We live in a society where the emotional experience of "love" is conditional on behaviour.

We live in a society where the emotional experience of "love" is conditional on behaviour. Where fear, guilt, and shame have been used to try to control our child's withins behaviour because parents believe that their children's behaviour reflects their self-worth.

In other words, if Johnny is a well-behaved, "good boy," then his parents are good people. If Johnny acts out, and misbehaves, then there is something wrong with his parents. ("He doesn't come from a good family.")

What the Stages shows is that it is actually the good child - the family hero role -who is the most emotionally dishonest and out of touch with him/herself, while the acting-out child - the scapegoat - the child within is the most emotionally honest child in our dysfunctional families

The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

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