Dissociation inventing ourself, WE the dissociated sees no problem in re-inventing that which was designed in the first place. We the dissociated are our own creator.

We the dissociated has been conditioned - from an early age of abuse and trauma - to expect the unexpected. It is a world in motion where (sometimes sadistically) capricious caretakers and peers often engaged in arbitrary behaviour. We were trained to deny our true self and nurture a false one.

Having invented ourself, the dissociated sees no problem in re-inventing that which was designed in the first place. We the dissociated are our own creator.

Hence our grandiosity.

Moreover, We the dissociated have become a shadow self for all seasons, forever adaptable, constantly imitating and emulating, a human sponge, a perfect mirror, a non-entity that is, at the same time, all entities combined.

The dissociate is best described by the phrase: "Being and Nothingness". Into this reflective vacuum, this sucking black hole, the dissociate attracts the sources of his dissociated supply.

To an observer, the dissociate appears to be fractured or discontinuous.

Pathological dissociates has been compared to the Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly the Multiple Personality Disorder). By definition, the dissociate has at least two selves. Our personality is very primitive and disorganised. Living with dissociation is a nauseating experience not only because of what is - but because of what is NOT. We have become not a fully formed human - but a dizzyingly kaleidoscopic gallery of mercurial images, which melt into each other seamlessly. It is incredibly disorienting.

It is also exceedingly problematic. Promises made by the dissociated are easily disowned .  plans are ephemeral. emotional ties - a simulacrum. Most dissociates have one island of stability in their life (spouse, family, their career, a hobby, their religion, country, or idol) - pounded by the turbulent currents of a disheveled existence.

Thus, to emotionally invest in dissociation is a purposeless, futile and meaningless activity. To the dissociate, every day is a new beginning, a hunt, a new cycle of idealisation or devaluation, a newly invented shadow self.

There is no accumulation of credits or goodwill because the dissociate has no past and no future. occupying an eternal and timeless present. A fossil caught in the frozen lava of a volcanic childhood.

The dissociate does not keep agreements, does not adhere to laws, regards consistency and predictability as demeaning traits. The dissociate hates meat one day - and devours it passionately the next.

We the dissociated break free from our denial
realising and recognising that we are the fossil caught in the frozen lava of a volcanic childhood, and their is recovery in the ten stages and our child within.




The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. #childwithin#10stages