When we listen, our child within speaks. When we obeys our inner voice, our child acts. This is our meditation.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2gkdaRo1HGRsOsk5NfthrvT_6QlRyZbvbr84r87XOItTU6FLszW-xk-RxV7h9aPK1Y5KO_MLXfa5CLkC-DQgZ8VyvoocZfVHY7t4T9FUGmmC-iT58yNQ4k-IBduQGNikVxQFvBEOZefg/s1600/Child+within264.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2gkdaRo1HGRsOsk5NfthrvT_6QlRyZbvbr84r87XOItTU6FLszW-xk-RxV7h9aPK1Y5KO_MLXfa5CLkC-DQgZ8VyvoocZfVHY7t4T9FUGmmC-iT58yNQ4k-IBduQGNikVxQFvBEOZefg/s1600/Child+within264.jpeg" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">We never know what swimming is like until we get down into the water and try. We will never know what it is like until we sincerely try it. Every person who has tried this honestly finds a wisdom, not of their own, comes into their minds and that a Powerful perfect child greater than human power begins to operate in their lives. It is an endless adventure. There is a way of life, for everyone, everywhere. Anyone can be in touch with their child within, anywhere, anytime, if we fulfil the conditions of contact. When we listen, our child within speaks. When we obeys our inner voice, our child acts. This is our meditation.Our Child withins plans for this world goes forward through the lives of ordinary people who are willing to listen to their intuitive voice.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

When we listen, our child within speaks. When we obeys our inner voice, our child acts. This is our meditation.

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The basis of recovery in ten stages is understanding, not blame, guilt or shame.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiBpCcusTgDXxOgaykDXqa4H1rGXIARS5Bm00JOyqfJX4D2s789wKgNm5fF0wuCfY_Xr-Ss7nsc8WCF36cL3neRskV27QBSMWMBfIYUe-8r1__s098yZ4dsxyQzvbVD3pWTAsg_qtwydsyE/s1600/1-1-The+Ten+Stages234-007.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiBpCcusTgDXxOgaykDXqa4H1rGXIARS5Bm00JOyqfJX4D2s789wKgNm5fF0wuCfY_Xr-Ss7nsc8WCF36cL3neRskV27QBSMWMBfIYUe-8r1__s098yZ4dsxyQzvbVD3pWTAsg_qtwydsyE/s320/1-1-The+Ten+Stages234-007.jpg" width="207" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">The basis of recovery in ten stages is understanding, not blame, guilt or shame. First, we need to understand that the abuser must have lived in ignorance and deprivation, without support, guidance ; the overwhelming power of ignorance drove him or her to do wrong. If the abused person can begin to understand just a little bit, then anger, shame and outrage can transform into droplets of compassion, and through meditational practice, suffering can diminish. When forgiveness and understanding are present, suffering decreases.<br /></span>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

The basis of recovery in ten stages is understanding, not blame, guilt or shame.

The basis of recovery in ten stages is understanding, not blame, guilt or shame. First, we need to understand that the abuser must have li...

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Automatic dissociation addiction to drugs and alcohol, for the child within, can provide a way to quiet the mind

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiHPdA9iB9YZ2PUtxCkn5Zw_gTAkX2LXc1f8jL2LOm3wJfNwppaLRagQRXfcTQm1nJajOYKUr9Jh6JMPqlUuCpqN2k0duFAaVO7S-vINJ628N8tDJ1GlZnLSzoamdrp0HvVNsuwDpEqNvys/s1600/inner+child+1.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiHPdA9iB9YZ2PUtxCkn5Zw_gTAkX2LXc1f8jL2LOm3wJfNwppaLRagQRXfcTQm1nJajOYKUr9Jh6JMPqlUuCpqN2k0duFAaVO7S-vINJ628N8tDJ1GlZnLSzoamdrp0HvVNsuwDpEqNvys/s1600/inner+child+1.jpeg" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Automatic dissociation addiction to drugs and alcohol, for the child within, can provide a way to quiet the mind and the body that they can have control over; a form of self-administered medication, a numbing out of false familiar nurturing. Certain behaviours, particularly those that trigger a rise in dopamine levels in the brain, like eating (particularly sugar, white flour, and fatty foods) or sexual acting out, can have a similar “soothing” (but addictive) effect. The more these substances or behaviours are used to quiet and calm unwanted feelings and sensations, the more dependent we become on them and the more convinced we become that we cannot calm down or feel OK without them.<br /><br />Trauma and Addiction over time, greater amounts of the drug or acting out behaviours are needed to reach the same “high.” Thus the addiction takes hold, the child withins symptoms become worse not better and lives become unmanageable for all concerned. In this manner individuals may develop insidious multiple addictions. Gruesome twosomes like food and alcohol or sex and drugs or gambling and alcohol, are all potent combinations that make it difficult to recognize what the primary addiction or issue is, or exactly how to treat it. After all, we have to eat, right? However, there are ways of eating that trigger spikes in blood sugar levels that in turn trigger cravings. And because drinking also affects blood sugar and lowers inhibitions, gorging on sugary and fatty foods becomes easier and more mindless. Though the individual may not appear to be eating or drinking to unmanageable excess, they are able to manipulate their own body chemistry and maintain addictive levels of feel-good body chemicals by a combination of drinking alcohol and using food to get a dopamine high. This manipulation of one’s own body chemicals can also be achieved through maintaining adrenaline highs. Adrenaline can be as addictive to the brain as heroin, activities like constant rushing, overworking, high-risk behaviours or frenetic exercise can all create spikes in adrenaline. In all of these cases, behaviour can come to mirror that of an addict and thinking, feeling, and behaviour get
 out of whack.<br /></span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

Automatic dissociation addiction to drugs and alcohol, for the child within, can provide a way to quiet the mind

Automatic dissociation addiction to drugs and alcohol, for the child within, can provide a way to quiet the mind and the body that they ca...

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The most significant triggers from our childhood relationship trauma are adult relationships.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgXL7GYzI4xNftPDAHfphbJ5gEsAufmks53qXODDr6zLGSWTBmOR79LJ5dXqtTvHvXNAuezBatRqYlhnuXkQ4lgrkdjnS6UnvnfUdpfA9sHdQwFLUEtkAf5zH1Wx8mRRSxHYrBAHwUD82xA/s1600/10702029_10152783722207755_4458114362206719862_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgXL7GYzI4xNftPDAHfphbJ5gEsAufmks53qXODDr6zLGSWTBmOR79LJ5dXqtTvHvXNAuezBatRqYlhnuXkQ4lgrkdjnS6UnvnfUdpfA9sHdQwFLUEtkAf5zH1Wx8mRRSxHYrBAHwUD82xA/s320/10702029_10152783722207755_4458114362206719862_n.jpg" width="278" /></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /><br />The most significant triggers from our childhood relationship trauma are adult relationships. If our partner, for example, gets angry or neglectful, similar experiences from childhood that we are not consciously aware of may become re-stimulated. We may become hurt or despondent beyond what the current situation merits because unresolved hurt from the past is getting mixed up with hurt in the present and making it feel more unbearable or intense than it might otherwise </span><span style="font-size: large;">feel. </span><div> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><div> <div> <span style="font-size: large;"> Because the adult brain always wants an explanation, we all too often look for the one nearest at hand, “my husband / wife is really awful,” or “if only my kid were better behaved I wouldn't be so upset.” We really think that the only thing that is affecting us is what we can see right in front of us. We may remain totally out of touch with what from our own past may be informing the intensity of our emotional reactions. In other words, we don’t know that we don’t know. We project yesterday’s pain, anger, and confusion onto today’s relationships without knowing why, and over time this becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, we actually recreate the fear and pain that we experienced as children in our adult interactions. To complicate matters further, we may see the solution to our problems as continually changing the situation we’re in rather than examining what, inside of us, might be contributing to recreating painful relationship dynamics.<br /><br />“If only I had a better house, spouse, or boss I wouldn't feel so helpless, angry and alone. I better change them so I can feel less lonely and stressed.” But more often than not, the real change that needs to happen is with- in us, we need to change our own history by revisiting it either through hearing someone talking about a scene we identify with, watching a psychodrama that feels all too familiar, or doing a role-play ourselves that allows us to temporarily step into and re-inhabit a moment from our past so that we can change, not the actual incident or relationship dynamic, but how we experience it. When we do some intentional healing process such as this, we are able to see the same situation with new, informed, and adult eyes. We understand that we were not the cause of the problem after all, that our shame and guilt over having been a bad and blamed child was perhaps misplaced, that it was simply an immature child’s attempt at making sense of a scary situation by taking on too much blame. We may also see that our parents were fallible people after all, not bad but perhaps stressed, immature and without resources themselves; that they were in above their heads.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. </div> </div> </div>

The most significant triggers from our childhood relationship trauma are adult relationships.

