Avoid constantly using parental words like no, don't, stop, quit, and can't. And don't overgeneralise by using words like always, anything, nobody, everyone, and never. Using these negative words builds poor self-esteem by emphasising that something is wrong with ourselves and our child within. The Child Within who hear these words too much tend to ignore them and return to the cellar.
Be patient. Scolding, yelling, and hostility show a lack of faith, make training our child within unpleasant, and may provoke rebellion. Show faith by making our reminders, requests, and commands politely, using the word please. State our reminders, requests, and commands positively rather than negatively. Talk about what you want, rather than what you don't like or won't tolerate. "There's no reason to become upset. Do you remember what patience and awareness is?"
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