Starting to understand our parental voice and how it impacts our Child Within.

If we let it – our parental mind can run us. And, what’s worse – our parental mind can link up with all the other negative minds out there and use them as proof that it’s right.


The parental mind has a purpose – to keep us safe. But, we can spend so much time dwelling on what’s wrong and what’s negative – that we forget all else.


To much safety is bad for the child within.



All the thoughts of “I’m not good enough” and “I’m wrong or bad” or “this will never work out“ can overrun us.


Especially when we take risks with things that mean the most to us.


When we get vulnerable and put ourselves out there, boy oh boy, can the parental voice rise up.


It’s almost as if they tend to scream the loudest when we have the most on the line. The more vulnerable, the louder the inner critic and parental voice.


It’s there to keep us alive, but what’s living without being ourself out loud?


One of the hardest things for us to do is to really put our self out there, give something our all and put our whole heart into it and all the while we have these parental voices saying what they say.


And then when we put it out there, even if there is lots of amazing positive response, our parental minds latch onto the negative stuff of some of the few others – and then it screams “See, I told you so!”


But – that is not how we step into greatness. That is not how we make our lives mean something. That is now how we build a life of meaning and service.


We’ve learned it’s about honouring the parental voice and heeding it when we are in mortal danger – but otherwise thanking it and moving along.


Every time We’ve taken a big risk – those parental voices rear their head – but now we just thank them for sharing and move along. And when other people voice to me what our own negative mind says to me, instead of using it as a reason to prove our negativity right, We see it as an opportunity to believe in our self and our journey even more.


It’s hard. But it’s a lesson worth learning.


So – where in your life have you let the voices of your own negativity and the parental voice of the outside world become your actions and beliefs about yourself?


Who does your negative parental voice belong to?


And how are you going to turn it around now?

The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.