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The Stages examines Trauma Transference from Childhood

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiOc4x2X5E9KkxBU7P21i74O345HY3OtnfTc6rWckXDXxPnMwC9_fAXLx4pjt_6eEPvvvLVJse7yQy_45RD6a7mPT6p-2q0kI9to6JFXk_Cqg0r4j-2_yCVIcA6yt5KtYCsWjx2sGKVhz6e/s1600/stageology.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiOc4x2X5E9KkxBU7P21i74O345HY3OtnfTc6rWckXDXxPnMwC9_fAXLx4pjt_6eEPvvvLVJse7yQy_45RD6a7mPT6p-2q0kI9to6JFXk_Cqg0r4j-2_yCVIcA6yt5KtYCsWjx2sGKVhz6e/s320/stageology.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;">Transference is when we get triggered by a certain behaviour or circumstance in the present and have an overly large reaction to it that “contains” a lot of unresolved pain from our childhood past. What happened to trigger us indeed may be occurring, but our reaction is more than is appropriate to the situation in the present: it is fuelled by something that is still pulling us from the past. When we load up a present-day dynamic with pain from the past, we make the present day dynamic nearly impossible to understand or resolve.<br /><br /> Seeing what we may be projecting or transferring on another person and lifting it off of them can be freeing and healing. It can allow us to see how much something from our past may have hurt us and begin to heal it and make what is going on in the present less impossible to deal with.<br /></span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

The Stages examines Trauma Transference from Childhood

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I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself:

<div style="background-color: white; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <em><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: 12pt;">“</span></em></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <em><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgoHCcPkcNubIg0WDvZkk8iEOscsaiPbFjYTl8Stq4HZVfSBR8Iw0CS2GTSxgxup1kddVgB5gbEipIZn_zRO8sc3nJSWrfW_PpQcIT4QA5p9jRu22GQpLdpTdUyhFhFVnmUij4gswq3UI4B/s1600/1-Red+XP+.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="176" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgoHCcPkcNubIg0WDvZkk8iEOscsaiPbFjYTl8Stq4HZVfSBR8Iw0CS2GTSxgxup1kddVgB5gbEipIZn_zRO8sc3nJSWrfW_PpQcIT4QA5p9jRu22GQpLdpTdUyhFhFVnmUij4gswq3UI4B/s320/1-Red+XP+.jpg" width="320" /></a></em></div> <em>I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: ‘If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?’ And whenever the answer has been ‘No’ for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.”</em><br /> <div style="background-color: white; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <strong><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: 12pt;">- Steve Jobs</span></strong></div> <div style="background-color: white; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <br /></div> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself:

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You’re only regret that you made was... didn't really try to contact your Child Within. Join us every Tuesday .

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5crqoRyivh8cnY-m-VUS32657MIc5rs5Pd0-3jxldq-0FRV3SBow890seY_REgLI31rEB6FaL69ZDG_bcYzxseIkQhr5HpTpPpVjkCBTVxlMZ6v6HVavByelJDxItp7d0qoe9bCvFQMA6/s1600/1-userback.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="192" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5crqoRyivh8cnY-m-VUS32657MIc5rs5Pd0-3jxldq-0FRV3SBow890seY_REgLI31rEB6FaL69ZDG_bcYzxseIkQhr5HpTpPpVjkCBTVxlMZ6v6HVavByelJDxItp7d0qoe9bCvFQMA6/s320/1-userback.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <div style="background-color: white;"> <span style="font-family: georgia;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"> You’re only regret that you made was... </span>didn't<span style="font-size: 12pt;"> really try to contact your Child Within.</span></span></div> <div style="background-color: white;"> <span style="font-family: georgia;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Join us every Tuesday .</span></span></div> <div style="background-color: white; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: 12pt;">Do more than “try.” COMMIT. Invest in yourself. Put your whole heart into your CHILD WITHIN. Learn how to turn your life purpose -- why you were born -- into a changed life . It’s your life. The days are ticking by. If not now, when? It’s not going to be any less to “STUDY” now than one year from now. The time to dig in is now.</span></div> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

You’re only regret that you made was... didn't really try to contact your Child Within. Join us every Tuesday .

 You’re only regret that you made was...  didn't  really try to contact your Child Within. Join us every Tuesday . Do more than...

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Child Within grant us serenity of thought

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <br /> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjZ8BPJm4ln1UNBtdsYtQ-hQlwlLEN-rvhXZ6gIOsAGu_ZpgsgB9kl7kkar-6YbkqgxdJciqR-BmS-UuPcDOGesfkKNGShvB93N-kECPuY8nzkPDX2OJJ7ZpbA50g-UcV_O43xFYVjZplWL/s1600/child23.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjZ8BPJm4ln1UNBtdsYtQ-hQlwlLEN-rvhXZ6gIOsAGu_ZpgsgB9kl7kkar-6YbkqgxdJciqR-BmS-UuPcDOGesfkKNGShvB93N-kECPuY8nzkPDX2OJJ7ZpbA50g-UcV_O43xFYVjZplWL/s320/child23.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> Child Within grant us serenity of thought, a pure mind, and that our minds be tranquil, without any confusions whatever.<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

Child Within grant us serenity of thought

Child Within grant us serenity of thought, a pure mind, and that our minds be tranquil, without any confusions whatever. The Ten ...

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The recovery journey we participate in at the stages is a deep, beautiful process

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjoXH7Mmby9xpEennwGhhpfW3R_LYpSfCML90e32JqJ62lZrtWsVGtKJmDjCCVdOZhfJDhOxqplmmguriOH39Sk6cyUkJeMg0n5-nhRscuEfv05ZvGRcu-dtlrhfDeIFN5XPaqIUA3eQGVg/s1600/recchild.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="131" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjoXH7Mmby9xpEennwGhhpfW3R_LYpSfCML90e32JqJ62lZrtWsVGtKJmDjCCVdOZhfJDhOxqplmmguriOH39Sk6cyUkJeMg0n5-nhRscuEfv05ZvGRcu-dtlrhfDeIFN5XPaqIUA3eQGVg/s320/recchild.png" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;">The recovery journey we participate in at the stages is a deep, beautiful process because we are no longer running away from the dissociations that have rendered us into our primary dysfunctional state. We bring meditation, concentration and insight to our child within and envelop ourselves in the refreshing energy of transformation and real understanding . We work diligently to nurture seeds of happiness, joy and safety in the consciousness of our child within—the same seeds that are in us, our ancestors and our descendants. When despair and fear arise from the child we have the presence of mind to listen deeply and surround the fear with the stronger energy field of our intuitive guiding voice.</span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

The recovery journey we participate in at the stages is a deep, beautiful process

The recovery journey we participate in at the stages is a deep, beautiful process because we are no longer running away from the dissociat...

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Preparation: • Make a personal Commitment to practicing the stagers silence for a minimum of 10 to 20 minutes daily for 30 days.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px; margin-bottom: 6px;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi6uu1xjHeU0n-EMg3fvhT5341c3ZPu9vX3ETOzbvm3KNjoalfqO7AwU6NcHRHGTx7tbDdyOqLQv8_Iuj1GqSYzejG9qsfGOcGnjvam4J2qyUKi3d1liLjqheOBIZ9sr6wb_r5TEvzq0nxs/s1600/autonmus345.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi6uu1xjHeU0n-EMg3fvhT5341c3ZPu9vX3ETOzbvm3KNjoalfqO7AwU6NcHRHGTx7tbDdyOqLQv8_Iuj1GqSYzejG9qsfGOcGnjvam4J2qyUKi3d1liLjqheOBIZ9sr6wb_r5TEvzq0nxs/s320/autonmus345.jpg" width="213" /></a></div> 30 day 3x4 Stage Study course</div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> Preparation: • Make a personal Commitment to practicing the stagers silence for a minimum of 10 to 20 minutes daily for 30 days. </div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> • Practice it each morning. (Get up earlier if need be. If for any reason you miss a morning, that’s quite OK, simply begin counting the 30-day period over again! If you will do this for 30 days in a row, you’ll likely make it a practice for the rest of your life. </div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> • Choose a space - a quiet place where you can be alone. It should be comfortable and invitin<span class="text_exposed_show" style="display: inline;">g. Reserve it only for meditation, if at all possible. </span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> <span class="text_exposed_show" style="display: inline;"><br /></span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> <span class="text_exposed_show" style="display: inline;">• Buy a notebook to write down your thoughts - have it ready when you begin. Start: • Sit in an upright posture. Remember your child within whose Presence you are entering.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> <span style="line-height: 19.3199996948242px;">• Breathe deeply 2 or 3 times - let go of all tension and worry with each outward breath.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> <span style="line-height: 19.3199996948242px;"> • Write a question. A very honest question that captures your real need. If you have a problem that’s troubling you where you really need the child withins guidance, write it out and ask. Child within me, I feel so alone and separated from you and from others, please help me feel your childhood presence. </span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> <span style="line-height: 19.3199996948242px;">. Child Within, I’m withdrawing / isolating again - moving further away from my child. Please tell me what to do. </span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> <span style="line-height: 19.3199996948242px;">. Child within me, I need your guidance today as I face _______. Please show me the way so I can do your will. • Listen for your child withins Voice, with your pen & notebook in hand. If the connection isn’t immediate and words do not come into your mind, use your active imagination, especially when you’re first making conscious contact: Say to yourself, “If my child were to speak to me this is what he might say:” _______________________ • Write the words that come into your mind. Try not to edit them. Only listen and write. (If words come that you think are not from your child write them down anyway. Put them in brackets if you like and try to re-focus on listening for your child withins intuitive Voice. In time, you will come to distinguish your child withins Voice more clearly from the voices of the ego.) </span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> <span style="line-height: 19.3199996948242px;">• If stuck, write your own name or write, “My child” . • Stop writing when it becomes strained. </span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> <span style="line-height: 19.3199996948242px;">• Feel the closeness of your child as you experience conscious contact. Following your Guidance: </span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> <span style="line-height: 19.3199996948242px;">• Share your writings weekly with a stager or with another who is also practicing Quiet Time. You may find that their writings contain some particular guidance for you or yours for them. </span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> <span style="line-height: 19.3199996948242px;">• Check your guidance. Does it pass the test: is it Honest, Pure, Unselfish and Loving. </span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-top: 6px;"> <span style="line-height: 19.3199996948242px;">• Act on your guidance – but only if it passes the test – and if it is a major move, check it also with others who are also listening to their own child within.</span></div> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

