Fellowships replace the depression of the alcoholic/addict with the grandiosity and dissociation of so-called recovery.

Avoiding the deepest levels of pain is part of fellowship mentality. They replace the depression of the alcoholic/addict with the grandiosity and dissociation of so-called recovery. This is a spiritual step backwards . Some fellowships believes that full spirituality is attainable by simply admitting the damage you’ve done to others and making amends. This is untrue. Admitting your past wrongs does lessen the cycle of guilt and shame, but does not resolve your own traumas – the damage done to you by your parents. Traumas must be addressed and fully grieved and mourned for deeper healing to take place.
Any program, that thinks you can heal without fully exhuming, grieving, and ultimately healing your traumas is siding with your abusive parents and perpetuating the addictive cycle of self-delusion.