The parental voice is almost always sniping at the authentic child within influencing relationships, behaviour and resulting in deep self doubt.

In the early part of the stages, we may have to tease apart what we are hearing a child withins voice when, in fact, we may be receiving an echo of a distorted broadcast laced with the static of a charged emotional atmosphere of the present. Periods of quiet meditation are needed to be able to start to acknowledge the child withins authentic voice, the voice of the intuition or, the voice may be delivering only a script written by another. it may reflect the desire to placate, take care of, or pledge loyalty to an imagined fantasy parent.

It can be the trembling voice of a child within cowering in the shadow of an abusive parent, who, no longer having a spouse to intimidate, control, and beat, now uses the children to fulfil the same pathological aims.

All the while the child may secretly harbour the hope that those entrusted with the child's welfare will see through the parental charade. These strong messages become a self fulfilling prophecy in later life that dominate the individual and inappropriately bubble to the surface resulting in addiction and dysfunctional behaviour. The parental voice is almost always sniping at the authentic child within influencing relationships, behaviour and resulting in deep self doubt.


The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.