First are The Ten Stages then THE PROGRAM

First are The Ten Stages then THE PROGRAM: Practicing loving-Kindfulness doesn’t mean we are a pushover. In fact, many times the first loving-kindfullness action to do is to set our boundaries.

As with everything we talk about here at the program, the key is balance. Too many boundaries and you close off; no boundaries and you lose yourself.

We have to learn a valuable lesson: the boundaries of loving-kindfulness.

One of the most challenging lessons we had to learn was the lesson of giving TOO MUCH away to others without regard for ourselves.


This was a painful and crippling lesson for us to learn emotionally, physically, spiritually and financially. We were bankrupt across the board. It was ironic because we were promoting a message of self-love, but didn’t have any for ourselves.
Of course it is in giving that we receive, but that starts with ourselves.

If we are not full of program power and authority of the child within, we will have nothing to give away.  We learned that boundaries are very important. We learned that we had to be fulfilled before we could be fulfilling in any human relationship or partnership with our hidden child.

We learned this lesson through our personal pain, but it has since become a path of joy. Our shadow self hated the transformation from that dark place to our lives now, but each time our shadow self got mad, our child within celebrated.

Now, We are living re-joined to our child within. It started through Loving-Kindfulness, then grew from giving that loving-kindfulness away and is sustained by a balance of giving to myself and to others. We have never experienced more consistent joy in our life as a result of those painful first stages in our recovery and we would do them all over again if we have to, because on the other side, re-generation is both beautiful and sweet.

Are you lost living your life for others and abandoning yourself in the process?





The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. #childwithin#10stages