The most painful deep seated education within the stages is to deal with dissociation

The most painful deep seated education within the ten stages is to deal with our dissociations.This will cause us considerable amounts of pain and suffering. So what is Dissociation (being split-off from one’s deepest truth) mimics recovery– but it isn’t recovery. We who are dissociated live in great peace. But this is only because we have blocked our negative feelings. As a recovered we resolves our negatives feelings, and thus our peace is not false. Emotional detachment, in recovery, can mean two different things. In the first meaning, it refers to an "inability to connect" with others emotionally, as well as a means of dealing with anxiety by preventing certain situations that trigger it; it is often described as "emotional numbing" or dissociation, depersonalisation or in its chronic form depersonalisation disorder. In the second sense, it is a decision to avoid engaging emotional connections, rather than an inability or difficulty in doing so, typically for personal, social, or other reasons. In this sense it can allow us to maintain boundaries, psychic integrity and avoid undesired impact by or upon others, related to emotional demands.

We who are dissociated do not suffer. But this is only because we have abandoned our healing process and numbed our pain. Enlightenment grows from the fertilised soil of suffering.

we who are dissociated call ourselves recovered. But this is only because we have  no conception of what recovery is. Recovery is the polar opposite of dissociation.

WE who are dissociated are not easily emotionally ruffled. But this is only because there lies a thick wall buffering our hidden, vulnerable self from the sharp and often honest edges of the world. We who have scaled the rocky walls of dissociation become the recovered. we are much less protected, but have such a deep core of self-love that we can defend ourselves with the pristine armour of gentlness.

We who are the still dissociated feel we have mastered forgiveness. But this is only because we completely deny the harm done to ourselves – and the deep damage remaining. We the enlightened forgive spontaneously and without effort because we have fully embraced our dissociated parts and grieved every honest ounce of our childhood misery.

We who are still dissociated are extremely self-confident. But this is only because our self-deceptive armour is impenetrable to self-reflection. The self-confidence of recovered enlightenment is fed by the universal spring of life.

We who are dissociated gravitate naturally toward leadership roles. But this is only because we are experts at leading ourselves away from our childhood heart’s true course. We who have become recovered enlightened  leads right to the heart of the matter.

We who are dissociated have gone through hell to get to where we’re at. But we still fail to realise that we’re still stuck right in hell. Recovered Enlightenment is the freedom of emotional integration.

We who are still dissociated feel we have found their true self. But this is only because we equate our true self with no self at all – or at best a false self or ego based on a distorted sense of consciousness. Recovery is the true child within linked with our conscious mind.

We who are dissociated consider ourselves paragons of spirituality. But this is only because our spirits are so buried behind walls of denial that we have no conception of what spirit is. Recovery is the passionate spirit of the child held by the consciousness of the adult.

We who are dissociated are quite motivated, sophisticated, and convincing. But this is only because we perennially risk returning to suffering if we do not convince everyone of our lies. Recovery brings a motivation to spread the truth that is everyone’s birthright.

We who are dissociated act decisively. But this is only because we cannot see or question our unconscious motivation. We The enlightened is also decisive, but only because we have no unconscious, because in our healing process it, like a now-useless appendage, has dissolved.

Dissociation is contrary to Recovery.Behind dissociation lies unresolved trauma, and only once trauma is resolved can the light of consciousness enter the core of our being.

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