Self-doubt is painful and unpleasant, but valuable. Self-doubt is part of our healing process.

Self-doubt is part of our healing process. As you progressively break from our family on the quest to become a true individual, a part of ourself remains a clone of our family and ancestors in attitude and behaviour. This part does not want to change. It views the world through the dtysfunctioning ancestral perspective and hates that the deepest part of us desires to free our spirit and stand on our own. The weak attacks the strong, and we feel this attack as self-doubt.

Self-doubt is painful and unpleasant, but valuable. It is the ever present reminder that the civil war within really is happening, and that this is no imaginary internal conflict. Self-doubt points out exactly who are the opposing armies and defines the relative strength and tactics of each. Self-doubt is the conscious expression of the battle between the child within and the false parent that we have internalised, and if we lack clarity about our parents’ deepest motives we need look no further than the cruelty in our own self-doubt. our parents implanted this self-doubt in us long ago with full intention, however unconscious, of blocking us from progressing on the very journey we are undertaking today. our parents of today may smile and deny it all, but our self-doubt speaks louder.






As you grow stronger your self-doubt will weaken. But this is not always obvious, because as you grow stronger you will become more conscious of your self-doubt and will hear it more clearly. Whereas in the past you heard your self-doubt unconsciously to the degree that you may have hardly even noticed it and simply followed its orders, now at times it can torture you with its poisoned arrows and roadside bombs. In the past it didn’t consciously trouble you much because you weren’t doing battle with it. You were simply trying to fit in and win impossible love just like you struggled to do as a child. Now you are stronger and realize that if you continue to heed its call it will kill you. So you fight. It is the only way out.









The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.