Misdirections from our website sorry if you were mis-directed we have completely changed our title to www.thetenstages.com

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh7X0Dh9PJWJ9910gLw1HZNAzbjIutyFwj3x41G2Pm1TMNznonueD3w1bJ7RkwXtDbzmW3I9m077mfss7xwsQvQjH_Jh-N4i8JOzm8cHv7nZa8H6rm0vd0qFQ5ZXFfGoGuJmzZoBnfF7gyL/s1600/The+Ten+Stages+234.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="500" data-original-width="1500" height="106" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh7X0Dh9PJWJ9910gLw1HZNAzbjIutyFwj3x41G2Pm1TMNznonueD3w1bJ7RkwXtDbzmW3I9m077mfss7xwsQvQjH_Jh-N4i8JOzm8cHv7nZa8H6rm0vd0qFQ5ZXFfGoGuJmzZoBnfF7gyL/s320/The+Ten+Stages+234.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <blockquote class="tr_bq"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><i><b>Misdirections from our website  sorry if you were mis-directed we have completely changed our title to www.thetenstages.com to stop confusion and misdirects to other sites. please complain in comments if you are suffering misdirections or anything else. Thank you to all the members who have pointed this out.</b></i></span></blockquote> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Misdirections from our website sorry if you were mis-directed we have completely changed our title to www.thetenstages.com

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As we journey forward on the studied path that is the ten stages toward full awakening, different parts of ourselves live at different stages

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiq6zxCg-sfyIKb05tLAcXGSg0sGFpMcvLYMZvN8WXRot3-C5hCYdQPwOJ0ILLwpTjkSWPl-MinmVvOx1qx4RR27-WGDuDUTNGN5KZYaPgABvhbRVPGIege8vZqR2pIv_9fCs1E5V3FBGIN/s1600/13164496_10154245650327755_3857589937871616415_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="579" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiq6zxCg-sfyIKb05tLAcXGSg0sGFpMcvLYMZvN8WXRot3-C5hCYdQPwOJ0ILLwpTjkSWPl-MinmVvOx1qx4RR27-WGDuDUTNGN5KZYaPgABvhbRVPGIege8vZqR2pIv_9fCs1E5V3FBGIN/s320/13164496_10154245650327755_3857589937871616415_n.jpg" width="193" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">As we journey forward on the studied path that is the ten stages toward full awakening, different parts of ourselves live at different stages. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Some realisations can be amazingly healing and insightful, while others often remain buried and out of touch. Our different realisations traverse the various stages at their own speeds and depth, seemingly independently – but ultimately connected to our core of perfection the child within by our universal thread of truth.<br /><br />We have become awakened to our most primitive stage on life’s healing journey is our contest with ourselves. At this is the prime stage of grandiosity, acceptance by everyone in our social circle or re-acceptance, some if not all of us have a very dubious past and consequential dissociated happiness, and approval by our parents and ancestors. These parts of us that are winning the contest stop our journey before it has even begun. Here we deny our deepest traumas so intensely that we fool even ourselves into believing they never happened and that we are already healed. It is for this reason that our dissociation mimics our enlightenment. Here we idealise the parents, which allows us full unconscious liberty to replicate the worst of our past in our present. Here we do not look beneath our surface, and if fate goes our way, we will never have to. We remain happily distant from the misery lurking in our guts.<br /><br />Yet where parts of us lose the contest we evolve into the secondary stage: pain, grief suffering. Within this is the stage of depression, failure, misery, and inertia. Here we wallow in seemingly purposeless pain. The silver lining around our cloud of potential recovery has been stripped away, but the old thought clouds remains intact. We still have a motivation a wish to be rescued by our parents and their replicated stand-ins, friends, lovers but we lack the requisite pain tolerance to be able to acknowledge the impossibility of this. Here we live in tortured ambivalence, and we spend out hours and days trying to get others to love us in the way our parents never could. Part of us wishes to devolve back into the seeming pleasure of grandiosity, but the healthier part recalls how cruelly that route already failed us.<br /><br />These parts of us with the capacity to face our past fear-filled history enter a third stage: grieving. This is the ten stage path of purposeful struggling. Here we unearth the truth of our past, which allows the eruption of the stinking cesspool of our buried traumas. Here we witness the horror lurking behind idealisation of the parents, teachers, priests here we attempt to work in disassembling society and their lies. Our honest confidence leads us into the face of the hurricane, because our child within and its allies tell us that blue skies lie on the other side. Here we are humble, here we confront the truth of the worst of our memories, either in interaction with them or through whatever means will best help us integrate the truth, and through this our journey gently moves sometimes forward and sometimes a little backward.<br /><br />With each unconscious demon we conquer by our understanding we take a further step into a clearly define fourth stage: enlightenment. This is a stage of full emotional integration, psychic balance, and inner peace. Here lie the deepest goals of our child within. All of us would like to know our own personal truth, and as we become enlightened little by little with the use of truth we achieve it in all parts of ourselves as we arrive in the final stages of our recovery. Here for the first time we grow becoming at last to be able to distinguish light from shadow and water from mirage. Here we nurture the evolution of our primitive sides instead of expressing them destructively. Here we devote the best of ourselves to healing. Here we no longer traumatise others in the very patterns in which we were first traumatised, but instead replicate the best of ourselves generating beauty, peace and loving-kindfulness in the world close to ourselves. Here, having had a restoration into our child within, we share freely of our newly found gifts, because now our gifts are accessible to us and all others.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

As we journey forward on the studied path that is the ten stages toward full awakening, different parts of ourselves live at different stages

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The Ten Stages with its child within revelations offer a unique journey inward which is both simple, gentle and effective

