We can only truly show up and be happy when all our child withins needs are being met

When we have ignored the things that make us happy in order to please someone else, we are betraying ourselves and actually the other person as well. Why is this? Because when we abandon what makes us happy to make someone else happy, we are no longer showing up in the relationship fulfilled. And that is what we owe the other person – our joy and fulfillment. If we only live to make someone else happy, that path leads to resentment, anger and jealously, amongst other things.



But, when we make sure that our creative, spiritual, physical and sexual needs are being met, we can show up happy and joyful. It’s ultimately not the other person’s responsibility to make sure you are happy and fulfilled – it’s yours.



So, as you go along and grow along in your relationships, it’s vitally important to be able to tell the truth, even if you think it’s going to hurt the other person. The temporary pain of the truth far outweighs the long and drawn out subtle pain of living a lie.



Also, you make your partner small when you don’t tell them the truth. Chances are, they can handle it, and if they can’t, that’s a major red flag. Remember you are worthy of recovery and recovery goes hand in hand with being able to tell the truth. Living a lie, on the other hand, leads to anger, resentment, jealousy and the like.





The bottom line is this:  let us never abandon our child within to please others we have done too much of this. Let us remember that relationships are sent to us to grow and learn from and ultimately they are supposed to make us happy. We can only truly show up and be happy when all our child withins needs are being met, so it is up to us to make sure that’s happening so that the other person is let off the hook our parental hook.








The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

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