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These are a few simple suggestions for our Stagers at the ten stages who are willing to have an experimental experience with themselves.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsjqyu9mSVzZvudvRAF0YBs4zBF9TiH72UaDhRPPSGEyDNo-qt03HwUrKGAybpdxj5tcRJJrGqQwkO0A3-NDbaZ4Gjm0uHIpApVZX1i2L3y3rHgYaJNxQe2PLtutXsdyABdwgxGz8goTUp/s1600/child+within789.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsjqyu9mSVzZvudvRAF0YBs4zBF9TiH72UaDhRPPSGEyDNo-qt03HwUrKGAybpdxj5tcRJJrGqQwkO0A3-NDbaZ4Gjm0uHIpApVZX1i2L3y3rHgYaJNxQe2PLtutXsdyABdwgxGz8goTUp/s320/child+within789.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /><br />These are a few simple suggestions for our Stagers at the ten stages who are willing to have an experimental experience with themselves.<br /><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">You can discover for yourself the most important and practical thing any human being can ever learn-how to be in touch with your child within.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /><br />All that is needed is the willingness to try it honestly. Every person who has done this consistently and sincerely has found that it really works. Before you begin, look over these fundamental points. They are true and are based on the experience of thousands of stagers worldwide. <br /><br /><br />1. Our child within is alive, always has been and always will be. <br /><br /><br />2. Child within is perfect knows everything. <br /><br /><br />3. Child within can do anything. <br /><br /><br />4. Child within can be everywhere - all at the same time. (These are the important differences between child within and us manufactured human beings). <br /><br /><br />5. The child within is invisible-we can’t see or touch our child. But our child is here, is with you now, is beside you, surrounds you, fills the room or the whole place where you are now, is in you now, in your heart. <br /><br /><br />6. Child cares very much for you, is interested in you, has a plan for your life, has an answer for every need and problem you face. <br /><br /><br />7. Our Child Within will tell you all that you need to know, will not always tell you all that you want to know. <br /><br /><br />8. Child will help you do anything that it asks you to do. <br /><br /><br />9. Anyone can be in touch with our child within, anywhere and at any time, if the conditions are obeyed. <br /><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">These are the conditions: - To be quiet and still - To listen - To be honest about every thought that comes - To test the thoughts to be sure that they come from our child within - To obey So, with these basic elements as a background, here are specific suggestions on how to listen to our child within:</span><br /> <span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /><br /> 1. Take Time Find some place and time where you can be alone, quiet and undisturbed. Most people have found that the early morning is the best time. Have with you some paper and pen or pencil. <br /><br /><br />2. Relax Sit in a comfortable position. Consciously relax all your muscles. Be loose. There is no hurry. There needs to be no strain during these minutes. our child cannot get through to us if we are tense and anxious about later responsibilities. 3. Tune In Open your heart to your child within. Either silently or aloud, just say to your child in a natural way that you would like to find a plan for your life-you want an answer to the problem or situation that you are facing just now. Be definite and specific in your request. <br /><br /><br />4. Listen Just be still, quiet, relaxed and open. Let your mind go “loose.” Let your child within do the talking. Thoughts, ideas, and impressions will begin to come into your mind and heart. Be alert and aware and open to every one. <br /><br /><br />5. Write! Here is the important key to the whole process. Write down everything that comes into your mind. Everything. Writing is simply a means of recording so that you can remember later. Don’t sort out or edit your thoughts at this point. Don’t say to yourself: This thought isn’t important; This is just an ordinary thought; This can’t be guidance; This isn’t nice; This can’t be from my child; This is just me thinking…., etc. Write down everything that passes through your mind: Names of people; Things to do; Things to say; Things that are wrong and need to be made right. Write down everything: Good thoughts - bad thoughts; Comfortable thoughts - uncomfortable thoughts; thoughts of thoughts; Sensible thoughts - “crazy” thoughts. Be honest! Write down everything! A thought comes quickly, and it escapes even more quickly unless it is captured and put down. <br /><br /><br />6. Test When the flow of thoughts slows down, stop. Take a good look at what you have written. Not every thought we have comes from our child. So we need to test our thoughts. Here is where the written record helps us to be able to look at them. a) Are these thoughts completely honest, pure, unselfish and loving? b) Are these thoughts in line with our child within c) Are these thoughts in line with our understanding <br /><br /><br />7. Check When in doubt and when it is important, what does another person who is communicating with a child within think about this thought or action? More light comes in through two windows than one. Someone else who also wants the child withins plan for our lives may help us to see more clearly. Talk over together what you have written. Many people do this. They tell each other what guidance has come. This is the secret of unity. There are always three sides to every question-your side, my side, and the right side. Guidance shows us which is the right side-not who is right, but what is right. <br /><br /><br />8. Obey Carry out the thoughts that have come. You will only be sure of guidance as you go through it. A rudder will not guide a boat until the boat is moving. As you obey, very often the results will convince you that you are on the right track. <br /><br /><br />9. Blocks? What if I don’t seem to get any definite thoughts? Guidance is as freely available as the air we breathe. If I am not receiving thoughts when I listen, the fault is not our child within. Usually it is because there is something I will not do: - something wrong in my life that I will not face and make right; - a habit or indulgence I will not give up. - a person I will not forgive; - a wrong relationship in my life I will not give up; - a restitution I will not make; - something my intuitive voice has already told me to do that I will not obey. Check these points and be honest. Then try listening again. <br /><br /><br />10. Mistakes Supposing I make a mistake and do something of my intuitive voice that isn’t right? Of course we make mistakes? We are humans with many faults. However, our child within will always honour our sincerity. will work around and through every honest mistake we make, will help us make it right. But remember this! Sometimes when we do obey our child within, someone else may not like it or agree with it. So when there is opposition, it doesn’t always mean you have made a mistake. It can mean that the other person doesn’t want to know or to do what is right. Supposing I fail to do something that I have been told and the opportunity to do it passes? There is only one thing to do. Put it right with God. Tell Him you’re sorry. Ask Him to forgive you, then accept His forgiveness and begin again. Our child within is not an impersonal computer, understanding us far better than we do. <br /><br /><br />11. Results? We never know what swimming is like until we get down into the water and try. We will never know what it is like until we sincerely try it. Every person who has tried this honestly finds a wisdom, not of their own, comes into their minds and that a Powerful perfect child greater than human power begins to operate in their lives. It is an endless adventure. There is a way of life, for everyone, everywhere. Anyone can be in touch with their child within, anywhere, anytime, if we fulfil the conditions of contact. When we listen, our child within speaks. When we obeys our inner voice, our child acts. This is our meditation.Our Child withins plans for this world goes forward through the lives of ordinary people who are willing to listen to their intuitive voice.<br /><br /><br /><i>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.</i></span>

These are a few simple suggestions for our Stagers at the ten stages who are willing to have an experimental experience with themselves.