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjgSzuOXk1efS3PxLo7zFIooyhhGgJg6qy175UthwEt1u_D4t5v4H3AqiTNnn1mY2gMClwhC8QK0ejgr8jlIOI5CXH0nL8F4TYSizTUveOGDx_e21IsluZ8wkPFf6GgLUXyUlopouvcTY-T/s1600/14440824_10154640969327755_8139731793716015306_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="639" data-original-width="960" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjgSzuOXk1efS3PxLo7zFIooyhhGgJg6qy175UthwEt1u_D4t5v4H3AqiTNnn1mY2gMClwhC8QK0ejgr8jlIOI5CXH0nL8F4TYSizTUveOGDx_e21IsluZ8wkPFf6GgLUXyUlopouvcTY-T/s320/14440824_10154640969327755_8139731793716015306_n.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages with its unique child within revelations offer a journey inward which is both simple, gentle and effective in dealing with the chaotic outside world of trauma, addiction and conspiracy theories. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages believes that the root of our traumas and resulting addictions lie dissociation, societies method of dealing with freedom of the child within.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The best way for us to heal our unresolved childhood traumas is to study the ten stages and to do this as fast as is possible. The best way to optimise the ten stages are to focus our energies inward by avoiding engaging in projection, thus, to not have dissociations (the easiest projection objects), to meditate with light guidance, to be not confuse ourselves with outside explanations, conspiracy theories, new addiction theories built on the myth of addiction, to limit or curtail contact with our old addiction buddies, and to live healthy lifestyles. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The seeming conundrum here is that those of us who are most likely to heal are the least likely to have strong connections to the outside world, political or social and religious. The short-term answer to this is that we who become healthy identify in our grief, suffering and pain by proxy to the whole species. Our long-term answer is that once the species as a whole plays catch-up and awakens into maturity, then many of the healthiest among us would be satisfied with the simple knowledge that this brings.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We who are in denial are in a major rush to change things has his or her head buried in the sand, and lacks an ability to fathom the destruction we will have wreaked on our planet and on our children’s children in a few short generations’ time. Conclusion here: the time to change is now. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">If you deny this you are part of the problem.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Despite the rush we are in, healing ourselves is a process that takes time. It does not happen overnight. But it need not take many decades or generations, especially if we have allies on the healing path.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Attempting this plan requires major sacrifice — personal, emotional, social, familial, economic, and relational. So be prepared for a rough road. The irony is that we presently have the option of sacrificing; in the future, if we don’t do our homework, these sacrifices will be thrust upon us in far less pleasant ways.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We support and acknowledge experimentation and the practice of solution based loving-kindfulness. If any of our ideas sound too extreme or farfetched, we suggest consciously testing them for yourself. We have arrived at our point of view through testing — often doing exactly the opposite of what we suggest above. That is how we gained perspective. And we continue to test.</span><br /> <blockquote class="tr_bq"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><i>We have renewed hope, because we have seen how radically we can change. We have also developed a love of all humanity.</i></span></blockquote> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The Ten Stages with its child within revelations offer a unique journey inward which is both simple, gentle and effective

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When we look back we recognise that our old patterns of dissociation often lead us into addiction

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiutse09Si7dQLOJz5Ua3rsq-rez8a75VTcwhcjYkpdLvX82HSrlRbYh_4U2KBFlE-pGHI57RtBfRtiz4CZzGmD40aqkkHD9G5YiOOkJVxCo2Yqfm72HQ1k1ereVy6JjL7bkb37HHKjpzNm/s1600/FAV2469a73b5a355bd67cb0b6ffd71efc7e.ico.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="192" data-original-width="192" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiutse09Si7dQLOJz5Ua3rsq-rez8a75VTcwhcjYkpdLvX82HSrlRbYh_4U2KBFlE-pGHI57RtBfRtiz4CZzGmD40aqkkHD9G5YiOOkJVxCo2Yqfm72HQ1k1ereVy6JjL7bkb37HHKjpzNm/s1600/FAV2469a73b5a355bd67cb0b6ffd71efc7e.ico.png" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">When we look back we recognise that our old patterns of dissociation often lead us into addiction were really self-medication and the inevitable flight from reality. We do not do a “moral” inventory, that will only replay our childhood trauma just by studying our morals, our own “badness” and hurtful behaviour. </span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The reasons are that the mere act of revisiting childhood trauma and the frozen self is a re-traumatising belief. That we have already been pre-programmed to come to believe firmly that we had no true self. We have learned at the ten stages that we were programmed to believe that we were condemned at birth.</span></div> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

When we look back we recognise that our old patterns of dissociation often lead us into addiction

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Long ago, decades ago, We have made the decision that life was not worth living

