If we were neglected as children, we enter adulthood as self worth-depleted.

If we were neglected as children, we enter adulthood as self worth-depleted. Now we must take the time alone, without the distractions or projections so often a part of romance, sex, and having a partner, in order to communicate with the child within. We must take the time to connect to the child within glowing within us. We may need guidance from an enlightened stager to learn the ways of self-worth. A stager-guide—a guide of caring and respect and boundaries and maturity—who witnesses our true value may provide us the first experience of true worth we've ever had.

It is easy to avoid self-worth by instead misusing others. We may project our damaged adult onto another and then try to engage with them. His or her wounded nature calls for our attention. We see their ache, but not our own. In fact, we dismiss our own cry for self worth as we project our pain outward, seeking to cure another instead of ourselves. Or, we may take a different tack to avoid self-worth and try to seduce and manipulate the recovery of others and attention out of others, selfishly, because we are unable to give ourselves our own connection to our child within.

It is important to remember that low self-worth becomes a manipulative bargaining chip when self-worth is missing. When we can take ourselves, our child within, into our own care, we can then truly begin to respect our neighbours as ourselves.


The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. #childwithin#10stages