At the Stages we acknowledge that the most important part of our life, and the only part of life that we can truly control, is our perception. We may have influence over other parts of our life, but the only thing we have 100% control over is how we choose to perceive the events of our lives.
The Stages does not blame but seeks to come to terms with our history.
One of the messages of the stages is that we are not a victims, but a creator of your life .
It’s easy to play the victim, and a lot of people out there will try to convince you that it’s easier to blame other people for the circumstances of your life. One of the reasons it’s easy to be a victim is because you give away the response-ability of the outcome and circumstances of our life to some other person or entity.
As a victim, we tell ourselves that it’s not our fault; it’s the government’s fault, or our significant other's fault, or our friend’s fault or our parents’ fault. If you really get creative you can imagine a whole range of people to blame for your life.
But the truth is that you are the one making the choices in your life. YOU have the free will and ability to choose to connect to Loving-Kindness, or not.
For a long time it was easy to blame people for the outcome. When things didn't go the way we WANTED them to we would just make it someone else’s fault.
We began to see that the way we can thrive is by making our child within stronger than the outer world.
How could you possibly let yourself be a victim knowing all these things?
If we really study that these lessons are REAL and TRUE and WORK, then, you will feel called to turn your mess into a message.
Add value to other people’s lives and value will be added to your own.Being of service and taking the wounds of your life and turning them into lessons and sharing your experience with others will do more good to you and the planet than almost anything else.
To be human is to be messy, to screw up and to not get it right - that just comes with the territory. But it’s not right thought or action to assume the role of the victim. It may seem safer and it may even seem true. But what’s true is that you can take the wounds, messes and tragedies of your life and use them for good.
We can take your power back from people, groups and anything else that says your child within is powerless. We are POWERFUL, but we have to choose to be in our power and to step up to do the studies in the stages.
Keep your thoughts on compassion. Take and assume response-ability for your life. Things may have happened in your past that you have no control over. But what you DO have control over is how you respond to those events. Do you want to let those events get the best of you, or do you want to rise to the occasion, pick yourself up by the bootstraps and say, “I got this!”
You may not have been able to control what happened in the past, but you have 100% control over what you CHOOSE to believe and, as a result, where you go from here.
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