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJVrPZWzwnE3Bhvqi3WcL8P7d4nO8xM94Pe28_Dzf1gwhrqLCBNJi9AVo3dVNC2Hn_kHfQdU7bSIU1VBFv68Ju2XlMwXGLN6JGk_gpjDwKDsMA7pg8ZmNQhKS2AqM4BxsIU1dS_cz6dsMc/s1600/1-1-people+think.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="800" data-original-width="800" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJVrPZWzwnE3Bhvqi3WcL8P7d4nO8xM94Pe28_Dzf1gwhrqLCBNJi9AVo3dVNC2Hn_kHfQdU7bSIU1VBFv68Ju2XlMwXGLN6JGk_gpjDwKDsMA7pg8ZmNQhKS2AqM4BxsIU1dS_cz6dsMc/s320/1-1-people+think.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Long ago, decades ago, We have made the decision that life was not worth living – it was something to ‘get through’ as smoothly and mindlessly as possible until we could die. The rule had been to imperceptibly stay as non-present as possible, while going about the business of doing what we had to do to ‘survive’, to pass as human. That was a rule we learned deep, deep down.<br /><br />Einstein said: “I must be willing to give up what I am in order to become what I will be.” That can be exceedingly difficult. When we embark on this journey of recovery we have not realised that healing required CHANGE on our part. We wanted the constant pain and anguish to stop, but we didn’t want my actual self to be different. We did not want to have to uproot the very foundations of our beliefs and actions and metaphorically relearn how to walk again. We wanted to be<br />free of the continual anguish we experienced, the continual need to cover up our lapses due to dissociation; the continual sporadic loss of time, the hop scotching nature of our abilities – sometimes being able to do certain things; other times have no concept of, or even any desire to have certain abilities.<br /><br />We wanted relief of all our symptoms, but I did not really want to “heal”.<br /><br /><br />When we are finally ready to start dealing with our addiction, we gradually realise that we then have to deal with what caused our addiction in the first place; what we had been unwilling/unable to face originally, what drove us to drink. Only now our problems were compounded by all the problems that alcoholism brings.<br /><br /><i>“The worst would pass in a few days. I’d feel good and I’d think, “I’ve got it down pat.” But then I’d look at my life and feel bad. That’s the real pain when you’re an addict. USING HURTS, BUT REALITY HURTS WORSE.”</i><br /><br />when we are not dissociating, we look at our life and realise this is so very different than what we have envisioned. We do not have a birth family, We do not have in-laws, We do not have blood relatives, We do not have a life partner. We give up an immense amount of ourself to insure that we would have all these things, and when we stopped dissociating, We realise that not only did we have none of those people in our life, We are also missing major portions<br />of ourself. It has taken us along time to realise two things:<br /><br />1. How can you lose what you never had? I never did have those things, only a pretence.<br /><br />And 2. We now have things that are far more important and valuable than those ever were in reality.<br /><br />But. We are still addicted. We know we would not have survived if we had not had the skill of dissociation. It served us quite well. It saved our lives. Now we don’t want to rely on it; we don’t want to do it automatically we have identified three types of dissociation we struggle with:<br /><br />1. The first way is the simple practice of spacing out or shutting off. we use this for two different purposes:<br /><br />1. Avoidance when we are unwilling or unable to face things<br /><br />2. A learned way to be able to switch. There are many times when we cannot access the parts that have the information and skills we need in a situation. Throughout the decades we have learned that a way to handle this was just to shut off completely inside, and sooner or later the information we<br />needed would gradually seep to the surface or some other place in my mind where it would become accessible to me.<br /><br />3. A third way we dissociate is to switch to other parts inside.It has taken us time to be able to tell when we am not ourself. we blend through most alter personalities, and it used to be easy to believe we are just being ‘us’. We’ve learned to be alert to various factors. One is what age we<br />feel. Other ways we have found to know when I am not Child Within present are to feel what size the body seems, relative to other people or objects; Sometimes we look at a dog, and it feels as if the dog is shoulder height to me. Ooops. Not Child within present! Other ways are to recognise what the emotional tone is and what the values are, what sort of things are important to us. How do I want to spend my time? A numbing activity such as computer games? Oops. That is not a Child within choice for us. So who is out and why?<br /><br />4. The fourth way we dissociate is one that may be difficult to grasp if we don’t use it. If we do, We will definitely know what we are talking about. We will tell us that some people whom we have discussed this with have found this concept highly triggering.<br /><br />We found ourself talking to our guides about a ‘construct’. They asked us what we mean by that term; at the time we had.......not a clue.<br /><br />We have since learned that we create a construct when we are functioning through something that is not an alter. We are always looking for a perfect ‘formula’ that we could leave in place, and personally go away. Life was something to be endured, and gotten through as gracefully and safely as possible, while the real ‘us’ was tucked away somewhere inaccessible. When we are preparing to be in a situation which we may perceive as threatening, we automatically figure out what qualities would be appropriate and useful for that event; find parts inside that have those qualities; put them together and create an ‘artificial’..persona to deal with the situation.<br /><br /><i>An example: One time a friend and I planned to go away for a weekend, share a motel room, and do numerous activities together. I was terrified. I was unused to being social; I was unused to spending long stretches of time with another person without being able to escape and dissociate. I was afraid she would find me (fill in the blank here) unacceptable, stupid, weird, any number of things. My anxiety levels rose and rose. I found myself figuring out how ‘normal’ people would act in a situation like this, what kind of things would interest them, what kind of things they would talk about, what kind of values they would have. I figured out what the situation demanded so that I could pass as human. I found myself focusing entirely on my friend and what she might want to do. It was far too terrifying to have any ‘me’ present at all. I was still around, somewhere, but definitely not in my body. That would have been far too terrifying. From some remote area, I worked the body, instructing it what to say and do. A construct is not ‘me’ or an alter; it is lacking much depth of character, although there were always certain parameters set for what actions the character could do.<br /><br />Fortunately, by then I was far enough along in healing that I realised what I was doing and started laughing at myself. This was a friend who knew about my background, who was safe, who was very accepting of who I was. I ended up just ‘winging’ it; yes, there were some anxious moments, but I spent a lot of time just being ‘me’ and reacting spontaneously to whatever arose, and had a great time.</i><br />We do want to say that we do not believe all dissociation is from addiction. If a person is still around perpetrators, dissociation may still be necessary. But once dissociation is learned as the major means to handle difficult emotions, a person will continue to use it automatically from then on, and it greatly lessens the quality of life.<br /><br />Having decided we wanted to do away with this addiction and the pain it causes us, We find specific strategies helpful, when we are not dissociating our decision to stop dissociating: We would like to share these with you.<br /><br />We would like to start with a quote we found: “No one healing intervention will enable a person to manifest the full scope of his or her wholeness. To maximally heal it is important not to limit ourselves to a single modality but to incorporate several healing practices that encompass body, mind, and spirit.<br /><br />We at the Stages strongly believe it takes more than talk therapy to break through when there is severe trauma in the background. It takes physical actions, whatever form they may take. When we are faced with severe trauma, the fight or flight response gets activated. This shuts down the cortex; the part of our brain that can reason, plan and make sense of things. Pieces of the event, snapshot pictures, get recorded, but the meaning does not. They are memories that do not make sense. After the trauma, these unresolved emotions are frozen in the body. Think of what the physiological responses are to any emotion and what it means for these responses to be stopped before completion and remain in the body. There is an ‘act hunger’...remaining – the body wants to move through and resolve these physiological processes. The body remembers even when the mind forgets. The body acts as our unconscious mind. At the Ten Stages we implement a full range of both play and safe drama therapies to unleash mind coupled with our body.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Long ago, decades ago, We have made the decision that life was not worth living

