The problem is not to avoid pain of childhood trauma and constantly revisit it or to deny what happened to us

The problem is not to avoid pain of childhood trauma and constantly revisit it or to deny what happened to us; the goal is to learn that we have the power within us to connect with our child within and that starts by not letting an event define us. But to fearlessly look within to the child. So when they do, give them an empowering meaning instead of choosing to relive them over and over. Don't make the trauma that we felt become our identity.