We who are not fully conscious

We who are not fully conscious – that is, parents in denial of any degree of our own buried, unresolved traumas – inevitably traumatise our children without even realising they are doing it, and thus we can take no responsibility for it. Even in the mildest cases this is emotionally devastating for children, but because so few witness what is really going on and thus call it by its rightful name it goes unacknowledged, and thus is considered normal.