The Stages is difficult to grasp at first.

The Stages is difficult to grasp at first. Everyone faces a period of disbelief which is acknowledged faced discussed in the facing of the full reality of recovery at the stages.It leads people to feel very angry, resentful, rage filled. This is so unfair! I already know this. I have dealt with this, you don't know how difficult my life is. Do you know how long I have been in recovery for....

What do we do when we keep bumping our heads against the seeming invincibility of dissociation? This is the time when we unrealistically bargain with life, we attempt one last attempt at manipulation – I’ll give you this, and you’ll give me what I want. There’s nothing wrong about bargaining – when it is based on offering the other party something they might really be interested in. It is not very realistic to try to bargain with dissociation  forces, illness, addiction or just plain reality.

Guilt is a way of making sense of what is happening, of regaining some form of control over the uncontrollable: It must be my fault.

Once the reality of recovery sets in, the student feel overwhelmed, they become depressed. All resistance is futile.

Anger, unrealistic bargaining, depression… this is our struggle against “real” problems in the outside world, but also against our own child within.

 Eventually we reach a stage where we become fully aware of impending destruction, and neither angry nor depressed about it. We have to accept our solution at the stages. We have to become introduced to our child within



The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.