We will become stuck in the anti-chamber to death locked within our own pathology.

In the fellowships while it’s all well and good to know where our problem came from, and very important to know where our problem came from, if we only stay focused on that (the pathology) and sharing that pathology, we will not thrive.We will become stuck in the anti-chamber to death locked within our own pathology.We will live in a world dominated by our past pathology of Vodka and Vomit.



 To be able to thrive, in any way – medically, mentally, physically, emotionally – we’ve got to have an ideal outcome or scenario or destination that we are headed towards ours is inwards to our child within.


This isn’t to say that you should be SO fixed on an outcome that you are inflexible and rigid – on the contrary! We are  BIG believers in flow. But, if all we do is spend time focusing on what the addiction is, we leave no room open for our solution.

This isn’t as easy as “being positive”. We are would not be so naive as to say that a positive attitude is enough to make you feel better or heal – especially from extreme illness. However, what I am saying is that without a positive and optimistic outlook, the possibility of healing and THRIVING is almost 0%.



When we focus only on the problem – we get MORE of the problem. And it becomes not only the story of our life, but also our IDENTITY. And when we identify – as in - who we are is now the problem,addiction, mental health, disease the likelihood of thriving reduces significantly.



If we wish to thrive, if we wish to live an extraordinary life, if we wish for miracles and to be able to SEE solutions – we must go looking for them within our child. This means that we become aware of the pathology, understand the pathology and then set our minds on to an outcome of thriving, rather than on the pain of the problem in a mutual group setting.


This is not a prescription for an emotional bypass of our pain. We must feel our pain fully in order for it to heal. We cannot will our pain away or just wish for life to get better.



The body responds to what our mind feeds it. Healing is a medical process, an emotional process, a physical process AND an emotional process. To have fixed in our mind a thriving outcome of ideal health and abundance are the cornerstones of creating miracles in our life.



Anyone who has come back from massive failure or had a medical miracle in his or her life operated this way.

Can you? We are curious.




The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

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