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We who are dissociated feel we have mastered forgiveness.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <br /></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhCp1KuxTuQLBnGkiwSYYiDLdCNSTNwwHnSKRbPxp0XdtQLq9YXEs-xl9KzWSl-qGiMrpFEMZOU68Tn6g7wz3F3AkHySYgJ7Zfl4WRfeGOmAUed4GQD2cvlKUZ63E5lrBxKZGgwaG1SpYMv/s1600/FotorCreatedstudying.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="800" data-original-width="800" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhCp1KuxTuQLBnGkiwSYYiDLdCNSTNwwHnSKRbPxp0XdtQLq9YXEs-xl9KzWSl-qGiMrpFEMZOU68Tn6g7wz3F3AkHySYgJ7Zfl4WRfeGOmAUed4GQD2cvlKUZ63E5lrBxKZGgwaG1SpYMv/s320/FotorCreatedstudying.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We who are dissociated feel we have mastered forgiveness. But this is only because we completely deny the harm done to us – and the damage remaining. Ten Stagers forgive spontaneously and without effort because we have fully embraced our damaged childhood and have grieved every honest ounce of our misery. Forgiveness does not need to be embraced as a solution as we recognise that we come from a point of perfection our perfect child within. </span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We who are dissociated feel we have mastered forgiveness.

We who are dissociated feel we have mastered forgiveness. But this is only because we completely deny the harm done to us – and the da...

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The Ten Stages Study Course is new experiential perhaps the greatest human exploration and adventure about rebuilding autonomous self worth.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhh7u_0lYZnt-cHXCbHVqZI4qSIQEUhlbwH3gY2daXJiW29hzn3mbK1XDFmg8qOTBwLD8vzfKLZfukVYNGhuRiDELUWp556yBNo05LTptUbR01aWEhKwqsWBA4fqptTwkfugHYyiPys8ZFP/s1600/Free69.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="268" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhh7u_0lYZnt-cHXCbHVqZI4qSIQEUhlbwH3gY2daXJiW29hzn3mbK1XDFmg8qOTBwLD8vzfKLZfukVYNGhuRiDELUWp556yBNo05LTptUbR01aWEhKwqsWBA4fqptTwkfugHYyiPys8ZFP/s320/Free69.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages Study Course is new and perhaps the greatest human exploration and adventure about rebuilding autonomous self worth.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">When we trump a person’s right to make autonomous decisions we send them the message that they are incompetent. By giving them a label We teach them not to trust themselves. We teach them that their experience is a pathology rather than an opportunity for self-study and growth. We teach them that their “symptoms” or “defences” are a problem rather than a window into a world of deeper meaning and history. We teach them that life’s answers are outside of them, that the truth is not within, and that our best bet is not to look within for guidance. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages is an autonomous self teaching Study Course owned by ourselves and completed by ourselves. It is perhaps the greatest human exploration and adventure based recovery study program on this planet and it is available to you now.Join us in October for our second international week long convention.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <i>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</i>

The Ten Stages Study Course is new experiential perhaps the greatest human exploration and adventure about rebuilding autonomous self worth.

The Ten Stages Study Course is new and perhaps the greatest human exploration and adventure about rebuilding autonomous self worth. When ...

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Oh, the comfort – the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1M1swZKnQX4kV54NkvpcGB2erFDxouu4kyt2zptSz0IF6MJaGWqcG3IkpIGEAFNasn0NH9UdoMN92zpLRU8ttMXM14_Uv7cNXbkNjwW3zifel9QrmNvXotYDPc7X9vm9oEI8H9TGRnqbN/s1600/dissworld98.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1M1swZKnQX4kV54NkvpcGB2erFDxouu4kyt2zptSz0IF6MJaGWqcG3IkpIGEAFNasn0NH9UdoMN92zpLRU8ttMXM14_Uv7cNXbkNjwW3zifel9QrmNvXotYDPc7X9vm9oEI8H9TGRnqbN/s320/dissworld98.jpg" width="233" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Truth ,Trust and Consent </span><span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We have to gain and use only Truth, Trust and Consent – this is just the Healing Hand Of Kindfulness Plus Insight into our own intuitive voice. Consent is the key – We cannot change others, they change themselves, only with our benign compassionate assistance coupled to our earned consent can we hope to institute any form of change.</span><span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br />Oh, the comfort – the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person – having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.” ~Dinah Craik, A Life for a Life, 1859<br /></span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Oh, the comfort – the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person

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We have a potential member in front of us who has a software problem. It’s not a hardware problem.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-KFxIuIwe48T92WRVUr43CrPmxEejdWnM7GVlsIbIAB_DvVK1dQ-FGzs0KKPYu3VUojrh3vsylXgwd70rnr7m8SE2K_W2gOrKmuzPatBC7QisoB_EyoRTM2zo_EPPKEwwK1uAVzeGW4he/s1600/dissworld.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-KFxIuIwe48T92WRVUr43CrPmxEejdWnM7GVlsIbIAB_DvVK1dQ-FGzs0KKPYu3VUojrh3vsylXgwd70rnr7m8SE2K_W2gOrKmuzPatBC7QisoB_EyoRTM2zo_EPPKEwwK1uAVzeGW4he/s320/dissworld.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We have a potential member in front of us who has a software problem. It’s not a hardware problem.</span><span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br />Before any course or work is under taken he The initial very serious work of keeping a student safe from harm in an environment of truth, trust and consent helping them to accept anger and other emotions as valid and primary goals in the Ten Stages is under taken. </span><div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"> As traumatised students learn that they need not be ashamed about past trauma and abuse, their identities consolidate, memory improves and they become less reliant on dissociation and other coping mechanisms.<br /></span><br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

We have a potential member in front of us who has a software problem. It’s not a hardware problem.

