At the Stages we do not play the game of letting parents off the hook, and that terrifies the norm. It terrifies many parents themselves

At the Stages we do not play the game of letting parents off the hook, and that terrifies the norm. It terrifies many parents themselves, because they are desperate to avoid looking at the damage they’ve done to their children. It also terrifies those who want to defend their abusive parents, because you can’t read and absorb without looking seriously at the negative sides of your own parents.The other day a student asked as the full enormity bid into the psyche.What happens when you stop.......

This begs the question of why we want to defend their parents. On the surface they might say, “I defend my parents because I love them, don’t want to view them negatively, and don’t want to hurt them.” But the real reason is that they themselves want to avoid the pain of opening old wounds, and the pain of grieving these wounds. Applying the Stages to one’s own life opens the door to a torrent of pain—the pain necessary for healing. We are simply pain-avoidant, at all costs hence it is better to think we have a disease or are mentally unwell with various avoidant labels.. Whole therapies and psychological theories (and of course psychiatric medications) are devoted to avoiding and bypassing the very pain, the necessary and healthy pain, that the Stages leads us right into. As such, they dismiss The Ten Stages preferring constant ill-health and accepting death as the correct punishment for a crime they never commited