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One of the fundamental messages is that we are not victims, but a co-creator of our life with our child-within.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJnNbkVgGQPlkv-JyBoQ4YhtqjR4JNBvfoVcYrYUCnbjUAsHQiZWz5RNZp31g0-tFfS3BDtiB3Zh95cNSKaOq5fZX016k9RzP8ETK-yY9NYPmeQQPfQ1cZCcKC7Euof9JFfqTnUtReCrRd/s1600/1-HOB-random29.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="140" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJnNbkVgGQPlkv-JyBoQ4YhtqjR4JNBvfoVcYrYUCnbjUAsHQiZWz5RNZp31g0-tFfS3BDtiB3Zh95cNSKaOq5fZX016k9RzP8ETK-yY9NYPmeQQPfQ1cZCcKC7Euof9JFfqTnUtReCrRd/s200/1-HOB-random29.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: medium; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">The most important part of life, and the only part of life that we can truly control, is our perception. We may have influence over other parts of our life, but the only thing we have 100% control over is how we CHOOSE to perceive the events of our lives.</span><br /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: medium; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">One of the fundamental messages is that we are not victims, but a co-creator of our life with our child-within.</span><br /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: medium; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">It’s easy to play the victim, and a lot of people out there will try to convince you that it’s easier to blame other people for the circumstances of our lives. One of the reasons it’s easy to be a victim is because we have given away the response-ability of the outcome and circumstances of life to our child within.</span><br /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: medium; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">As a victim, we tell ourselves that it’s not our fault; it’s the government’s fault, or our significant other's fault, or our friend’s fault or our parents’ fault. If you really get creative you can imagine a whole range of people to blame for our life.</span><br /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: medium; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">But the truth is that we imagine we are the one making the choices in our life. We imagine that YOU have the free will and ability to CHOOSE to connect to Recovery, or not. You dont your responses have been hijacked into dissociations of food, romance,others greed, alcohol and drugs.</span><br /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: medium; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;"> For a long time it was easy to blame people for the outcomes of our lives. When things didn’t go the way we WANTED them to we would just make it someone else’s fault.</span><br /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: medium; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">  To learn how to take my power back. Is to start to understand our childhoods we begin to see that the way we thrive is by making our Child withins INNER WORLD stronger than the outer world.</span><br /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: medium; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;"> Our childhood history we tell ourself about our life will dictate the outcome of it. Contact is the most important power in our life.  The power of our INTENTION forms the outcome of our life.  The Stages will tell you to put loving-kindness first and to keep our lives grounded and in real time.  And of course, the stages teaches unconditional compassion and says we can experience this child withins intuitive thought when we have right truthful thoughts, take right action and keep our focus off of ourselves and keep it instead on our rediscovered intuitive thoughts.</span><br /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: medium; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">How could we possibly let ourself become a victim knowing all these things?</span><br /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: medium; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">If you really get that these lessons are REAL and TRUE and WORK, then, if you’re like me, you will feel called to turn your childhood experiences into a message.</span><br /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: medium; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">Adding understanding to other people’s lives and understanding will be added to our own.  Being of service and taking the wounds of our Child Within and turning them into lessons and sharing our experience with others will do more good to your understanding of yourself than almost anything else.</span><br /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: medium; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">To become human is to be messy, to screw up and to not get it right - that just comes with the territory. But it’s not right thought or action to assume the role of the childhood victim. It may seem safer and it may even seem true. But what’s true is that you can take the wounds, messes and tragedies of your life and use them for good.</span><br /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: medium; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">You can take your power back from people, groups and anything else that says you are powerless. You are POWERFUL, but you have to choose to be in your power and to step up.</span><br /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: medium; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">Keep your thoughts on Loving-Kindness. Take and assume response-ability for your life. Things will have happened in your past that you have no control over. But what you DO have control over is to learn how you need to respond to those childhood events.</span><br /> <br style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;" /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: medium; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">You will not have been able to control what happened in the past, but you will gain 100% control over what you CHOOSE to believe and, as a result, where you go from here.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

One of the fundamental messages is that we are not victims, but a co-creator of our life with our child-within.

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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjHnjsdcU9-KXLYHgBp1WrzpToykY_81zZTOCb6J7lRolnoVcggybJb_zgaMnB2Rh6wRgBF1rvfufLbDr0BYAzY9VeLeeF1iSuLMTc2CXhnqlR3sr6vpztEjxS59vW-NMs_0vcAgX3w9dhy/s1600/1-icewater.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjHnjsdcU9-KXLYHgBp1WrzpToykY_81zZTOCb6J7lRolnoVcggybJb_zgaMnB2Rh6wRgBF1rvfufLbDr0BYAzY9VeLeeF1iSuLMTc2CXhnqlR3sr6vpztEjxS59vW-NMs_0vcAgX3w9dhy/s320/1-icewater.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /><br />The Stages seeks a solution that moves us beyond his or her "painful inner dialogue." and out into the clear blue waters of recovery.The Stages has no religion, no spirituality, is not allied to any group or cult. The Ten Stages is a simple study course.<br />The course of the Stages we attempt to awaken to our original recovery nature which involves interrupting the ordinary flow of linear, language-based, thinking so that we can rediscover "the mind within the mind".<br />Focusing on external circumstances or teachings is not what triggers the moment of recovery, in other words. Rather, it is focusing on the absence of internal commentary. Because it is impossible to "think" without words, this practice of stopping the flow of running commentary on our lives involves cultivating a mindset of no-thought in an attempt to experience each moment as it is without silently talking to ourselves about it.<br /><br />Attempting to gain the mind without the internal voice means starting to deal with the origins of the voice and the trauma it still holds and regurgitates at any pressure to reveal its inner secrets.In the ten stages a dialogue is instituted with the inner voice through the experience of others, and it works, how it works finally it has the potential for us to gain complete freedom.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

The Stages seeks a solution that moves us beyond his or her "painful inner dialogue." and out into the clear blue waters of reco...

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Stages Child Within Communities are everything.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjqZqV48F2C3jdA2QM88fR6CUpGkoS0_6IyPBpfZz65oIOi4R1FRYekVvHUyP6NYiZ0LyxQTFTL6MiWneAiwNwJlyYXHyHQ8oZrNFuvohCH-aJKN5vgvdZHXIiSXIlvMDKh4vVphTjEZ1JD/s1600/1-1-The+Ten+Stages234-007.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjqZqV48F2C3jdA2QM88fR6CUpGkoS0_6IyPBpfZz65oIOi4R1FRYekVvHUyP6NYiZ0LyxQTFTL6MiWneAiwNwJlyYXHyHQ8oZrNFuvohCH-aJKN5vgvdZHXIiSXIlvMDKh4vVphTjEZ1JD/s320/1-1-The+Ten+Stages234-007.jpg" width="207" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Stages Child Within Communities are everything.<br /> <br /><i>If you want to see a preview of your future, look at who you are hanging out with.</i><br /><br />This isn’t some moral statement about your peer group, it’s more of a vibrational or elevational statement.<br /><br />You see, we live in a literal Reality. That means that we become what we think and what we think is greatly determined by who we spend the most time with.<br /><br /> <br />Do you spend time with people who are constantly trashing your recovery dreams? If so, then after time, you begin to believe their doubt and their fear; not because their doubt and fear are true, but because we are creatures of habit and our subconscious mind begins to absorb what we hear, especially the feedback from people we like and spend a lot of time with. And if you start to believe their doubt, then soon you will begin to take action from that belief in doubt and BAM – that belief in doubt manifests into reality. Not because it’s true, but because the belief became your dominant thought pattern and that thought pattern influenced your actions and your actions produced the outcome.If you are being constantly traumatised by others sharing their deepest pain and suffering in a group environment the result can only be reconstituted fear.<br /><br /> <br /><br />The outcome of our lives begins within us. <br /><br /> <br /><br />If we water our dreams with others doubt, then we think doubtful thoughts, take doubtful action and our lives become a living testament to and proof of our belief. Then, what many people do is take this “proof” and use it to further justify their initial belief. But you see, what they’re missing this whole time is the fact that their initial thoughts of doubt are what created the outcome. They unknowingly participated in their own demise often within well meaning groups.<br /><br /> <br /><br />But, this can be prevented by hanging with a positive community of people. Let us spend time with people who uplift us, who encourage us towards our recovery and who challenge our adult thought patterns. Let us not surround ourselves with people who always agree with us, but rather people who support our growth by challenging our beliefs and helping us break through to new mental and recovery ground so that our lives may be enriched as a by-product.<br /><br /> <br /><br />Look around. Who are you spending time with? And more importantly, who are you believing? If you have a recovery goal, do you believe people who are living their recovery and thus know the TRUTH about what’s possible, or do you take advice from people who aren’t living their recovery and thus will tell you it’s not possible?<br /><br /> <br /><br />Who you spend time with and who you believe are major factors in determine whether you are successful or not in your recovery. Our aim should be to spend time with people who are spreading loving kindness and compassion, who believe in us, who challenge us to go to the next level and who inspire us. Life is far too short to hang with people who are always negative and who want you to stay bitter and pissed off like them. It takes a lot of humility to admit when we’re wrong and to grow past our limiting recovery beliefs. Let’s surround ourselves with people who support our growth, not necessarily the way we want, but most certainly the way we need.<br /><br /> <br /><br />Who are you spending your time with?</span><br /> <div style="background-color: white; color: #0b175f; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="color: black; font-family: georgia; font-size: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"></span></span></div> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

Stages Child Within Communities are everything.

Stages Child Within Communities are everything. If you want to see a preview of your future, look at who you are hanging out with. This i...

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Positive denial of our child within can be very destructive.