We have a potential member in front of us who has a software problem. It’s not a hardware problem. Before any course or work is under take...

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Our so-called conscious mind — believe it or not — is not in charge of our day-to-day behaviour.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgZrVCA6hvDguMXbVSAmAHouENGz4QkWIE002XhtOqhwDoRWIFa-GDofJLK7rNkT0HVaRBEIr99E8upsYC3e7udO01WUgvE2GMq-bFhOD_RKhVIqVMIgDs9AGYQp9QXu7y2EstOPuA4bZPT/s1600/living+rent+free.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgZrVCA6hvDguMXbVSAmAHouENGz4QkWIE002XhtOqhwDoRWIFa-GDofJLK7rNkT0HVaRBEIr99E8upsYC3e7udO01WUgvE2GMq-bFhOD_RKhVIqVMIgDs9AGYQp9QXu7y2EstOPuA4bZPT/s1600/living+rent+free.jpg" /></a></div> <br /> <div class="widget Stats" data-version="1" id="Stats1" style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: #f6f6f7; color: #666666; font-family: "Allerta Stencil"; font-size: 12px; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 1.4; margin: 0px 0px 1.5em; min-height: 0px; orphans: 2; position: relative; text-align: left; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> </div> <br /> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Our so-called conscious mind — believe it or not — is not in charge of our day-to-day behaviour. That claim may seem counter intuitive and contrary to our experience, but it has been demonstrated in controlled experiments time and again. By the time our conscious mind is aware of any particular decision or action, it has already been made or enacted by some other part of our brain.</span><br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Our so-called conscious mind — believe it or not — is not in charge of our day-to-day behaviour.

Our so-called conscious mind — believe it or not — is not in charge of our day-to-day behaviour. That claim may seem counter intuitive...

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Most of us are secretly needy children.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEil3boTpnvTHA8MZ2hXXmcOUmJnMfnHvegS3hry_3BLHUPj1MdJFZec8a5TIxN_63B5pAen3RR6_UcEjdanwMF_n6DBdhiZaUPPaQSRkvyFAzOtYmOWq3wI-98KLxEQTZSl0FkXGnUFZatG/s1600/1-Quotation-Jeannette-K-Lancaster-play-child-Meetville-Quotes-239693.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="197" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEil3boTpnvTHA8MZ2hXXmcOUmJnMfnHvegS3hry_3BLHUPj1MdJFZec8a5TIxN_63B5pAen3RR6_UcEjdanwMF_n6DBdhiZaUPPaQSRkvyFAzOtYmOWq3wI-98KLxEQTZSl0FkXGnUFZatG/s320/1-Quotation-Jeannette-K-Lancaster-play-child-Meetville-Quotes-239693.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Most of us are secretly needy children. We want love and nurturance from our children, and often fail to provide it in return. </span><div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Our children are forced to give love, and end up neglected. We grow up still desiring to get mature love from others attempting to recreate surrogate parents. If we are to recover, and to engage in the ten stage course, we have to learn how to nurture ourselves from within.<br /></span>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div>

Most of us are secretly needy children.

Most of us are secretly needy children. We want love and nurturance from our children, and often fail to provide it in return.  Our child...

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The Ten Stages is a taught course that usually runs for twelve week period.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjn-edanhUj-U0JrKs7AVD9i63iE7dmPJP7Yai-FLfcAUNtovOovmjhBgqXOjRN33LyACGnw8ZMtFaYJ3QSsJZyzMbdpSHhwCL0YOKcweVI9Bs7fkSe2uGz17ykBJEdaCCoCMtTW9pAW0rt/s1600/8-Reasons-Why-Experiential-Learning-Is-The-Future-Of-Learning.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjn-edanhUj-U0JrKs7AVD9i63iE7dmPJP7Yai-FLfcAUNtovOovmjhBgqXOjRN33LyACGnw8ZMtFaYJ3QSsJZyzMbdpSHhwCL0YOKcweVI9Bs7fkSe2uGz17ykBJEdaCCoCMtTW9pAW0rt/s320/8-Reasons-Why-Experiential-Learning-Is-The-Future-Of-Learning.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages is a taught course that usually runs for twelve week period. It relies on an experiential learning process of learning through our own experiences, and is more specifically defined as "learning through reflection on doing" or often in our case that we have done in our past. Hands-on learning is a form of experiential learning but does not necessarily concentrate students reflecting only on themselves, but reflecting on the experience of others both similar and different. Experiential learning is distinct from rote or didactic learning, in which the learner plays a comparatively passive role. It is related to but not synonymous with other forms of active learning such as action learning, adventure learning, free choice learning, cooperative learning, and service-learning.The Ten Stages can use all these methods or none it is truly experiential using kindfulness as an introduction to Truth,Trust and Consent.<br /><br />Experiential learning is often used synonymously with the term "experiential education", but while experiential education is a broader philosophy of education, experiential learning considers the individual learning process. As such, compared to experiential education, experiential learning is concerned with more concrete issues related to the learner and the learning context.In our case a gentle compassionate Ten Stages experience.<br /><br />The general concept of learning through experience is ancient. Around 350 BCE, Aristotle wrote in the Nichomachean Ethics "for the things we have to learn before we can do them, we learn by doing them".Within the Ten Stages you become both the teacher and the student.....and finally the child within. </span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The Ten Stages is a taught course that usually runs for twelve week period.

