exploration of loving-friendliness with  the challenges of listening, speaking, and working with kindfulness. <blockquote class="tr_bq">
"It's the ultimate underlying principle behind all wholesome thoughts, words, and deeds. Kindfulness transcends barriers of religion, culture, geography, language, and nationality. Loving-friendliness is the reliable path to peace, to warm connection. It is a universal and ancient law that binds all of us together. We need it in order to live and work together harmoniously."</blockquote>
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

Loving-Friendliness How is this practice nourished, and what stifles it in our daily lives?

Loving-Friendliness How is this practice nourished, and what stifles it in our daily lives? Mindfulness meditation and relaxation help n...

The Ten Stages does not call you clients, or patient or addicts or alcoholics but friends.

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The Ten Stages does not call you clients, or patient or addicts or alcoholics but friends. . . . ' Therefore, there is the possibility...

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The Ten Stages does not call you clients, or patient or addicts or alcoholics but friends. . . . ' Therefore, there is the possibility of every feeling and emotion which can exist between friends to exist here and now between you and your child within and ultimately us. 
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The Ten Stages does not call you clients, or patient or addicts or alcoholics but friends.

The Ten Stages does not call you clients, or patient or addicts or alcoholics but friends. . . . ' Therefore, there is the possibility...

In the ten stages we see faith not as something we have but as something we are in — a gentle life affirming relationship

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Speaking with hindsight is often something that is frowned upon, but looking back over this year and its strong health challenges. I can s...

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Speaking with hindsight is often something that is frowned upon, but looking back over this year and its strong health challenges. I can see a cementation in my faith in the concept of the child within inside the ten stages, of a trust worthy consistent friend whose gentle wisdom breached the gates of death on numerous occasions of heart blockage. In the ten stages we see faith not as something we have but as something we are in — a gentle life affirming relationship with us. It involves an awareness of and an attunement to a child withins presence in our everyday experiences. Practicing faith in our child within, then, is like developing any relationship. We have to give it time and attention. It requires us to see, hear, feel, and constantly remember our partner — our child within. Have confidence in the relationship's viability, even when you are facing mysteries, doubts, and paradoxes. Trust in this faith, even to the point of staking our life on it, which I have had to do through out this year.<div>
 Why The Ten Stages May Be For You many of us assume that the chief challenges to faith are disbelief and doubt, but the real stumbling block to faith is resistance to an altered perception or the hardened self.The heart is used as an image for the deeper self, the true and total person. The hard heart is not open to loving-kindfulness. It is similar to eyes that do not see and ears that do not hear. Difficulties can be catalysts to faith. During a dark night of health crises, sometimes all we can do is trust that this, too, will pass. Facing illness, death, or the myriad other challenges in our lives, we are strengthened by the knowledge that a greater relationship watches and waits with us with our perfect child within. In the long run, it's that relationship with our child within that matters.<div>
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In the ten stages we see faith not as something we have but as something we are in — a gentle life affirming relationship

Speaking with hindsight is often something that is frowned upon, but looking back over this year and its strong health challenges. I can s...

Our consumer culture teaches that getting more stuff and holding on to it is the way to riches.

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 Our consumer culture teaches that getting more stuff and holding on to it is the way to riches. Our ego-driven society encourages us to seek power and enjoy being the centre of attention. But our ten stage life emphasises other values. The Ten Stages tell us to give up the spotlight, loosen our grip, get out of the way, renounce, relinquish, and surrender. Freedom, the wisdom traditions all say, comes from letting go. By giving, releasing, and clearing out things, we open up a new pathways for the child withins energies to enter and transform us. It takes practice to change our habitual ways and to go against the conventional assumptions of society. Traditional Recovery programs say that it takes three weeks to break a habit or establish a new practice. So this program consists of the building blocks of mindfulness with an introduction to the golden nuggets of loving-kindfulness firstly to self and then to others and related child within exercises to help you practice letting go. 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our consumer culture teaches that getting more stuff and holding on to it is the way to riches.

Our consumer culture teaches that getting more stuff and holding on to it is the way to riches. Our ego-driven society encourages us to se...

The practice of cultivating real recovery for ourselves with loving-kindfulness and self compassion is paramount to recovering our self-esteem and health.

