BOOM – nice child within is GONE and triggered child within shows up.

Our Triggers happen.

They do.

There’s nothing we can do to stop them – because it is through our triggers that we can learn about ourselves.

We still get triggered.

Someone says something. Someone does something. Something happens.

BOOM – nice child within is GONE and triggered child within shows up.

It’s inevitable.

We’ve come to believe that the journey is really about seeking the peace within the chaos – the Truth within the trigger.


Life is not about NOT being triggered. Life is about bringing knowledge and AWARENESS to our triggers and moments when our emotions come up from our turbulent past.


You see, a lot of us make the mistake of shooting for a “spiritual bypass” – where they try to deny their humanness, they try to deny their emotions, they try to put their negativity and triggers in a box and then pretend they don’t exist.


And then – over time – they stack up – and BOOM – we have a breakdown, an emotional explosion or other expression.

Having these moments doesn’t mean something is wrong with us. It means we are human.

Here at The Stages, we advocate full acceptance and expression of our child within.

This lets us be fully alive. From there, we also believe in tapping into the higher awareness that is our child's withins domain, that is the observer of the adult mind and emotions.

We are part child, part adult. To deny either is to deny who you are.

We can’t just sit around and justify our negativity as “being child-like.” And we also can’t not express ourselves because we are “adult.” We need both. We are both.



This is the beautiful balance that we get to walk as a child within having the human experience.



We have found that when we let ourself express, when we allow ourself to be who we are – without any judgment – amazing things start to happen.



And once we express ourself – without judgment – we do our best to bring our awareness, my child withins perspective into the moment.



Our aim is to have our child withins awareness be there as we are being triggered, so that we catch ourself faster.



We all have triggers. We all have intense emotions, both dark and light. These are not good or bad – they are just information.



We must allow ourselves to express ourselves; we must allow ourselves to be FULLY adult and FULLY child.



This dance is the dance that allows the greatest version of our life to be lived.



How can you allow yourself to be both adult and child?

Related articles

• We can become emotionally traumatised in early childhood
• We learn to recognise our child within, the function of loving-kindness is to soothe and relieve our difficult emotions.
• At the Stages we acknowledge that to be present also means to ground ourself and not dissociate
• At the stages we need to acknowledge that for us it has become common to try to force ourselves to feel and act more mature than we actually are.
• Especially at first as we engage with The Stages, we become more aware of our rampant thoughts and violent emotional swings.
• For victims of trauma, experts say, dissociation is often lifesaving.