We have learned in taking part in the ten stage quest over thousands of kilometres in ten spiritual places in southern Spain.The empathy, love and compassion of so many people who welcomed us into their homes family and life and we had to learn very early in our quest that before we could tell another person the full and forbidden details of our traumatic history, we need to tell ourselves. We could only safely share in public what we had owned in private. We must be the first to witness our childhood dilemma in all its detail and we assemble the jumbled pieces of the puzzle into a unified whole. Then we needed to tell another mature person. This made our story undeniably real. We tell someone who has already grieved a great degree of his or her own traumatic past, because they do not doubt the reality of our history to protect an idealized version of their parents. They will empathize with the heartbreak we suffered and will neither defend our traumatizers nor blame us. This enlightened witness reminds us that we did not deserve to be violated. The crime was commited against us, not by us. Abuse is not love and never was. Our witness reassures us that no matter what happened to us, our core child within remains untainted perfect in every way. Our witness mirrors what should have been mirrored when we were children: our perfection.
The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. #childwithin#10stages
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