Making The Ten Stages a taught course allowed for one of the most powerful human qualities that of choice.

Making The Ten Stages a taught course allowed for one of the most powerful human qualities that of choice. Choice is actually more powerful than recovery programs because we get to CHOOSE to RECOVER. Recovery is not a state of happiness all the time.

Recovery is a dedication to see and move towards the light and the dark. Not just be on a chemical high in the early stages ofrecovery. RECOVER is a verb and we get to choose TO RECOVER.
This brings me to the topic of today, which is choice.Many mystical teachings will tell you that you are 100% responsible for your circumstances.

Now – I’m not sure I am totally on board with that assessment because it’s hard to think about starving children and believe that they chose that, or that someone would “choose” to be violated or taken advantage of or worse. I think life is a combination of events, outside of our control, happening, plus our taking independent action to change the events, or the meaning of the events, to empower us.
So, I’m not going to say that we are 100% responsible for the events of our lives. But I will say that we are at least 80% responsible for the circumstances of our lives, and that boils down to choice. Sure, crazy things happen, sometimes even “evil” things happen; but once they happen, how WE deal with them will determine the outcome. And every moment we are choosing our way into the next moment, and in every moment, as things happen we are giving those events a meaning. And when we become aware of the fact that we are choosing ourselves into every moment and that our minds are the meaning makers of our lives, we get to see the MAJOR role we play in how our lives turn out.Sure, tragedies happen. But some people thrive afterwards and some don’t.

Why? It’s because each person gave the event a different meaning. Some people have abusive parents and then become abusive parents. Some people have abusive parents and then never abuse their children because they don’t want them to go through the same torment.
Throughout our lives, many of us will face circumstances that seem unfair, painful and traumatic. And, in the moment, that is true. But as we grow and evolve, we get to see that once we accept what happened, we now have the power of choice to be able to redefine the meaning of the event. Was it GRACE or was it a disaster? Was is the worst thing that happened to you or was it an amazing lesson? Was it a tragedy or an opportunity for you to be able to see how Loving you can be? Was it a dark chapter in your life or was it that the events had to happen in order for you to discover your Light?

When we realize we are the meaning makers of our lives, it doesn’t mean that everything was/is or will be hunky dory. But it does mean that we can accept and eventually rise above our circumstances because we realize at our essence we are a Soul that is unlimited and that we have the power to CHOOSE how we are going to respond, interpret and live our lives.

Remember, I said, gnarly sh*t happens and until the human race evolves collectively to a point where we see how INSANE some of our actions are, those of us who are on The Ten Stage Path can rise above this insanity and start being the presence of Loving Kindness on the planet that we were born to be.

So, if you are the meaning maker of your life, if choice is the most important quality of human behavior, what meanings are you giving the events of your life and what are you choosing to create? And would you like to change that?

The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. #childwithin#10stages