Often our childhood creates within us a lost, frightened and frozen child locked within.

Often our childhood creates within us a lost, frightened and frozen child locked within. If we are unable to reach this wounded child then we may never heal ourselves. We prefer not to remember the sufferings of childhood, so we bury our memories and hide from them. We run away from seeing deeply into the causes of our suffering. Whenever the memories arise, however fleetingly, we think we cannot handle them and we deflect them into the deepest realms of our unconscious mind. We are terrified of further suffering. As a result, the child within may not be seen for a long time. Yet we have to find a way to reach our child and reconnect making us safe. We have to get past the fear and make contact with our suffering, because that is the way to awakening our guiding intuitive voice.

No matter what kind of happy pretend face we present, there is also a frightened little boy or girl inside us. This suffering child colours everything we do, generating our fears, insecurities and self-loathing, damaging our relationships and our life. That child within is you, is me, and we must extend a hand to him so we can understand, defuse and transform the energy of our suffering. Meditation and compassion is a way through to the inner child. We have to embrace him our child where we still are—caught by the past, fearful, and angry at being neglected for so long. Moreover, we have to be very skilful in using non-parental judgemental language.

We must touch the seeds of child withins suffering from our compassionate state of mindfulness and awareness, making it safe for that child to come out from behind closed doors.  We can no longer run away. We must have the courage to bring healing to our hurt child within and thereby transform ourselves. And the stages we take are not only to heal ourselves—we somehow connect to all child within, those of our ancestors and descendants and everyone else in the world. Because once we cultivate the seeds of mindful healing in ourselves, the energy of these seeds extends into all that we connect with, in a quantum leap through time and space from our cellular memories to everyone else’s. With awareness, we take our child within back into our daily life: we go on picnics, take walks, sit at the dining-room table, do the dishes together. We’re patient, realising that we’re on a splendid adventure to end a cycle of suffering that may have persisted over generations. Thus we are healing and transforming ingrained patterns transmitted to us from our ancestors and through us to our descendants, patterns that built up over time like corrosive rust and amplified the fears and suffering of our child within.





The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

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