When we become tuned in emotionally to our child withins feelings

When we become tuned in emotionally to our child withins feelings, and learn to validate our child's perceptions, our child within then starts to grow up learning to trust its own feelings which eliminates the crippling self-doubt that comes from narcissistic parenting. Here’s a simple checklist to help you get started:


Identify the feeling our child within is having.

Reflect back the feeling we are hearing or seeing to make sure we are correct to our own intuitive voice.Is this why I feel like this always.... Don’t make numbing assumptions.
Give validation of the feeling. Empathise with our child within.
Then deal with the context of what is going on now are we in an abusive presence and how is that effecting us are we angry, sad withdrawn of frightened.
We all want to be seen and heard. Empathy is what develops true emotional intimacy with our child within. Empathy is important for our child to learn for creating future healthy relationships, as well. Empathising with our child within does not mean that you allow it to manipulate you or always get its way. It just means you work to understand the feelings, and we let it know how important that is to us to finally listen to its intuitive, empathetic voice within, and observe what the centre of the universe is truly like.








The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. #childwithin#10stages