<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2gkdaRo1HGRsOsk5NfthrvT_6QlRyZbvbr84r87XOItTU6FLszW-xk-RxV7h9aPK1Y5KO_MLXfa5CLkC-DQgZ8VyvoocZfVHY7t4T9FUGmmC-iT58yNQ4k-IBduQGNikVxQFvBEOZefg/s1600/Child+within264.jpeg"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2gkdaRo1HGRsOsk5NfthrvT_6QlRyZbvbr84r87XOItTU6FLszW-xk-RxV7h9aPK1Y5KO_MLXfa5CLkC-DQgZ8VyvoocZfVHY7t4T9FUGmmC-iT58yNQ4k-IBduQGNikVxQFvBEOZefg/s1600/Child+within264.jpeg" /></a><br /><br />We don’t deny the negativity and pain of the past, we just<br />put negativity and pain in the proper context as being miracles for our own growth of learning from the pain and problems of childhood.<br /><br />Many times in the personal growth and the child withins space we can confuse “positive thinking” and “positive denial.”<br /><br />Positive denial of our child within can be very destructive. Positive thoughts can be very helpful as we move towards full contact..<br /><br /> <br /><br />As Stagers, the last thing we want to do is put our head back into the sand of childhood when there is a problem and just “positive think” our way into denial of our trauma and more pain. So, instead of just always being positive and that positivity being fake, we must also embrace the negative and the pain too..<br /><br /> <br /><br />In fact, it is when we give voice and healing to our negative thoughts, emotions and situations in our lives transform. When we choose to stare at negativity and pain and embrace them as lessons, we begin to shift and change and acknowledge at a deep level the pain and sorrow of our buried child within.<br /><br /> <br /><br />Fear and negativity exist for a reason; we must honour them and recognise them, but not dwell on them. A toxic relationship with the self is negative. But when we look closer at our own decisions, we begin to see how we contributed to the toxic relationship between our child within and ourselves and as a result how we brought the negativity and toxicity on ourselves. In this way, we begin to learn from the toxic and negative outcomes and then alter our behaviour towards our child within.<br /><br /> <br /><br />This belief and reconnection to ourselves can be expanded into every area of our life. We can turn fear, toxicity and negativity into a positive and joyful outcome when we realise that they are becoming our teachers and not our final outcomes.<br /><br /> <br /><br />How can you apply this to our life today?</span><div style="background-color: white; color: #0b175f; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="color: black; font-family: "georgia"; font-size: 12pt;"><em></em></span></div> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

Positive denial of our child within can be very destructive.

We don’t deny the negativity and pain of the past, we just put negativity and pain in the proper context as being miracles for our own growt...

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True Recovery is in stages a radical acceptance of ourself .

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiyY7cVm8CP3EoWRbhtG8_85Lsep8cjaTfMWBT3EYkQrBf8hinGt4A08hyphenhyphenQbGwW2mcTcxBu0Kk0nER-2-AoKv3EoY8UOcAPjO8W_2Z2h8Y-sFdtqgzakqfg23FROGNRkCBEN-HfQ2ebGCOP/s1600/child+hands.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiyY7cVm8CP3EoWRbhtG8_85Lsep8cjaTfMWBT3EYkQrBf8hinGt4A08hyphenhyphenQbGwW2mcTcxBu0Kk0nER-2-AoKv3EoY8UOcAPjO8W_2Z2h8Y-sFdtqgzakqfg23FROGNRkCBEN-HfQ2ebGCOP/s1600/child+hands.jpeg" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">So many people run around looking for something “to complete them.” But the thing is, we are all just fallible human beings, so no thing will ever complete you or live up to your expectations. You were completed a long time ago as a perfect child.<br /><br /> <br /><br />That is why it is so important to keep our eyes looking inward to The Child Within and Its Love for us. The Love of The Child never changes. Other people change, other people mess up, but The Child Within is constantly on our side, Loving us and showing us how we can grow even closer to happiness and Love.<br /><br /> <br /><br /> <br /><br />Our aim should be to not seek and chase for recovery, but to BE IT. This means self-love first. True Love isn’t setting HUGE expectations of something else that they always make you happy and fulfilled.<br /><br /> <br /><br /> <br /><br />True Recovery is being so full of self-worth and in contact with our intuitive mind that you have more than enough recovery to hold our own darkness and light and the darkness and light of other people. True Recovery is radical acceptance of yourself .<br /><br /> <br /><br />To look for something to complete you is to deny your innate potential to be an already full and integrated being. You are giving something else a power that only you have.<br /><br /> <br /><br />Making someone or something else the source of our fulfilment means that if they are not having a good day, acting in integrity or desiring to grow, then you are stuck. It’s a giant anchor holding you down.<br /><br /> <br /><br /> <br /><br />In relationship with ourself,our child within, we either grow together or we grow apart. The Ten Stage program is constantly guiding us to greater and greater awareness of our child within and, as a result, our Highest Potential.<br /><br /> <br /><br />Recovery programs are containers for growth, not containers for proving how much pain you can endure for someone else.<br /><br /> <br /><br />When we make it someone else’s responsibility to complete us, it is easy to blame them, but the blame really belongs on us for giving them that power in the first place.<br /><br /> <br /><br /> <br /><br />Let’s take our power back and take our eyes off of ourselves and our partners and remember the Child Within from which we came and which we are all a part of right now. We are a drop of water coming home to the beautiful ocean from which we came. In doing so, we can merge into a wave and do far more connected to this universal child than we ever could do alone or with another person.<br /><br />How can you take your power back today?</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

True Recovery is in stages a radical acceptance of ourself .

So many people run around looking for something “to complete them.” But the thing is, we are all just fallible human beings, so no thing w...

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In The Stages Studies We Learn With A Support Network To Drop The “Old Self”

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj6rpLfVhYD_B0WNQL_NVJD6_struqUuDXysuvdNVFM9Pd6wTfsrnBCPGBlRqsfP7Y8rEQg2Tqt_fs3gP2ea9qoaz2WnQV41qBnMM0pwYEVBSnpi8A5vl-OzHBKOo2OAiMPeigcFEUt/s1600/1-hope.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj6rpLfVhYD_B0WNQL_NVJD6_struqUuDXysuvdNVFM9Pd6wTfsrnBCPGBlRqsfP7Y8rEQg2Tqt_fs3gP2ea9qoaz2WnQV41qBnMM0pwYEVBSnpi8A5vl-OzHBKOo2OAiMPeigcFEUt/s1600/1-hope.jpg" /></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;">In The Stages Studies We Learn With A Support Network To Drop The “Old Self” .What We Are Sometimes Calling Freedom/Recovery Is The Re-Enactment Of The Neglect And Abandonment Experienced As A Child. It Is Through The Slow And Steady Transformation Out Of Our Wounds – By Coming Back And Completely Identifying And Reconnecting With The Child Who Was Left Behind – That Our Authentic Freedom Exists.<br /></span><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

In The Stages Studies We Learn With A Support Network To Drop The “Old Self”

In The Stages Studies We Learn With A Support Network To Drop The “Old Self” .What We Are Sometimes Calling Freedom/Recovery Is The Re-Ena...

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The Ten Stages Study Course is perhaps the greatest human exploration and adventure about rebuilding autonomous self worth.

<span style="background-color: white; color: #373e4d; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; white-space: pre-wrap;">The Ten Stages Study Course is perhaps the greatest human exploration and adventure about rebuilding autonomous self worth.When we trump a person’s right to make autonomous decisions we send the message that we are incompetent. By giving us a label We are taught not to trust ourselves. We are further taught that his experience is a pathology rather than an opportunity for self-study and growth. We are taught early on that our “symptoms” or “defences” are problems rather than a window into a world of deeper meaning and history. We are taught that life’s answers are outside of us, that the truth is not within us, and that his best bet is not to look within for guidance. The Ten Stages is an autonomous self teaching Study Course owned by yourself and completed by yourself. It is perhaps the greatest human exploration and adventure based recovery study program on this planet and it is available to you.NOW</span><br /> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEievYcBKP34wdCtsDpCoBh-KfH48V9uOllN_cWOxc4dM_wSn5HOvRc5TUaa82-0g1geM14NFwCPtYE59t5WzgkFp-p-1QaG90YwqxdX7VQtGtk21hTHnipdMbdKvwc6d8Ukf9xq8wO1D8VJ/s1600/st+marys.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="198" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEievYcBKP34wdCtsDpCoBh-KfH48V9uOllN_cWOxc4dM_wSn5HOvRc5TUaa82-0g1geM14NFwCPtYE59t5WzgkFp-p-1QaG90YwqxdX7VQtGtk21hTHnipdMbdKvwc6d8Ukf9xq8wO1D8VJ/s320/st+marys.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

The Ten Stages Study Course is perhaps the greatest human exploration and adventure about rebuilding autonomous self worth.

The Ten Stages Study Course is perhaps the greatest human exploration and adventure about rebuilding autonomous self worth.When we trump a p...

