As we recognise that we used to jump from lover to lover

As we recognise that we used to jump from lover to lover, from one failed romantic obsession to the next, to begin to become aware of our destructive patterns and begin to see that we ourselves are the common denominator. We also play out the dynamics of parental rescue fantasy and revenge, and at times in even uglier ways than do our less evolved counterparts, because we are freer to explore alternative paths of living. But in our freedom we also have the chance to wake up and learn about our patterns. If we are fortunate we will be begin to see the correlation between the heartbreak we feel in the unrequited love of the present and the heartbreak we experienced in the past as children with our first loves: our mother and father. In this way we will begin to become aware of what we are doing, and through this we can mature—and to work toward facing the whole of our historical traumas.


The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.