We believe that our trauma always denotes the rejection of a part of the self that seeks self-expression.

We  believe that our trauma always denotes the rejection of a part of the self that seeks self-expression. The self wants to expand, express. Love wants to expand, express. And all the qualities of love – fear, anger, grief, envy – want to expand, express. A healthy system self-expresses. When self-expression is blocked, life energy is not allowed to flow. Broken parents teach the child to block the very same things that are blocked in the parent. By way of verbal and nonverbal judgments. The child is taught to fear like the parent fears. The child then becomes safe, because it no longer presents flow to a block in the parent. We who have to describe ourselves as dissociated will always shy away from flow when it itself is blocked in that area. Flow is uncomfortable. Flow seeks to reach out and touch the trauma. We run away from flow. It’s not safe. We’ve been running away from flow as long as I can remember. The Stages reinstates flow we start a fluid recovery guided threw our swift flowing rapids into the smooth flow of tranquil recovery.