The Ten Stages is a taught course that usually runs for twelve week period. It relies on an experiential learning process of learning th...

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Reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhQwTITfapi4lHy007DAaSAXZwwRFhlHEb5jB6y9zhxQ_Ab4nPIaeWM4rFT1LPBClvGb0OvDdo_gRW1W9yDIijpXjjIsk7rcHwYVTswS7MwiUW1Y6QcaLfQ4Nngm-8H1KfK7BER-mAucDTd/s1600/21568993large.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhQwTITfapi4lHy007DAaSAXZwwRFhlHEb5jB6y9zhxQ_Ab4nPIaeWM4rFT1LPBClvGb0OvDdo_gRW1W9yDIijpXjjIsk7rcHwYVTswS7MwiUW1Y6QcaLfQ4Nngm-8H1KfK7BER-mAucDTd/s320/21568993large.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</span>

Reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.

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Ten Stagers who have accepted their child within into maturity can approach conflict with an enemy in a nonreactive way.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEimp_dx5VwEl244vZrxJNYbCFlYNu_XInXLrM8bp7mRujiuuGhjldgR4OR1rHqqE8wQ69hyphenhyphen-R-fQoZrV8kRtDewj-cZaPrBTT0C85LkeISg0kZP-5mWTIJXfEG5v6G2pPXOfsSifrwJNer_/s1600/rehab234.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEimp_dx5VwEl244vZrxJNYbCFlYNu_XInXLrM8bp7mRujiuuGhjldgR4OR1rHqqE8wQ69hyphenhyphen-R-fQoZrV8kRtDewj-cZaPrBTT0C85LkeISg0kZP-5mWTIJXfEG5v6G2pPXOfsSifrwJNer_/s320/rehab234.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Ten Stagers who have accepted their child within into maturity can approach conflict with an enemy in a nonreactive way. When a Ten Stager is awakened, they acquire power, authority, and consciousness to confront the raging child in another with detachment. A conscious Ten Stager can approach a conflict, hear its issues, and resolve the matter in a safe, measured manner. If others become attacking, violent children, then our self-defence needs to remain detached, and not become an excuse to act out unconscious rage in return.  <i>Ten Stagers need to approach conflict and self-defence in an enlightened manner.</i></span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Ten Stagers who have accepted their child within into maturity can approach conflict with an enemy in a nonreactive way.

Ten Stagers who have accepted their child within into maturity can approach conflict with an enemy in a nonreactive way. When a Ten Stager...

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Ten Stages meditation is a form of meditation that is accessible to people of all backgrounds.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1KoIOoT4OK84OktrqfJOsL9sgyHQqskznyoSnV8mXMT-hkJIs_dvPc8pBkCdLrgP3-e8hyphenhyphenwG9vZS79lZltvLvUWz67Pg7ycyX9bNcNCEbx9fRAOtcri8KfqVaiQg1zYZtbLB-z7-rsknC/s1600/1-1-The+Ten+Stages234-006.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1KoIOoT4OK84OktrqfJOsL9sgyHQqskznyoSnV8mXMT-hkJIs_dvPc8pBkCdLrgP3-e8hyphenhyphenwG9vZS79lZltvLvUWz67Pg7ycyX9bNcNCEbx9fRAOtcri8KfqVaiQg1zYZtbLB-z7-rsknC/s320/1-1-The+Ten+Stages234-006.jpg" width="207" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Ten Stages meditation is a form of meditation that is accessible to people of all backgrounds. It is a meditation without rituals or mantras and can be practised anywhere at any time.  Meditation is practised with ‘open eyes', which makes this method of meditation versatile, simple and easy to practice. Meditation is a state of child within just beyond every day consciousness, which is where</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> empowerment has always begun. Child Within awareness gives us the power to choose positive thoughts over those which are negative and wasteful. We start to respond to situations, rather than just reacting to them. We begin to live with harmony, we create better and happier, healthier relationships and change our lives in the most positive way.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Ten Stages meditation is a form of meditation that is accessible to people of all backgrounds.

Ten Stages meditation is a form of meditation that is accessible to people of all backgrounds. It is a meditation without rituals or mantr...

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Ten Stage weekly meet-ups has been created to provide a safe, confidential a sane place to be able, discuss and study the 10 Stages.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiD9C8sqBvso9d9U_aDcrKLBgmSeX5Yd1avcaLu9H_VQxnfiny1cwSH_SOos9LzUE50Ih3AF6EGMr31E3iAZOigvZLKypOFpThupYke4qKL3wMFQhr5of0lVsxw8FVESIaTYoFQhPaNKpYm/s1600/10+stage+meetups.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiD9C8sqBvso9d9U_aDcrKLBgmSeX5Yd1avcaLu9H_VQxnfiny1cwSH_SOos9LzUE50Ih3AF6EGMr31E3iAZOigvZLKypOFpThupYke4qKL3wMFQhr5of0lVsxw8FVESIaTYoFQhPaNKpYm/s320/10+stage+meetups.jpg" width="214" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Ten Stage weekly meet-ups has been created to provide a safe, confidential a sane place to be able, discuss and study the 10 Stages.We seek to create an area of truth, trust and consent to be able to allow the child within to express itself in the privacy it requires.</span><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We gather together to support each other in healing from our dysfunctional coping strategies, addictions, compulsions, and  self defeating, destructive behaviours. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We encourage each person to find and revel in their own power, intelligence, self-esteem and yes strengths. We are here to support each other, but we do not presume to know what is best for another.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"> We realise that all people unfold in their own way and their own time. We learn from each other and draw strength from seeing the courage of others, yet we keep the focus on ourselves. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We listen to each other's pain, but we also bond in power and joy and encourage everyone to take the necessary steps to live with respect and meaning in their lives.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"> We are open to all possibilities for healing and finding our internal wisdom and power.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Within the meet-ups we create teaching forums that are not listed on any search engine or accessible to the public it is by invitation only.The Ten Stages by their nature are experiential and are constantly evolving and require a minimum of twelve weeks</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "Courier New", Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">to institute changes that are required to gain all the benefits of kindfulness.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Ten Stage weekly meet-ups has been created to provide a safe, confidential a sane place to be able, discuss and study the 10 Stages.

