During these "dissy" state of mind, we may appear normal and attract no attention.

Dissociation within the ten stages sometimes consists of one or more episodes of forgetfulness in which the inability to recall some or all of our past and either the loss of our present identity or the formation of a new identity occur during sudden, unexpected, episode of contact with our child within. Warnings need to be given about driving motor vehicles or bikes.Travelling on public transport and defining the support on hand.The effects can last for sometime, occasionally with retrogressive visualisations.

Sometimes we can experience a predominant disturbance which are sudden, unexpected travel away from home or our customary place of work, with inability to recall one’s past. Confusion about our personal identity or an assumption of a new identity (partial or complete).Our disturbance does not occur exclusively during the course of dissociation and is not due to the direct physiological effects of a substance (e.g., a drug of abuse, a medication) or a general medical condition .


Our symptoms can cause distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.

The length of our dissociation may range from hours to weeks or months, occasionally longer. During these "dissy" state of mind, we may appear normal and attract no attention. We may assume a new personality, identity, and domicile and may engage and reevaluate our complex social interactions. However, at some point, confusion about this identity or the return of the original identity may make the person aware of amnesia or cause distress.

The prevalence of dissociation is much more common in connection with wars, accidents, and natural disasters.But many of us have learned dissociation as a long term social skill to hide deep emotional wounds.

We often has no outward symptoms and are only mildly confused during the dissociation events. Go shopping, go to the movies or hide out with friends. However, when the dissy state ends, depression, discomfort, grief, shame, intense conflict, and suicidal or aggressive impulses may appear, we must deal with what we fled from. Failure to remember events of the dissy state may cause confusion, distress, or even terror.

Our dissy states in progress is rarely recognised. It is suspected when we seem confused over our identity, puzzled about our past, or confrontational when our new identity or the absence of an identity is challenged. Sometimes dissiness cannot be realised until we abruptly returns to our old identity and are distressed to find ourself in unfamiliar circumstances.

Most dissiness episodes are brief and self-limited. Unless our behaviour has occurred before or during the episodes that has its own complications, impairment is usually mild and short-lived. If the episode is prolonged and complications due to behaviour before or during this episode are significant, we may have considerable difficulties.


The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

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