One of the necessary ingredients for the awakening to reality of a dissociate - and perhaps one of the most difficult, is to relinquish control of a relationship and to give back control over their own life.
Some key areas of control which may need to be yielded include:
Relationships - who is allowed to interact with, how and when they associate with others and how often.
Interests - Social groups, churches, hobbies and activities which are attractive to but which may not be a priority or of value to the dissociate.
Finances - How the family finances are budgeted, what takes priority and how to resolve conflicts.
Children - How children are cared for, how they are disciplined, what freedoms they are allowed and how medical and educational decisions are made.
Roles & Responsibilities - Who does the chores and when, who is responsible for what, what to do when there is an unexpected issue or problem.
Household Rules - What is acceptable and unacceptable behavior. What boundaries are to be respected so that everybody can feel safe.
Freedom of Independent Thought - Allowing others to believe what they want, think what they want, like and dislike what they want.
If someone is working on dissociation, yet is not able to yield control over these and similar issues, there is likely to be conflict down the road and a return to dreamscape.
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. #childwithin#10stages
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