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The 10 Stages 'Child Within' Course starting next Tuesday 25th of August

<span style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.3199996948242px;">The 10 Stages 'Child Within' Course starting next Tuesday 25th of August at RANE Middlesbrough - St Mary's Centre 12 a.m</span><br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_kxtBzVMuWTm3u_bY7GJVrdTeqzpIkCG1JyfpZh6hOdjHuDl1eVxibCJb4jmQVUEd7N6EVHznE0BFk8oUIsJnQu3oVZq-IMSby5cOwGuCROtoCppy4FnADsYcl9hdVNEbd7590hWY3Hd0/s1600/raneJPG-61.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_kxtBzVMuWTm3u_bY7GJVrdTeqzpIkCG1JyfpZh6hOdjHuDl1eVxibCJb4jmQVUEd7N6EVHznE0BFk8oUIsJnQu3oVZq-IMSby5cOwGuCROtoCppy4FnADsYcl9hdVNEbd7590hWY3Hd0/s320/raneJPG-61.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

The 10 Stages 'Child Within' Course starting next Tuesday 25th of August

The 10 Stages 'Child Within' Course starting next Tuesday 25th of August at RANE Middlesbrough - St Mary's Centre 12 a.m ...

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At the beginning of the stages’s healing journey we seek to map out our journey

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <span style="color: black; font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><i>At the beginning of the stages’s healing journey we seek to map out our journey at first we revert to our traditional contest distraction. In this part of our recovery argument, attempted acceptance, dissociated unhappiness, and seeking approval by parents, partners and friends of our crazy making behaviour becomes the norm. The parts of us that we feel are winning our contested part of our recovery stop our journey to recovery before it has even begun escaping into the grandiosity of spirituality, various religions and new personal romantic adventures. </i></span></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi2LRV1XT7PF5kyB6oRelvn_fNJN8BCkn8sAW46_sj81Tb6MXam-pj2FupBqhHTEAt0KoVf9UrocBNGBYh76JKgTAoFWi-5bD6dVNR9HOr1yvLtI6MagSqQ7bcKegzgTwJmI67-eXySCjfg/s1600/within+child.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi2LRV1XT7PF5kyB6oRelvn_fNJN8BCkn8sAW46_sj81Tb6MXam-pj2FupBqhHTEAt0KoVf9UrocBNGBYh76JKgTAoFWi-5bD6dVNR9HOr1yvLtI6MagSqQ7bcKegzgTwJmI67-eXySCjfg/s1600/within+child.jpeg" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><br /><br />Here we deny our deepest traumas so intensely that we fool even ourselves into believing they never happened – and that we feel we are already recovered. We attend fellowship groups that further traumatise us by our constant recollections and the recollections of others of our trauma.Which become mere playbacks of our ancient traumas. It is for this reason that our dissociations/escapism within the fellowship groups mimics our recovery.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> Here we still idealise our parents, which allows us full unconscious liberty to replicate the worst of our past into our present. Here we do not look beneath our surface, but join with dissociated others in their recollections of dysfunctional living. We remain happily still distant from the misery lurking in our recovery seeking constantly changing new solutions that dont work and joining with inappropriate others to compare our stories.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Yet where parts of us lose the contest we move into the second traditional part of our recovery that is pain and suffering. In this part of our recovery depression, failure, misery, and inertia manifest into our lives bursting our recovery bubble. Here we wallow in seemingly purposeless pain. The silver lining around our cloud of parental idealisation has been stripped away, but the cloud remains intact. We still wish to be rescued by our parents and their replicated stand-ins, but we lack the requisite pain tolerance to be able to acknowledge the impossibility of this. Here we live in tortured ambivalence/recovery, and we spend out hours and days trying to get others to love us in the way our parents never could. Part of us wishes to devolve back into the seeming pleasure of grandiosity and our dissociative life, but the healthier part recalls how cruelly that route already failed us.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Those parts of us with the capacity to face our maladaptive lives enter the third traditional stage that of grieving. This is the stage of purposeful struggling. Here we unearth the truth of our past, which allows the eruption of the puss filled boil of our buried traumas real and imagined. Here we witness the truth that lurks behind idealisation of the parents and we work to disassemble their lies. Our honest confidence leads us into the face of the hurricane, because our child within and its allies the students in the stages tell us that blue skies lie on the other side. Here we are humble, here we confront the truth of the worst of our parents, using whatever means will best help us integrate our truth, and through this our journey rages forward.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />With each problem we conquer we take a further step into the fourth traditional part that of awakening enlightenment. This is a stage of emotional integration, balance, and inner peace. Here lie the deepest goals of recovery. All want to know truth, and the recovered person achieves it in all the reconnected parts of ourself that arrive in this our final part. Here we grow able to distinguish light from shadow and water from mirage. Here we nurture our recovery of our primitive sides instead of expressing them self-destructively. Here we devote the best of ourselves to healing. Here we no longer traumatise others in the very patterns in which we were traumatised, but instead replicate the best of ourselves through contact with our child within – and generate beauty in the world around us. Here, having healed our wounds, we share freely of our gifts, because now our gifts are accessible to us and others.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />At The Stages we have a different philosophy for our life. We come to focus on the child within as a living entity.That why we call it the CHILD WITHIN not inner child which is a parental false selfs method of acknowledgement. We, so-called adults are not truly adults at all, and we have to examine this fact we have become a weird self constructed mess. We all get older. Anyone, with a little luck, can do that. But, speaking from a recovery viewpoint, this is not adulthood. True adulthood hinges on acknowledging, accepting, and taking responsibility for loving and re-focusing on our own child within us. For most of us, this never happens because we have long forgotten the language of our childhood. Instead, our child within has been denied, neglected, disparaged, abandoned or rejected. We are told by society to "grow up," putting childish things aside. To become adults, we've been taught that our child within represents our child-like capacity for innocence, wonder, awe, joy, sensitivity and playfulness and this message must be stifled, quarantined or even killed. Our child within is angry, very very angry, Pissed off, venge-filled and often hurt, wounded cowering in the shadows locked in a basement of our childhood experience. Our child within comprises and potentiates these qualities of our true recovery <br /><br /><br /><br /><br />We, our child within holds our accumulated childhood hurts, traumas, fears and angers. WE the "Grown-ups" are convinced we have successfully outgrown, jettisoned, and left this child within--and its emotional trauma--long behind. But this is far from our truth as we begin to find out as we work on The Ten Stages and start to uncover our real truths in our recovery. Do not expect your child within to be thankful that you have unlocked its prison after a lifetime of ignorance and abuse. Its like a mistreated dog it bites and it bites hard. That is why we have a studied course, not a self help group of dissociated children we are not a feel good society.We have to deal with the reality of long term personal abuse, yes we have learned the language of an abusive parental society that rules by its jails and institutions of dysfunction and at the stages we must replace that language of mis-information and abuse to be able to finally enter into a discourse with the child within and re-connect with our freed personality.<br /></span>Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

At the beginning of the stages’s healing journey we seek to map out our journey

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STOP them from controlling our lives. STOP them from driving the bus! Children are not supposed to drive, they are not supposed to be in control.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2gkdaRo1HGRsOsk5NfthrvT_6QlRyZbvbr84r87XOItTU6FLszW-xk-RxV7h9aPK1Y5KO_MLXfa5CLkC-DQgZ8VyvoocZfVHY7t4T9FUGmmC-iT58yNQ4k-IBduQGNikVxQFvBEOZefg/s1600/Child+within264.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2gkdaRo1HGRsOsk5NfthrvT_6QlRyZbvbr84r87XOItTU6FLszW-xk-RxV7h9aPK1Y5KO_MLXfa5CLkC-DQgZ8VyvoocZfVHY7t4T9FUGmmC-iT58yNQ4k-IBduQGNikVxQFvBEOZefg/s1600/Child+within264.jpeg" /></a></div> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;">The cry we hear from deep in our hearts, comes from the wounded child within. Healing this our child’s pain will transform our negative emotions.</span><br /> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"> <br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /></div> <div style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"> In each of us, there is a young, suffering child. We have all had times of difficulty as children and many of us have experienced trauma. To protect and defend ourselves against future suffering, we often try to forget those painful times. Every time we’re in touch with the experience of suffering, we believe we can’t bear it, and we stuff our feelings and memories deep down in our unconscious mind. It may be that we haven’t dared to face this child for many decades.<br /> <br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /> <br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /> But just because we may have ignored the child doesn't mean she or he isn't there. The wounded child is always there, trying to get our attention. The child says, “I'm here. I'm here. You can’t avoid me. You can’t run away from me.” We want to end our suffering by sending the child to a deep place inside, and staying as far away as possible. But running away doesn't end our suffering; it only prolongs it.<br /> <br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /> <br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /> It is through having the courage and willingness to revisit the emotional dark night of the soul that was our childhood, that we can start to understand on a gut level why we have lived our lives as we have.<br /> <br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /> It is when we start understanding the cause and effect relationship between what happened to the child that we were, and the effect it had on the adult we became, that we can Truly start to forgive ourselves. It is only when we start understanding on an emotional level, on a gut level, that we were powerless to do anything any differently than we did that we can Truly start to Love ourselves.<br /> <br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"> The hardest thing for any of us to do is to have compassion for ourselves. As children we felt responsible for the things that happened to us. We blamed ourselves for the things that were done to us and for the deprivations we suffered. There is nothing more powerful in this transformational process than being able to go back to that child who still exists within us and say, It wasn't your fault. You didn't do anything wrong, you were just a little kid.<br /> <br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /> "As long as we are judging and shaming ourselves we are giving power to the disease. We are feeding the monster that is devouring us.<br /> We need to take responsibility without taking the blame. We need to own and honour the feelings without being a victim of them.<br /> <br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /> <br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /> We need to rescue and nurture and Love our children within - and STOP them from controlling our lives. STOP them from driving the bus! Children are not supposed to drive, they are not supposed to be in control.<br /> <br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /> <br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /> And they are not supposed to be abused and abandoned. We have been doing it backwards. We abandoned and abused our children within. Locked them in a dark place within us. And at the same time let the children drive the bus - let the children's wounds dictate our lives.</div> <div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"> <br /></div> </div> <br /> <br /> <i>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.</i>

STOP them from controlling our lives. STOP them from driving the bus! Children are not supposed to drive, they are not supposed to be in control.

