Recovery comes through contact with our true self our child within.

Recovery comes through contact with our true self our child within. The perfect conduit for recovery is an honest desire—to become pure of heart, healed of trauma. For recovery to come through us without distortion, we must not be barricaded by defences or poisoned by wounds from the past. We must become a clear vessel for our child within.

If we are living not from our true self but from a defended, distorted reality we will fail to recover truly. If, in childhood, we have hidden our true selves from the crippling clutches of a world that would crush us and we have not healed this, our adult expressions of recovery will be distorted. Until our true self is redeemed, our love will be filtered through our child’s murky memories of pain and betrayal and will always have a hidden agenda: a secret, unconscious need for rescue, and when that fails—revenge. We will be incapable of affirming the fullness of life in those we claim to love and we will even doubt our own lovability—and withhold affection from ourselves.

The source of our compromised ability to recover ourselves is rooted in the necessary coping strategies that we built in childhood. We built these emotional defences to protect our pure child within from the violations we received. Until we carefully dismantle our defences through the painful grieving process, they will cloud and distort our recovery. If we refuse to heal, our attempts to recover will never work.

But if when we do heal, if we do grieve our childhood, we will be able to recover our life, deeply and truly.




The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

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