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We naturally live our lives wanting belonging, connection, a home in this world. We yearn for warmth, for possibility, for the more abunda...

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We naturally live our lives wanting belonging, connection, a home in this world. We yearn for warmth, for possibility, for the more abundant life that recovery seems to promise. We sense there is a quality of real recovery that is possible beyond the narrow straits we have been told to navigate, a possibility that's not idealised or merely abstract. We have an intuitional voice that says we can connect much more deeply to ourselves and to one another. We ardently believe that we have the capacity to experience real recovery despite the hindrances and warps of our culture and the media. The practices of mindfulness and lovingkindness open the door to this possibility.  The practice of cultivating real recovery for ourselves with loving-kindfulness and self compassion is paramount to recovering our self-esteem and health. It serves as an antidote to negative messages from our birth families about our selves. You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. The stories we tell ourselves about our experiences and encounters with self and others need to erase all the negativity and reframe what has happened in a more positive light. The stories others tell us should not be the source of our self-esteem but can serve as spurs to personal growth and wisdom insights. Other challenges to recovering ourselves are explored by welcoming our emotions, meeting the inner critic, letting go of perfection, becoming embodied, moving beyond shame, taking a stand on happiness, and following our child withins ethical compass. The sturdiness of this recovery practice of loving ourselves paves the way for additional examples of real recovery of relationships with our partners, children, parents and siblings, dear friends, colleagues and recovery teachers. "The best thing we can do for our relationship with others . . . is to render our relationship to our child within to be more conscious." Recovery and loving-kindfulness to others is an expression of our ten stage recovery path. No gesture is too small when our connection with strangers is at stake.The necessity of empathy, dealing with rather than writing off difficult people, seeing inclusion as the face of recovery, moving from anger to sanity, and transforming a "No" into a "Yes." Real Recovery offers mindfulness exercises and meditation techniques designed to evolve real recovery into childhood maturity animated by compassion, empathy, and inclusion. 
 
 
 
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The practice of cultivating real recovery for ourselves with loving-kindfulness and self compassion is paramount to recovering our self-esteem and health.

We naturally live our lives wanting belonging, connection, a home in this world. We yearn for warmth, for possibility, for the more abunda...

Internet addiction should be treated as a clinical disorder - Business Insider

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Internet addiction should be treated as a clinical disorder - Business Insider

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Every Tuesday we are at The Stages Academy in Middlesbrough between 12 till 3 pm. Its completely free, confidential.The Ten Stages is intent on restoring dignity and respect to sufferers from emotional distress. We are adult human beings, with full human rights, except they are often currently operating on infantile survival strategies.  
 
We need restoration to re-invent ourselves together – we’ve done what we can, and now need support with the remainder. In other words, it is essential to enlist our own determination to deal with childhood from the inside.  
 This is a course of adult emotional education in the playground of the child within. There is no danger that we do not wish to rid ourselves of our painful symptoms of ruined relationships and near fatal addictions – we just need support and guidance as to how to do this.  
 Truth, Trust and Consent are essential ingredients, since the co-operation and determination of us is crucial to any re-evaluation of ‘frozen Childhood Emotions’. Bringing our emotional survival strategies up to date, and our symptoms lessen and finally after a period of redundancy evaporate. Our key is to appreciate and convey that every emotional resource is being used by our child within to prevent our dreaded truth coming out into the daylight of an adult world – the process of denial is heaviest in the best endowed mental survivalists. We are deluding ourselves as to the real true root of the pain and numbness .  
 
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 We have the knowledge that any and all infantile damage is well and truly over – but deep within ourselves the reasoning fails to permeate. We still inhabit a nursery nightmare where abuse or trauma is going to happen ‘next’ and the only remedy they know is not to look – to deny. Reversing this scenario at the Stages, allows the glories of our child within to blossom.</div>
 
 
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Every Tuesday we are at The Stages Academy in Middlesbrough between 12 till 3 pm. Its completely free, confidential.

Every Tuesday we are at The Stages Academy in Middlesbrough between 12 till 3 pm. Its completely free, confidential.The Ten Stages is inte...

