Positive denial of our child within can be very destructive.

We don’t deny the negativity and pain of the past, we just
put negativity and pain in the proper context as being miracles for our own growth of learning from the pain and problems of childhood.

Many times in the personal growth and the child withins space we can confuse “positive thinking” and “positive denial.”

Positive denial of our child within can be very destructive. Positive thoughts can be very helpful as we move towards full contact..



As Stagers, the last thing we want to do is put our head back into the sand of childhood when there is a problem and just “positive think” our way into denial of our trauma and more pain. So, instead of just always being positive and that positivity being fake, we must also embrace the negative and the pain too..



In fact, it is when we give voice and healing to our negative thoughts, emotions and situations in our lives transform. When we choose to stare at negativity and pain and embrace them as lessons, we begin to shift and change and acknowledge at a deep level the pain and sorrow of our buried child within.



Fear and negativity exist for a reason; we must honour them and recognise them, but not dwell on them. A toxic relationship with the self is negative. But when we look closer at our own decisions, we begin to see how we contributed to the toxic relationship between our child within and ourselves and as a result how we brought the negativity and toxicity on ourselves. In this way, we begin to learn from the toxic and negative outcomes and then alter our behaviour towards our child within.



This belief and reconnection to ourselves can be expanded into every area of our life. We can turn fear, toxicity and negativity into a positive and joyful outcome when we realise that they are becoming our teachers and not our final outcomes.



How can you apply this to our life today?

The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.