Ten Stage weekly meet-ups has been created to provide a safe, confidential a sane place to be able, discuss and study the 10 Stages.We see...

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We see the world, not as it is

<br /> <div class="zemanta-related" style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; clear: both; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; margin-top: 20px; orphans: 2; overflow: hidden; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> </div> <br /> <div dir="ltr" style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiwCCTf9wgjJujDIW-jCAWpzsnZZguWxw0BRIKhdEb6qEQ3t_F_KX3RTmyhHHj5nzx7gupW4GcY2jOt3RtTQyYh2aeE2tDOo9uvbINMiIBr6l5CUqMnIGAz3F2PdmZEuJYahTkV_gTBSICJ/s1600/action+stages.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="266" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiwCCTf9wgjJujDIW-jCAWpzsnZZguWxw0BRIKhdEb6qEQ3t_F_KX3RTmyhHHj5nzx7gupW4GcY2jOt3RtTQyYh2aeE2tDOo9uvbINMiIBr6l5CUqMnIGAz3F2PdmZEuJYahTkV_gTBSICJ/s320/action+stages.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <div style="margin: 0px;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We see the world, not as it is, but as we are </span><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">or, as we have been conditioned to see it. Because of this, we must constantly examine our perception and seek self-awareness. We all need regular vision examinations. What have you recently re-examined? What did you discover? We need to re-see our world as the child, the child within sees it.</span></div> </div> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We see the world, not as it is

We see the world, not as it is, but as we are  or, as we have been conditioned to see it. Because of this, we must constantly examin...

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Within the Ten Stages we start to understand where our adult depressive state has come from

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiXM9oUkhSPcpuKRTRmibd6HgtSDH7krNl5raIWwnGgxsiIO1FuvXOD32jDULHFgToJl0YiNn47QWznB3tFoKHwRRLABZxe_uSZZTcWJxeRdELE5DzGUl4zIMXNpYlmXPhYQY-2d-ecDrNB/s1600/action+stages.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="266" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiXM9oUkhSPcpuKRTRmibd6HgtSDH7krNl5raIWwnGgxsiIO1FuvXOD32jDULHFgToJl0YiNn47QWznB3tFoKHwRRLABZxe_uSZZTcWJxeRdELE5DzGUl4zIMXNpYlmXPhYQY-2d-ecDrNB/s320/action+stages.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Within the Ten Stages we start to understand where our adult depressive state has come from.It originates from Childhood repression and abuse.</span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><i>If we don’t allow ourselves to feel and be honest about what’s inside our child within without judgment – we can never really change.</i><br /><br />We can change our clothes, we can change our diet and we can start to move our body, but none of that will do any good without going into the depths of the feelings we have suppressed for so long of our child within.</span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">What are these feelings we are afraid to feel?<br /><br />What feelings do we attempt to flee from?</span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">What feelings are us holding back because we believe we are bad</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> if we feel them?</span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />We see – that these places are the places we need to go if we are to liberate ourselves.<br /><br />This is what Carl Jung meant when he said, “Enlightenment is not imaging figures of light, but making the dark conscious.”<br /><br />We can’t make our child within conscious if we are too self-judgmental to allow it to come forward – this is our Adult bypass, and the gateway to our recovery.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com</div> </div>

Within the Ten Stages we start to understand where our adult depressive state has come from

Within the Ten Stages we start to understand where our adult depressive state has come from.It originates from Childhood repression and ab...

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The Ten Stages seeks a solution

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgp57oSAzCJOYnIABvsJKNLHwlV5ftx9CgHr1mr_bkK64E-P0Sx_94iP6wOACcJMCuWww2CvEyrl9_wD5tK1MyVFgPAQ0oYNjCQV1J5Hqrzs6SCrM9rGHrVvc6fZatAlddetRD62boghCpV/s1600/action+stages.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="266" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgp57oSAzCJOYnIABvsJKNLHwlV5ftx9CgHr1mr_bkK64E-P0Sx_94iP6wOACcJMCuWww2CvEyrl9_wD5tK1MyVFgPAQ0oYNjCQV1J5Hqrzs6SCrM9rGHrVvc6fZatAlddetRD62boghCpV/s320/action+stages.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages seeks a solution that moves us beyond our own "painful inner dialogue." and out into the clear blue waters of permanent recovery.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">During the course of the ten Stages we attempt to be awakened to our original enlightened nature. This involves interrupting the ordinary flow of linear, language-based, thinking so that we can rediscover "the mind within the mind".</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Focusing on external circumstances or teachings is not what triggers the moment of child within awakening, in other words. Rather, it is focusing on the absence of our continual running internal commentary. Because this is impossible to "think" without words, our practice of stopping the flow of running commentary on our lives involves cultivating a mindset of no-thought in an attempt to experience each moment as it is without silently talking to ourselves about it.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Attempting to gain the mind without the internal voice means starting to deal with the origins of the voice and the trauma it still holds and regurgitates at any pressure to reveal its inner secrets.In the ten stages a dialogue is instituted with the inner voice through the experience of guided meditation, and it start to work, how it works finally it has the potential for us to gain complete freedom of understanding.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The Ten Stages seeks a solution

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We start to identify our subconscious triggers after a time they come unbidden