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We finally admit that we have a true self our child within that can heal and regain control over our lives

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgcMrnDcj_WCuROQa52rHp9OBDklQjolj99f4d1utVoWh240kAXRpt-midwhPHAnhl_yZLAwe1lbjEsh0Yqyz011VvPX9Bzd0fQmqHkg6oNRwKQVOQ6kNW0lsqzj2VkGmd2fw9_R4n1JAdX/s1600/black-light_00357974.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="125" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgcMrnDcj_WCuROQa52rHp9OBDklQjolj99f4d1utVoWh240kAXRpt-midwhPHAnhl_yZLAwe1lbjEsh0Yqyz011VvPX9Bzd0fQmqHkg6oNRwKQVOQ6kNW0lsqzj2VkGmd2fw9_R4n1JAdX/s200/black-light_00357974.png" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;">We finally admit that we have a true self our child within that can heal and regain control over our lives, and that this is the reason why we have become addicted and dysfunctional because of all of our unresolved childhood traumas! </span><div> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-size: large;">Our life as a result has become toxic so disturbed and dysfunctional that we resort to dissociation in alcohol,drugs, food, romance etc. . We grasp that the root of our problem is not alcohol, but all the trauma we experienced as children and have not yet acknowledge, and that’s why we come to the stages. </span></div> <div> <span style="font-size: large;">If we can cure the root causes of our addiction then everything will be start to be resolves and we will understand true recovery.</span></div> <div> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><i>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. </i></div>

We finally admit that we have a true self our child within that can heal and regain control over our lives

We finally admit that we have a true self our child within that can heal and regain control over our lives, and that this is the reason wh...

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We have to make contact with our child within.When we speak of listening with compassion, we usually think of listening to someone else. But we must also listen to the wounded child within inside us.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKD3rju1AFdA8SU6VirsY6e5S0_VXT_piWVMSbH3kesSP5Gm6AdBaIBuqJjWP-cALgrOaBhnCO8sbx93ZLsiTzuYl-m-DlEv1cQm1MRfqXm6ojKNH5Ih7yn59ofj4N1grT7YI5VZkNq9pS/s1600/hermimages23.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKD3rju1AFdA8SU6VirsY6e5S0_VXT_piWVMSbH3kesSP5Gm6AdBaIBuqJjWP-cALgrOaBhnCO8sbx93ZLsiTzuYl-m-DlEv1cQm1MRfqXm6ojKNH5Ih7yn59ofj4N1grT7YI5VZkNq9pS/s1600/hermimages23.jpeg" /></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /><br />We have to make contact with our child within.When we speak of listening with compassion, we usually think of listening to someone else. But we must also listen to the wounded child within inside us. Sometimes the wounded child within in us needs all our attention. That little child might emerge from the depths of your consciousness and ask for your attention. If you are compassionate and minded, you will hear his or her voice calling for help. At that moment, instead of paying attention to whatever is in front of you, go back and tenderly talk to the wounded child. You can talk directly to the child with the language of love, saying, “In the past, I left you alone. I went away from you. Now, I am very sorry. I am going to listen to you.” You can say, “ I am here for you. I will take good care of you. I know you suffer so much. I have been so busy. I have neglected you, and now I have learned a way to come back to you.” If necessary, you have to cry together with that child within. Whenever you need to, you can sit and breathe with the child. “Breathing in, I go back to my wounded child; breathing out, I take good care of my wounded child.”<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />You have to talk to your child several times a day. Only then can healing take place. Listening to your child tenderly, you reassure him that you will never let him down again or leave him unattended. The little child has been left alone for so long. That is why you need to begin this practice right away. If you don’t do it now, when will you do it?<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />If you know how to go back to her and listen carefully every day for five or ten minutes, healing will take place. When you climb a beautiful mountain, invite your child within to climb with you. When you contemplate the sunset, invite her to enjoy it with you. If you do that for a few weeks or a few months, the wounded child in you will experience healing.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />With practice, we can see that our wounded child is not only us. Our wounded child may represent several generations. Our mother may have suffered throughout her life. Our father may have suffered. Perhaps our parents weren’t able to look after the wounded child in themselves. So when we’re embracing the wounded child in us, we’re embracing all the wounded children of our past generations. This practice is not a practice for ourselves alone, but for numberless generations of ancestors and descendants.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Our ancestors may not have known how to care for their wounded child within, so they transmitted their wounded child to us. Our practice is to end this cycle. If we can heal our wounded child, we will not only liberate ourselves, but we will also help liberate whoever has hurt or abused us. The abuser may also have been the victim of abuse. There are people who have practiced with their inner child for a long time who have had a lessening of their suffering and have experienced transformation. Their relationships with their family and friends have become much easier.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />We suffer because we have not been touched by compassion and understanding. If we generate the energy of our intuitive voice, understanding, and compassion for our wounded child, we will suffer much less. When we generate compassion understanding become possible, and we can allow people to love us. Before, we may have been suspicious of everything and everyone. Compassion helps us relate to others and restore communication.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />The people around us, our family and friends, may also have a severely wounded child inside. If we’ve managed to help ourselves, we can also help them. When we’ve healed ourselves, our relationships with others become much easier. There’s more peace and more love in us.<br /><br /><br />Go back and take care of yourself. Your body needs you, your feelings need you, your perceptions need you. The wounded child in you needs you. Your suffering needs you to acknowledge it. Go home and be there for all these things. Practice walking and breathing. Do everything in meditation on your child within so you can really be there, so you can be restored to health.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.</span>

We have to make contact with our child within.When we speak of listening with compassion, we usually think of listening to someone else. But we must also listen to the wounded child within inside us.

We have to make contact with our child within.When we speak of listening with compassion, we usually think of listening to someone else. B...

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Messages we gain along the way, basically tell us that we are somehow not all right, not okay.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEirAZXhGxkYCi9Vz51opadiaHpHSjjybRGzg-fAHr1kALAR-ocd1Nr2gBrjhl4Lh4fzKOrZFZiUZfFdROutUVGRe6sgRUR8AExFSfGVTizEmgAc75-n9P2fnUTFPqcH_dWs1Dx_cNEi_3s/s1600/1-crack+mirror.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEirAZXhGxkYCi9Vz51opadiaHpHSjjybRGzg-fAHr1kALAR-ocd1Nr2gBrjhl4Lh4fzKOrZFZiUZfFdROutUVGRe6sgRUR8AExFSfGVTizEmgAc75-n9P2fnUTFPqcH_dWs1Dx_cNEi_3s/s1600/1-crack+mirror.jpg" /></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /><br />Our shame comes from what we do with the negative messages, negative affirmations, beliefs and rules that we hear as we grow up. We hear these from our parents, parent figures and other people in authority, such as teachers and clergy. These messages basically tell us that we are somehow not all right, not okay. That our feelings, our needs, our True Self, our Child Within is not acceptable.<br /></span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

Messages we gain along the way, basically tell us that we are somehow not all right, not okay.

Our shame comes from what we do with the negative messages, negative affirmations, beliefs and rules that we hear as we grow up. We hear t...

