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What happens to the child within when the home itself becomes the unsafe?

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What happens to the child within when the home itself becomes the unsafe? Children cannot flee, where would they go? They cannot fight, t...

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<span style="font-size: large;">What happens to the child within when the home itself becomes the  unsafe? Children cannot flee, where would they go? They cannot fight, they’d lose. So they do what they can, they freeze, they flee on the inside through shutting down or dissociating. Because our thinking freezes up when we’re scared, we tend to make sense of terrifying circumstances after the fact if at all. As children, we need some sane and caring grown up to help us understand what frightened us so that we can put it into some sort of normalizing framework for ourselves. But in homes where the parents themselves are the ones causing the stress, this normalizing all too often doesn’t take place. And if it’s the parent causing the stress, children lose access to the very person they would normally go to for comfort. So this becomes a double whammy for the child; not only are they feeling helpless and afraid, but the person they would normally go to for comfort and understanding is the one causing the stress to begin with. They are left to try to comfort themselves and make sense of the situation on their own.<br /><br />All too often, the sense they make is laced with the magical thinking and natural egocentricity of the child, e.g., “I must be bad to upset my parent like this, after all they are telling me I am the one upsetting them, it must be all my fault. I need to change something that is terribly wrong with me, but no one is telling me what that is, so I will watch very carefully and try to behave in a way that doesn’t make them so angry.” This is codependency in the making as the child becomes increasingly hypervigilant, trying to divine the parent’s mood from their gait, the look on their face, the sound of their voice or the smell of their breath. Over time, when the child cannot seem to get it right in this home where rules and routines may change according to mood and alcohol or drug use, the child’s “trauma reasoning” may go something like this, “I just can’t get it right so I might just as well give up.”</span><br />
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<i><b>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. </b></i><br />
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What happens to the child within when the home itself becomes the unsafe?

What happens to the child within when the home itself becomes the unsafe? Children cannot flee, where would they go? They cannot fight, t...

We re-learn the art of making contact with ourselves to tell the story of our child withins life.

Fraser Trevor

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Title: We re-learn the art of making contact with ourselves to tell the story of our child withins life.
Author: Fraser Trevor
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We re-learn the art of making contact with ourselves to tell the story of our child withins life. We need to feel the story of our childho...

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<span style="font-size: large;">We re-learn the art of making contact with ourselves to tell the story of our child withins life. We need to feel the story of our childhood life in order to heal it. Trauma shuts feeling down, stages recovery wakes feeling up. That’s why we need our solid recovery supports in place healthy forms of self-soothing within the ten stages. Whether we’re talking about recovery or trauma or a combination of both, we need the strength of strong stages healing network, that’s available in order to help us to learn to hold and manage the intense emotions that child within recovery will naturally re-stimulate without acting out or self-medicating into dissociation.<br /></span><br />
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We re-learn the art of making contact with ourselves to tell the story of our child withins life.

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Over time, greater amounts of the drug or acting out behaviours are needed to reach the same numbing out for our child within.

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Title: Over time, greater amounts of the drug or acting out behaviours are needed to reach the same numbing out for our child within.
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<span style="font-size: large;">Over time, greater amounts of the drug or acting out behaviours are needed to reach the same numbing out for our child within. Thus our addictions takes hold, the child within become worse not better and lives become unmanageable for all concerned. In this manner we may develop insidious multiple addictions. Gruesome twosomes like food and alcohol or sex and drugs or gambling and alcohol, are all potent combinations that make it difficult to recognise what the primary addiction or issue is, or exactly how to treat it. After all, we have to eat, right? However, there are ways of eating that trigger spikes in blood sugar levels that in turn trigger cravings. And because drinking also affects blood sugar and lowers inhibitions, gorging on sugary and fatty foods becomes easier and more mindless. Though we may not appear to be eating or drinking to unmanageable excess, we are able to manipulate our own body chemistry and maintain addictive levels of feel-good body chemicals by a combination of drinking alcohol and using food to get a dopamine high. This manipulation of our own body chemicals can also be achieved through maintaining adrenaline highs. Adrenaline can be as addictive to the brain as heroin, activities like constant rushing, overworking, high-risk behaviours or frenetic exercise can all create spikes in adrenaline. In all of these cases, behaviour can come to mirror  that of an addict and thinking, feeling, and behaviour become unmanageable.</span><br />
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Over time, greater amounts of the drug or acting out behaviours are needed to reach the same numbing out for our child within.

Over time, greater amounts of the drug or acting out behaviours are needed to reach the same numbing out for our child within. Thus our ad...

Drugs and alcohol, for the child within, can provide a method to quiet the mind and the body that we can have control over; a sort of self-administered medication.

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Title: Drugs and alcohol, for the child within, can provide a method to quiet the mind and the body that we can have control over; a sort of self-administered medication.
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Drugs and alcohol, for the child within, can provide a method to quiet the mind and the body that we can have control over; a sort of self...

