kindfulness is a working solution for the ten stages, the program and our child within

when we move toward others with loving-kindfulness, we are likely to bump into some common attitudes, just waiting to close our heart again. The usual suspects are judgment and all its associated "isms": racism, sexism, ageism, classism, and nationalism.

kindfulness is a working solution for the ten stages, the program and our child within

First step: Start with mindfulness. How do you know you’re stressed? Is there tightness in your stomach or a tension in your shoulders? Do you have a headache or is your heart racing. That’s the mindfulness bit. You’re getting feedback. Getting feedback is one of the functions of mindfulness.

Next step—kindness. Send kindness, warmth, and friendliness to your feelings of stress. Feel the stress like you’d hold a young baby, a delicate flower, or a cuddly bear. Be with the sensations using your heart, not just your head. Try this for a few minutes or so if you can.

Final step—mindfulness again. Notice what effect your little efforts had. Did the Kindfulness work? Do you feel better or worse? This way, you discover which attitudes work and which don’t. Either way, you learn something.

Kindfulness is not just for stress. You can also apply Kindfulness to your daily meditational practice.




The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. #childwithin#10stages