The Recovered Stagers forgive spontaneously and without effort because we have fully embraced their damaged parts and grieved every honest ounce of our past misery.

Another look at our dissociation (being split-off from one’s deepest truth) mimics recovery – but it isn’t recovery. We who are dissociated live in great peace. But this is only because we have blocked out our negative feelings. The truly recovered stager resolve our negatives feelings, and thus our peace is not false recovery.

WE who are dissociated do not suffer. But this is only because WE have abandoned our healing process and numbed our pain. True Recovery grows from the fertilised soil of our suffering.
We who are dissociated call ourselves secretly recovered. But this is only because we have they have no conception of what recovery is. Stagers Recovery is the polar opposite of dissociation.

WE who are dissociated are not easily emotionally ruffled. But this is only because our lies a thick wall buffering our hidden, vulnerable self from the sharp and often honest edges of the world. The Recovered Stagers are much less protected, but have such a deep core of self-love that they can defend themselves gently.

WE who are dissociated feel we have mastered forgiveness. But this is only because we completely deny the harm done to us– and the damage remaining. The Recovered Stagers forgive spontaneously and without effort because we have fully embraced their damaged parts and grieved every honest ounce of our past misery.

WE who are dissociated are extremely self-confident. But this is only because our self-deceptive armour is impenetrable to self-reflection. The self-confidence of recovery stagers is fed by the universal spring of life.

We who are dissociated gravitate naturally toward leadership roles. But this is only because we are experts at leading ourselves away from our heart’s true course. The Recovered Stager leads right to the heart of the matter.

WE who are dissociated have gone through hell to get to where we’re at. But we fail to realise that we’re still stuck right in hell. Stagers Recovery is the freedom of emotional integration.

We who are dissociated feel we have found our true self. But this is only because we equate our true self with no self at all – or at best a false self or ego based on a distorted sense of consciousness. Stagers Recovery is the true self linked with the conscious mind.

We who are dissociated consider ourselves paragons of spirituality. But this is only because our spirits are so buried behind walls of denial that we have no conception of what spirit is. Stagers Recovery is the passionate spirit of the child held by the consciousness of the adult.

We who are dissociated are quite motivated, sophisticated, and convincing. But this is only because we perennially risk returning to suffering if we do not convince everyone of our lie. Recovery brings a motivation to spread the truth that is everyone’s birthright.

We who are dissociated act decisively. But this is only because we cannot see or question our unconscious motivation. The recovery stagers are also decisive, but only because they have no unconscious, because in our healing process it, like a now-useless appendage, has dissolved.

Dissociation is contrary to recovery.

 Behind dissociation lies unresolved trauma, and only once trauma is resolved can the light of consciousness enter the core of our being.

The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.