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<span style="font-size: large;">Drugs and alcohol, for the child within, can provide a method to quiet the mind and the body that we can have control over; a sort of self-administered medication. Certain behaviors, particularly those that trigger a rise in dopamine levels in the brain, like eating (particularly sugar, white flour, and fatty foods) or sexual acting out, can have a similar “soothing” (but addictive) effect. The more these substances or behaviors are used to quiet and calm unwanted feelings and sensations, the more dependent we become on them and the more convinced we become that we cannot calm down or feel OK without them.</span><br />
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.<br />
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Drugs and alcohol, for the child within, can provide a method to quiet the mind and the body that we can have control over; a sort of self-administered medication.

Drugs and alcohol, for the child within, can provide a method to quiet the mind and the body that we can have control over; a sort of self...

Fear or intense emotions can set in motion heart-pounding, queasi- ness, sweating, tightness of muscles, or shortness of breath.

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Title: Fear or intense emotions can set in motion heart-pounding, queasi- ness, sweating, tightness of muscles, or shortness of breath.
Author: Fraser Trevor
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Fear or intense emotions can set in motion heart-pounding, queasi- ness, sweating, tightness of muscles, or shortness of breath. This rise...

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<span style="font-size: large;">Fear or intense emotions can set in motion heart-pounding, queasi- ness, sweating, tightness of muscles, or shortness of breath. This rise in disturbing body sensations can trigger disturbing emotions and trauma imagery that is stored by our child within, scenes from past situations where we felt helpless or scared can race through our minds as flashbacks or even nightmares. This becomes a vicious circle in which the body and mind play off of each other, causing a negative synergy in which the disturbing emotions and imagery trigger disturbing body sensations and vice versa. This can drop trauma survivors into a confusing “black hole” that they can have trouble finding their way out of and can contribute to feeling scared, helpless and disempowered all over again.</span><br />
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Fear or intense emotions can set in motion heart-pounding, queasi- ness, sweating, tightness of muscles, or shortness of breath.

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When we cannot balance our child withins emotions ourselves, we may look to a substance to do that for us, like drugs or alcohol.

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<span style="font-size: large;">When we cannot balance our child withins emotions ourselves, we may look to a substance to do that for us, like drugs or alcohol. Or we may use food, sex, or a compulsive form of bonding to create a temporary or false sense of “safety” and “balance.” Needless to say this is a slippery slope that can lead to self medication.</span><br />
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When we cannot balance our child withins emotions ourselves, we may look to a substance to do that for us, like drugs or alcohol.

When we cannot balance our child withins emotions ourselves, we may look to a substance to do that for us, like drugs or alcohol. Or we ma...

Our child withins emotional memories so often get triggered into consciousness by an old familiar smell, sound, sight, taste, gesture, or sensation.

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Our child withins emotional memories so often get triggered into consciousness by an old familiar smell, sound, sight, taste, gesture, or ...

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<span style="font-size: large;">Our child withins emotional memories so often get triggered into consciousness by an old familiar smell, sound, sight, taste, gesture, or sensation. The sensory cue, whether it be the smell of a pipe or cookies baking, an old song, a soft summer breeze, or facial expression triggers a flood of emotions in us. Those “sense memories” accompanied by the emotions double coded with them, can either wrap us in a wonderful reverie of recollections or send us straight through the ceiling, depending upon the emotional content of the situation we are recalling. They can make us want to fight, run out of the room, or cuddle close and be cozy and affectionate.<br /></span>The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">But because our child within demands an explanation, we all too often look for the one nearest at hand, “my husband / wife is really awful,” or “if only my kid were better behaved I wouldn’t be so upset.” We really think that the only thing that is affecting us is what we can see right in front of us. We may remain totally out of touch with what from our own past may be informing the intensity of our emotional reactions. In other words, we don’t know that we don’t know. We project yesterday’s child withins pain, anger, and confusion onto today’s relationships without knowing why, and over time this becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, we actually recreate the fear and pain that we experienced as children in our adult interactions. To complicate matters further, we may see the solution to our problems as continually changing the situation we’re in rather than examining what, inside of us, might be contributing to recreating our painful childhood relationship.<br /><br />“If only I had a better house, spouse, or boss I wouldn’t feel so helpless, angry and alone. I better change them so I can feel less lonely and stressed.” But more often than not, the real change that needs to happen is by understanding and contacting our child within.</span><span style="font-size: large;">We understand that we were not the cause of the problem after all, that our shame and guilt over having been a bad and blamed child was perhaps misplaced, that it was simply our child withins attempt at making sense of a scary situation. <i>We may also see that our parents were fallible people after all, not bad but perhaps stressed, immature and without resources themselves; that they were in above their heads.</i></span></div>
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