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhY0t_gI0_zy_VzNvPMwU1GZDx0gjdQpnH1vMHQXPMKDAHdD3lG9hUlvGBLzNEqpr-rP0yb_sv6wPB59CrzvaAyUC_5ANjUXZKJgjaaQwbYUqmRQu5bMp46_LZkMHuyQHheZjYmm-vsMuNv/s1600/18057639_924286604379707_8866164788376405157_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhY0t_gI0_zy_VzNvPMwU1GZDx0gjdQpnH1vMHQXPMKDAHdD3lG9hUlvGBLzNEqpr-rP0yb_sv6wPB59CrzvaAyUC_5ANjUXZKJgjaaQwbYUqmRQu5bMp46_LZkMHuyQHheZjYmm-vsMuNv/s320/18057639_924286604379707_8866164788376405157_n.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">We start to identify our subconscious triggers after a time they come unbidden, unwarned, unwanted: and suddenly we become triggered. Before conscious thought has any chance to intervene, our body is once more engaged in a fight-flight-freeze response. Back comes the dissociations, the powerlessness, the rage: the memory of childhood abuse. It is difficult to endure, but eventually overtime we have learned that triggers are not a sign, as we so desperately feared, that we were crazy. Triggers are merely signposts to what has yet to be integrated in our memory and experience. They are a conditioned response meant to help us, to keep us safe, to avoid something that caused us harm in the past. A redundant response that leads to an old coping strategy</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br /> <blockquote class="tr_bq"> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Our survival based back brains aren’t smart they tend to generalise, they extrapolate, they guess: preferring to err on the safe side, they identify a superfluous detail, like ‘beard’, as a signal of impending threat. Our back brains can’t deduce (yet) that lots of men have beards, and that beardedness is not a good predictor of abuse. So it screams a warning at us now, until our front brains can assimilate new data from our now-safe environment, where beardedness is simply a personal grooming preference that speaks nothing of the motivation to perpetrate: like the colour red, or the sound of footsteps, or the odour of sweat, or the feeling of cold.</span></blockquote> <br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;"> Triggers came with such overpowering affect, an echo of the feelings we had at the time. So we avoided them at all costs. It took a long time for us to recognise that by doing so we are ignoring their vital message. Triggers are clues about what is still dissociated. we used to complain often that we couldn’t remember what happened to us, but then we discounted the hints, stored in procedural, implicit memory, that triggers offered us. Recovery involves accepting triggers as messengers, and learning to listen to the message that they brought, rather than building a life of chaos, distraction and noise.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

We start to identify our subconscious triggers after a time they come unbidden

We start to identify our subconscious triggers after a time they come unbidden, unwarned, unwanted: and suddenly we become triggered. B...

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Either we want to recover, and live a life free from dissociation, or we could choose instead to continue to dissociate ourself and not recover.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiEx7XeDnOR4t2_1RFDLg6t6a4Y455ZxyVfUuMMSY5H6iVgso9KWW9gNuMzjp59In3Ykr8YOQBBky4TemfD_qtwp66W7-r-5yow_SZ6ToIK3WvF34OR5JSgE1lfLB61EW0RLb7KUx2_AMfg/s1600/1-ten+stage+poster45.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="135" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiEx7XeDnOR4t2_1RFDLg6t6a4Y455ZxyVfUuMMSY5H6iVgso9KWW9gNuMzjp59In3Ykr8YOQBBky4TemfD_qtwp66W7-r-5yow_SZ6ToIK3WvF34OR5JSgE1lfLB61EW0RLb7KUx2_AMfg/s200/1-ten+stage+poster45.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">At the ten stages the biggest changes come when we recognise and decide to stop dissociating ourselves."Ive just eaten a whole bag of sweets.Ive just drank a whole bottle of wine.I am watching television all the time". It is a great irony that we bemoan the symptoms of dissociation in our life, and then continue to inflict dissociation on ourselves. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We realised that we have used our past as an excuse to dissociate ourselves; We used our self</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> diagnosis as an excuse to dissociate ourself; we used our feelings as an excuse to abuse ourself. Of course it makes sense to hate yourself when you’ve been forced as a child to perpetrate dissociation. It makes sense, but it’s just perpetuating that abuse. It’s counter-intuitive instead to show yourself compassion, and break the cycle of dissociation. We eventually realise that if we really did hate what has been done to us, then we couldn’t continue to do it to ourself. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> </span><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Either we want to recover, and live a life free from dissociation, or we could choose instead to continue to dissociate ourself and not recover.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The choice comes to us, as stark as a fork in the road, and although it took much persistence to kill off old habits, refusing to dissociate ourselves any longer was the single most important step we can take in our recovery journey.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Either we want to recover, and live a life free from dissociation, or we could choose instead to continue to dissociate ourself and not recover.

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When we rest in our own true nature that of the child, we feel what it feels like to be

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhLwQIZvYllQ2W5TIJTBm4I32_bJr47khHbhLYO3_KwnOMhn1JEWkBLTpAttNzHj0PnpZWQWCfBRZD3OWvLGzJza_f4p5xOTlo_N9-TKt0_uebdZV0SMAFiF1V0ADGjSj7wfhK_QRNZiB_o/s1600/11990501_10153129746172083_2372636344579907381_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="101" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhLwQIZvYllQ2W5TIJTBm4I32_bJr47khHbhLYO3_KwnOMhn1JEWkBLTpAttNzHj0PnpZWQWCfBRZD3OWvLGzJza_f4p5xOTlo_N9-TKt0_uebdZV0SMAFiF1V0ADGjSj7wfhK_QRNZiB_o/s320/11990501_10153129746172083_2372636344579907381_n.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <blockquote class="tr_bq"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">When we rest in our own true nature that of the child, we feel what it feels like to be eternal, to know absolutely that we can never cease to be. This realisation makes us feel deeply secure. We recognise that although our body will cease to exist one day, we - the child within - will continue.</span></blockquote> <i><span style="font-size: large;">Extract from the new meditation </span></i><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

When we rest in our own true nature that of the child, we feel what it feels like to be

When we rest in our own true nature that of the child, we feel what it feels like to be eternal, to know absolutely that we can never cea...

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