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Ten Stages Monday Workshops getting ready for the Tuesday Meeting... Are We ready to look objectively at our destructive and our self-destructive behaviour without hating our child within ? Do we have the perspective to see how the damage that we did (to ourselves and others) was a replication of the damage done to us when we were younger? Have we resolved our sense of shame and self-hatred? <div>
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Are we ready to take responsibility for what we have done to ourselves? 
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

Ten Stages Monday Workshops getting ready for the Tuesday Meeting...

Ten Stages Monday Workshops getting ready for the Tuesday Meeting... Are We ready to look objectively at our destructive and our self-des...

As we progress the ten stages path we can start to acknowledge our replicated history of betrayal

Fraser Trevor

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Title: As we progress the ten stages path we can start to acknowledge our replicated history of betrayal
Author: Fraser Trevor
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As we progress the ten stages path we can start to acknowledge our replicated history of betrayal, we are ready to take responsibility un...

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As we progress the ten stages path we can start to acknowledge our replicated history of betrayal, we are ready to take responsibility understand. The most powerful understanding we can make is to change our inappropriate dissociated behaviour. This speaks louder than any apology, promise, or vow. All too often our apologies and promises only disguise our resistance to changing dissociations, our desire to get others’ approval and have them meet our thwarted childhood needs. We have long been doing this, and now we must stop it. We say goodbye to our addictions, our negative attitudes, our self- destructive dynamics, our manipulations, and our exploitative patterns. Our amended life becomes the proof that we are truly sorry for the deflected lives we have been living about our old sick patterns of manipulation and are serious about beginning a new reality. Our amended life is a gift to ourselves and to the people and world around us. Yet not all may be comfortable with our transition. People, friends are used to us behaving in the old way. We may lose some friends and intimates and even family members. With this in mind, we act gently and with compassion. But we act. We may feel like lone individuals on our journey, but as we begin to radiate the truth of positive, constructive living, the whole world feels the shift and counter balances our crazy making lives.<div>
 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

As we progress the ten stages path we can start to acknowledge our replicated history of betrayal

As we progress the ten stages path we can start to acknowledge our replicated history of betrayal, we are ready to take responsibility un...

Behind every one of our dissociations lurk our unmet needs from childhood.

Fraser Trevor

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Title: Behind every one of our dissociations lurk our unmet needs from childhood.
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Behind every one of our dissociations lurk our unmet needs from childhood. We who have failed to get our childhood needs met shunt these ...

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Behind every one of our dissociations lurk our unmet needs from childhood. We who have failed to get our childhood needs met shunt these still-living needs into unhealthy and dissociative behaviour patterns. We who have had our basic childhood needs met do not overindulge in chemical substances, food, unhealthy relationships, sex, or inappropriate work or fantasy—because we love ourselves and resolve our present needs through healthy, conscious avenues. Addictions are unconscious—and we who have grieved our losses do not need to play out these unconscious patterns. 
 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Behind every one of our dissociations lurk our unmet needs from childhood.

Behind every one of our dissociations lurk our unmet needs from childhood. We who have failed to get our childhood needs met shunt these ...

We, the membership who have read and heard this profound message in the ten stages are shocked

Fraser Trevor

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Title: We, the membership who have read and heard this profound message in the ten stages are shocked
Author: Fraser Trevor
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We, the membership who have read and heard this profound message in the ten stages are shocked, because we are used to being coddled and t...

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We, the membership who have read and heard this profound message in the ten stages are shocked, because we are used to being coddled and told how great and smart and wise and enlightened and healthy we already are. 
 
We are used to being told it was just fine for us to have children. We are used to being told that our abuse of our children was not really abuse and that our sick conditional love for our children really was love. 
 
We are used to being told that our own lies and insanity were actually perfectly healthy and normal. We have become used to listening to false prophets, gurus and mentors when we have problems. We are used to being told that our mindless behaviour was wise, and that we are doing the right thing by building a wall between our consciousness and the wrenching pain of our true, deep spirit the child within. 
 
We are used to being told that our crazy culture was healthy, our treatment of the earth’s resources was progressive, our romantic relationships were beautiful, our love for our parents was appropriate and warranted, our histories of abuse are overrated, our pop-psychologists are indeed psychologists, our wars and hatreds are largely justified, our petty prejudices are acceptable as long as they did not push them in others’ faces, and our hatreds are rational. 
 
We are used to being placated and numbed and medicated and enslaved and psychically castrated by those who are profiting from our herd mentality. And we have always thought this illusion was what love is all about. 
 