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Like any ‘Child Within’, We use whatever ‘verbal childhood spanners’ that come immediately to hand to understand the rage and anger that spews forth from our child within.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj3cdc9hWJb3KlvFmQmRf69VGxgj0wz1oKetcecaU5tocYLfH3gg2SXzRtUh7e_gtrQsgQBp8EZ_3HKS-LBkLbgsRQn3lXpPv2ztK-usvsutXD6XzjWxyweUNxpqaf_1c1CDB4Jxzde_SvX/s1600/110888-108744.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj3cdc9hWJb3KlvFmQmRf69VGxgj0wz1oKetcecaU5tocYLfH3gg2SXzRtUh7e_gtrQsgQBp8EZ_3HKS-LBkLbgsRQn3lXpPv2ztK-usvsutXD6XzjWxyweUNxpqaf_1c1CDB4Jxzde_SvX/s1600/110888-108744.jpg" /></a></div> <br /> <div class="post-footer" style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 15px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 1.6; margin: 30px 0px 0px; orphans: auto; padding: 0px; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 1; word-spacing: 0px;"> <div class="share-wrapper" style="box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px 0px 30px; padding: 0px;"> </div> </div> <br /> Our addictive/dysfunctional behaviour in the past has mystified us – except that everyone, INCLUDING US, can agree two simple facts. FIRSTLY, there’s no addiction without ‘thought disorder’, broken sentences, blocked phrases. <br /><br /><br />If you don’t know this, then you fail at the first hurdle, and rightly so. SECONDLY, childhoods matter. <br /><br /><br />OK so far? Problems thinking and problematic childhoods – can you suspend disbelief for a moment and blend these two long established facts, despite what you’ve been taught all your life as the corner stone of a new recovery?<br /><br /><br />Richard, a pseudonym, is now 49. Even so, he shows that he believes he is still “being hit” today, because, apparently, <br />his father hit him so hard at age 2. <br />He doesn’t want to believe this, any more than you do. <br /><br /><br />We have listened carefully to him as he stumbles over the word ‘hit’, how he argues against the idea that he is currently stronger than his dad, even though the latter is now 74, and that even thinking he is stronger is ‘prohibited’ to him, by him. <br /><br /><br />Whether he was actually hit or not, I don’t know, and I’m not interested – what matters is that he still thinks he is being hit today – and he isn’t, that is something I do know. The key is that he begins to feel ‘relief’ once today’s reality percolates through the cognitive mire. <br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Are our thought processes really those of a very young child that has high jacked our emotional life? Is this what addiction is all about – our gummed up thought processes, because we the sufferer ‘thinks’ the trauma is still ‘alive’ in our heads? If the child within is provide with adequate trustworthy emotional support, could you persuade our child within that, since our trauma is dead, it’s over? If we did, would we be cured? We know childhood traumas ceased long ago – a fact we simply don’t believe – what would happen if we gently catch up with reality? We then keep desperately pressing for more, because we come to know think that our thought processes will clear and we will accomplish emotional growth into maturity.<br /><br /><br />Our journey towards recovery is simple. <br /><br /><br />Firstly we have to acknowledge that buried inside us is our true perfect being which we christen The Child Within. The Child Within is frozen in time locked away in the basement of the mind it had to survive so it learnt to cope with erratic parenting. Dad shouts, mum dies, or vice versa – the actual event is not material, the context is all. Our Child Within had no physical defence, so we had to devise a mental one – “this isn’t happening to me”. Our Child Within is caught on the hop, and gets stuck within this potent coping strategy. We can be unstuck, but only when we can be persuaded that our thinking is safe again – simple, but not easy. We also make another decision .Long ago, decades ago, IN EARLY CHILDHOOD We have made the decision that life was not worth living – it was something to ‘get through’ as smoothly and mindlessly as possible until we could die. The rule had been to imperceptibly stay as non-present as possible, while going about the business of doing what we had to do to ‘survive’, to pass as a human being to fit in. That was a rule we learned deep, deep down and stored with our child within. To seek a solution is to study the Ten Stages and then and only then will your solution become apparent. Our Childhood survival strategies get prolonged into adulthood, ‘Child Within Messages’ – it doesn’t work, it can be shown not to work, and with enough trustworthy emotional support, intuitive thinking can be restored. <br /><br /><br />Like any ‘Child Within’, We use whatever ‘verbal childhood spanners’ that come immediately to hand to understand the rage and anger that spews forth from our child within. We may find these responses brusque, challenging and angry – but such is the trust between our guides of us that they take it on the chin, and agree to be helped by it. Could this be evidence of efficacy? We believe it is, do you?<div class="post-body entry-content" id="post-body-2728428193065028479" style="box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; width: 708px; word-wrap: break-word;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a so</span><span style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: transparent; color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 15px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 21px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; word-spacing: 0px;">urce of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.</span></div>

Like any ‘Child Within’, We use whatever ‘verbal childhood spanners’ that come immediately to hand to understand the rage and anger that spews forth from our child within.

Our addictive/dysfunctional behaviour in the past has mystified us – except that everyone, INCLUDING US, can agree two simple facts....

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Your reaction is yours to share, and the origin of it, the details of it, are kept confidential.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_bNV2dhPrz2MduQxgmNVeoBTBMdwVQXbdiKmc1Ou-SBpajrLEGE5cP9MmJ5A7-gNOFocnBgwEwZiVAufxr1n3dj4zMprzEitneF3P4Xh_AzZHTzjQBDHy6jBTSxCkwLHxcbcJU0muGFew/s1600/1-Red+XP+tenstages.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="176" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_bNV2dhPrz2MduQxgmNVeoBTBMdwVQXbdiKmc1Ou-SBpajrLEGE5cP9MmJ5A7-gNOFocnBgwEwZiVAufxr1n3dj4zMprzEitneF3P4Xh_AzZHTzjQBDHy6jBTSxCkwLHxcbcJU0muGFew/s320/1-Red+XP+tenstages.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;">To maintain confidence, while still being able to share we who are attending courses have be taught that when talking about the group to others <b><i>you leave all the identifying material about the other member out of the conversation, and you say what became activated for you as a course member .</i></b> Your reaction is yours to share, and the origin of it, the details of it, are kept confidential. Because many of us come from dysfunctional backgrounds our sole means of gaining self worth was to dissociate into gossiping about others often we re-seek out inappropriate people to share our and others private confidential inner course work to falsely inflate our low self-worth this is damaging to us and others in that all trust is once more lost.</span><br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

Your reaction is yours to share, and the origin of it, the details of it, are kept confidential.

To maintain confidence, while still being able to share we who are attending courses have be taught that when talking about the group to o...

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Until one acknowledges the child within yourself, you will have great difficulty recognising it in others.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJSnk7n3rbT38rRWlHf_fPF2L8546y2B8-uvQFFcW_IZ8MsE3NDV5QY9nbDS5pIu-3J6Qb_kR01Xpnbz97t3MQB_D13OtcZvlRGK7YAPkeY_e9V6evNdsBdVe9ST5yowoKkfVn_ywCYbzC/s1600/1-Red+XP+tenstages.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="176" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJSnk7n3rbT38rRWlHf_fPF2L8546y2B8-uvQFFcW_IZ8MsE3NDV5QY9nbDS5pIu-3J6Qb_kR01Xpnbz97t3MQB_D13OtcZvlRGK7YAPkeY_e9V6evNdsBdVe9ST5yowoKkfVn_ywCYbzC/s320/1-Red+XP+tenstages.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;">All of our children within, and yours as well  have unparalleled and unique characteristics in many of the ways they express themselves. From the way that they dress, to the little tattoo, to their signature, to their mannerisms, to their unmatched personality quirks, you can appreciate their uniqueness. Notice and appreciate your uniqueness, too. When you’re just like everybody else, you’ve nothing to offer other than your conformity.<br /><br />Take the road of seeing the face of the child within in everyone you encounter. Look for something to appreciate in others, and be willing to communicate it to them. When you see this quality in others, you’ll soon begin to realise that this potential is available to all of us. This obviously includes you. Recognising the child within in yourself is an integral part of the dynamic. Until one acknowledges the child within yourself, you will have great difficulty recognising it in others.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

Until one acknowledges the child within yourself, you will have great difficulty recognising it in others.

All of our children within, and yours as well  have unparalleled and unique characteristics in many of the ways they express themselves. F...

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By seeing and celebrating another’s child within, you open a channel within yourself for receiving creative energy from your child.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTRohqfT4QUpVABPuLT7H2Ey29rA_17piJIB4ik3GfXH4igl3kiNufHdy98Msn9DH2aKf1oV0t1yn355zapTSUv7LJYHUSdE6yQee54WZ92DvTdkUkobqIt2LgwabmaQxAJlPIoWVrLcFL/s1600/1-Red+XP+tenstages.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="176" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTRohqfT4QUpVABPuLT7H2Ey29rA_17piJIB4ik3GfXH4igl3kiNufHdy98Msn9DH2aKf1oV0t1yn355zapTSUv7LJYHUSdE6yQee54WZ92DvTdkUkobqIt2LgwabmaQxAJlPIoWVrLcFL/s320/1-Red+XP+tenstages.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;"><br />We have within us the same essence of consciousness our child within, and that the process of creativity and serenity are attributes of our child within. Therefore, serenity is a potential that lives within us . Many of never get acquainted with this inner world of our child within. We’d like you to consider what may seem like a radical idea: Others child within can show up in as many ways as there are people.<br /><br />With this idea in mind, remember that every person you interact with should feel the inner glow of contact with their child within that comes from being appreciated, particularly for the ways in which they express their creativity. Appreciating the child within in others attracts high levels of recovery energy to you. By seeing and celebrating another’s child within, you open a channel within yourself for receiving creative energy from your child.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

By seeing and celebrating another’s child within, you open a channel within yourself for receiving creative energy from your child.

We have within us the same essence of consciousness our child within, and that the process of creativity and serenity are attributes of ou...

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