Dissociation and the roots of addiction. an urgent read.

Dissociation and the roots of addiction. Addiction does not exist it is an attempt to describe the often fatal consequences of dissociation.Addiction is not a disease and never has been, it is as if we describe death as a disease death, death is an accepted consequence of life.

If we accept that addiction has no meaning and can be only described in the terms of dissociations escapes from stress or an unacceptable reality then and only then can a solution be found.Grouping people together and further traumatising them is totally insane.Yet this is the recognised treatment?

The Ten Stages and the child within is a taught course that uncovers the trauma that others have failed to find and guide the newcomers into a healthy recovery free from stigma, mumbo jumbo, gurus, mentors and sponsors we acknowledge trauma and fear and encourage participation e do not label yet we acknowledge that this course requires high levels of truthfulness, your personal truthfulness which is a consequence of your courage.

Before we tell another person the full and forbidden details of our dissociation history, we need to tell ourselves. We can only safely share in public what we have first owned in private. We must be the first to witness our childhood dilemma in all its detail, to assemble the jumbled pieces of our puzzle into a unified whole. Then we need to tell another mature person. This makes our story undeniably real. We tell someone who has already grieved a great degree of his or her own dissociated past, because they will not doubt the reality of our story to protect an idealised version of their parents. They will empathise with the heartbreak we suffered and will neither defend our traumatise nor blame us. This enlightened witness reminds us that we did not deserve to be violated. The crime was committed against us, not by us. Abuse is not love and never was. Our witness reassures us that no matter what happened to us, our core remains untainted. Our witness mirrors what should have been mirrored when we were children: our perfection.




The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. #childwithin#10stages