We become uncomfortable when we hear a program that would dare to contradict everything we hold dear. And yet these words resonated with us on some deep and long-forgotten level. We are not used to hearing the truth. It makes us curious. And it also makes some of us want to kill this program in a writhing sea of our own denial. 
 For if we hear our deep recovery message and we do not take it to heart, if we cling to our self-deception and our false comforts and our idealised, dishonest beliefs about our parents and our childhood, then we will know just how foolish and wasted we are. We will see our remaining vulnerability and weakness, and we will know that it just remains a matter time before a strong wind sweeps us off our feet and leaves us dazed and lost and cut down to our true and appropriate recovery size. 
 
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We, the membership who have read and heard this profound message in the ten stages are shocked

We, the membership who have read and heard this profound message in the ten stages are shocked, because we are used to being coddled and t...

Suddenly being thrust into the 7 Second Reality

Fraser Trevor

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Title: Suddenly being thrust into the 7 Second Reality
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Suddenly being thrust into the 7 Second Reality but what was a 7 Second Reality experience well thats what I have to come to an understa...

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Suddenly being thrust into the 7 Second Reality but what was a 7 Second Reality experience well thats what I have to come to an understanding of, as a crossing of the final thresh-hold into another place. By a number of accidents lasting within seventeen hours of continues heart monitoring. The 7 Second Reality of life and death. 
When your heart stops, there’s 7 seconds in which you are in an other reality state. You’re unconsciously conscious. However, while there, we lose all perception of time. A day could be a minute, a second could be a year. So what if you’ve been dead for 3 seconds and all of your life up until now has been a dream? 
 
Tired one afternoon in August I had retired for a late afternoon nap when the phone rang just as I settled down.The voice at the other end sounded cut of..is that you as my name was spelt out I affirmed that it was, do you have a close family member with you, no I had not...slowly awakening... well we want you in. The mind snapped into action or should have....It sort of hit denial and then a slow dawning that things were not well,..we have the results of your tests. When do we want you in thinking that I had the luxury of time.Now came the urgent reply do you want an ambulance...No I will get a taxi I replied. 
 
I had become at that moment a seven second experience even though I had no comprehension what that meant. The taxi arrived very quickly and we moved slowly into the late afternoon traffic. On arrival at the heart ward carrying my bags, a senior nurse looked quite perturbed, being used to seeing para-medics, chairs, drips etc. 7 seconds recipients never walked in. I mentioned the name of the senior consultant who had called me and was whisked off to a ward and connected up to a host of wires. I was now under intense observation with a permanent wi-fi connection to those upstairs who constantly monitored me and changed my batteries. Somehow I struggled to comprehend my new position feeling benignly like a figure in a George Orwellian nightmare.I became accepting of my new position in life as I scanned the beds of the small ward watching and awaiting the next seven second moment. Most people who have Sudden Cardiac Arrest die from it—often within minutes. For me unknowingly it had become a regular daily occurrence which meant stopping squeezing my heart till it restarted. The sensations were not unpleasant akin to a good deep meditation.

The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Suddenly being thrust into the 7 Second Reality

Suddenly being thrust into the 7 Second Reality but what was a 7 Second Reality experience well thats what I have to come to an understa...

Isn't there an easier softer way to recovery?

Fraser Trevor

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Title: Isn't there an easier softer way to recovery?
Author: Fraser Trevor
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Isn't there an easier softer way to recovery? Our ten stage recovery is painful and requires an entrance fee of suffering. It might...

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Isn't there an easier softer way to recovery? 
 
Our ten stage recovery is painful and requires an entrance fee of suffering. It might seem counterintuitive that the path to the greatest power and authority takes us through the darkest stretches of torment and self-doubt, but it is impossible to heal traumas without feeling the pain they in elicited. Those who think you can leap painlessly from dissociation into enlightenment do not understand that recovery requires that you pass through suffering, depression, and grieving stages. The un- recovered misjudge the suffering person as an inferior, but the recovering person, connected with his core of truth and compass of honesty, knows better.  
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

Isn't there an easier softer way to recovery?

Isn't there an easier softer way to recovery? Our ten stage recovery is painful and requires an entrance fee of suffering. It might...

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